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11 "unanswerable" questions for atheists - answered (Aron Ra)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Tom Sarbeck Jun 6. 1 Reply

If you spend any time around YouTube and have any history of looking at atheist material (or even theist material!), you will inevitably run into: "XX Questions Atheists Can't Answer."  These are occasionally followed by: "XX Questions Atheists…Continue

Tags: apologist, answer, questions, unanswerable, Aron Ra

worshipping narcissists (qualiasoup & theramintrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Idaho Spud Jun 3. 1 Reply

They're all around us: people who perceive the world as revolving around them and will go to considerable lengths to make it so: narcissists.  Such beings have been with humanity, I suspect, since humanity emerged from the gene pool.  Even worse,…Continue

Tags: narcissist, QualiaSoup, TheraminTrees

Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by Grinning Cat May 2. 42 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

Tags: singing, lyrics, reclaimed, reclaiming, HumanLight

appropriating morality (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo May 1. 7 Replies

We've all heard the claim: "Human morality comes from god."  And we've all seen for ourselves what Yahweh's "morality" looks like, from condemnations of homosexuality and the treatment of women as chattel to inexplicable sanctions against the eating…Continue

Tags: morality, appropriating, TheraminTrees

Bible Belt Atheist (New York Times)

Started by Loren Miller Apr 19. 0 Replies

The following showed up in my YouTube feed this morning, and I decided to have a look.  Turns out, the New York Times has given us a reasonably even-handed look at a good friend of ours, being one Jerry DeWitt, former bible-thumper and now a pretty…Continue

Tags: Bible Belt, atheist, Jerry DeWitt

How would you respond?

Started by Christina Scribner. Last reply by Christina Scribner Apr 10. 5 Replies

So, this morning, I was at my local coffee shop as I am most weekdays between bus runs. I do the editing on my husband's books so I had my laptop with me. My wallpaper is a picture I found online sometime back of a double helix with the word atheist…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on June 1, 2016 at 12:58am

Quiana, I know you knew! I just wanted to join the fun!

Comment by Joan Denoo on June 1, 2016 at 12:05am

Yes, I have moved back into my home and plan to stay here, happy, content, and proud of having created this peaceful place.
My daughter and her family took very good care of me and nursed me back to health. Some of the boxes remain at her home and safely put in a moving van that they own and keep on their property. My boxes contain books from my vast library that Craig wants. No one else in the family cares for books, so it is working out just fine. I brought my kitchen items back and gardening things. These are my two favorite places. They mostly remain in unpacked boxes, and that is just fine; I have another ten years, at least, to unpack them. I am happy beyond my ability to speak to be back home.
Oh my goodness, don't be depressed about my talking about my death and sorting things for my heirs. My life has been so full, the decisions I made all those years ago to leave my husband was the only choice I could make, and I am finally coming to terms with that. I was frightened that I had made a wrong choice. All I have to do is look at my children and know that if I had made any other decision, I would have subjected my kids to a childhood of fear and brutality. As it is, my legacy to them is a broken string of family violence. None of them use violence to solve problems or conflicts; they all learned interpersonal relationship skills ---- from me! Their dad went on to abuse another family; my father gave my mother a beating and weeks later she died. It stopped! Here! With my children and me!
Qiana that is not a photo of god, it is the Flying Spaghetti Monster. Even if it is a faux photo, it still is a good likeness to our great FSM.
Now, in the memory of the Great Giant Teapot, I dance with the stars under a clear sky, so very happy to be alive.

Comment by Ian Mason on May 31, 2016 at 11:18pm

Two lovely, cheerful videos Joan. Thanks. I too had missed that you've moved back. I'm glad that you're feeling good where ever you are.

The picture of that spaghetti thing is a fake. The true God is the Great Giant Teapot!

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on May 31, 2016 at 5:11pm

Impressive lighting effect, Daniel. I imagined much smaller, dimmer ceiling brightening.

Joan, you're not the only one annoyed by LOLspeak. I think it's because people need to feel superior, so they make the cats seem stupid. It's also like regression to a child ego state, a chance to talk like a kid in public, acceptably.

Our culture is loaded with this sort of thing. For example whenever a TV character is portrayed as a genius, he or she always has to either be socially inept in the extreme or have a major character flaw. In Buck Rogers, the genius robot had to be programmed as an arrogant a**hole. <sigh> Our cultural products reflect how flawed we are.

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I hear you Ian on, "Where there's a will there's a relative."

Joan, I've only kept up intermittently here, and missed something. You're not living with your daughter any more? Ah, it's depressing hearing you talk about dying and sorting your belongings for relatives. I'm not sorting anything. I've always loved Bobby McFerrin's performances. He looks extra nice dressed in white tux and bare feet, relaxing. Mostly funny, with a dark undercurrent. I found the floating out of shoes on the window ledge disturbing.

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on May 31, 2016 at 4:40pm

Joan-Harold and Maude is one of my favorite movies of all time. The direction was about as close to perfect as it could get. I don't think there's a minute in the film that doesn't further the story or the brilliant symbolism. The identical desks of the authority figures (priest, shrink, military officer) with portraits of their leaders (pope,  Freud, president) were priceless.

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 31, 2016 at 2:09pm

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 31, 2016 at 1:32pm

Ian and Chris, I am at the other end of the teeter totter with trying to sort out my things and where they are to go after my death. Craig and his family are not able to come north for several reasons, the high cost of medical care being one. He and his family are not able to show me what they want so I am arbitrarily listing my dining things as theirs. They can give them to another family member if they want. Laura's family come here often and I know what they want, mostly the kitchen items. I have a lot of gadgets they may find useful in their cooking. Cary gets first choice on all that is in the house. The family agree with that decision because he takes such good care of me. 

By the way, I am happy that I moved back to my home. I want to die here, hopefully in my garden or bed. 

I feel very good, my doctors' appointments all are within a mile of my home, my longtime friends live here, and you know how much I love my garden. I wish I had chickens, however, I know I will not always be able to care for them, especially in the winter time or when I am feeling so punky, and Cary would have to do the work. I don't want to impose on him any more than I do. He does an amazing amount of work here and helps me as much as he can. He is still a crotchety middle-aged man and even a burned out light bulb becomes a big deal. I just put an imaginary wall up to deflect the grumpiness and go about my business.

You know, life is so full of burned out light bulbs and replacing them can be interesting. 

Well, happy day to each of you. 

Comment by Plinius on May 31, 2016 at 11:54am

Sorry for your loss Ian. And try hard to stay apart from the inheritance hunters. I found out that even taking some care of an elderly relative makes you suspect in some peoples' eyes: very sad and quite disgusting.

Comment by Ian Mason on May 31, 2016 at 2:27am

Got back from England yesterday. My stepmothers funeral went well. The 'old' vicar from our village came out of retirement for a day and did a very good job: a short service at the cremetorium with a lot of personal things. Everybody was satisfied. The bother started a couple of days later. Where there's a will there's a relative. I'll spare you the details but I'm glad I live the other side of the North sea.

Comment by Ian Mason on May 31, 2016 at 2:22am

Nice job, Daniel.

A rule of thumb I use with religious people is; I don't care what you believe, only what you do. If you cultivate religion for profit, turn a blind eye to the abuse of children and other followers, restrict access to education or in any way hinder reasonable progress or try to force your beliefs on others then you are WRONG. Of course this isn't valid every time and in every situation but it's a viable starting point.

 

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