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Mental health in the age of violence: Dr. Elliott Ingersol

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randall Smith 2 hours ago. 1 Reply

I literally just discovered Dr. Elliott Ingersol yesterday, as a part of a discussion I had with other members of the Northern Ohio Freethought Society.  Dr. Ingersol is a licensed psychologist and clinical counselor in Ohio, as well as a professor…Continue

Tags: talk, psychotropic, therapy, psychology, Elliott Ingersol

maggie and milly and molly and may (Edward Estlin Cummings & Eric Whitacre)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 20. 2 Replies

It's amazing what you discover when you go looking for something you had no idea you'd find.  On an impulse, I pulled up Eric Whitacre's website to see if he had created any new pieces.  It would seem that he has: a song cycle called The City and…Continue

Tags: e e cummings, Eric Whitacre

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISIS

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Randall Smith Nov 18. 1 Reply

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISISGrowth in population, policies and practices that create a gap between the typical person and the wealthy,…Continue

Passive and Active voices

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 16. 1 Reply

Have you noticed that much of the discussion in families and with friends, in the print media, on TV, and now on the internet is in the Passive Voice? Many people whine, complain, gripe, accuse, blame, call names, ridicule, grumble, bitch, rebuke,…Continue

Tags: and, behaviors, communication., attitudes, learned

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by The Flying Atheist Nov 14. 2 Replies

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested"In 2009, a Wayne County assistant prosecuting attorney noticed…Continue

Tags: women, Enough, SAID, black, victims

Something Beautiful – Nathan Phelps & Seth Andrews

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 10. 7 Replies

And it is beautiful, too, indeed, I think some of Seth Andrews' best work.  Interesting point: rather than Seth's dulcet baritone doing the narration, this piece presses Nathan Phelps' deep bass intonation into service, bringing a different flavor…Continue

Tags: Nathan Phelps, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, beautiful, something

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Comment by Brent Feeney on April 7, 2014 at 8:20pm

Hey gang, long time no see! 

I know it's been quite a while since I posted here, but I took an extended break from the Nexus for reasons having to do with a weekly commentary I'd been posting at the Water Cooler section of the forum and also promoting a weekly Internet radio broadcast the author of the commentary had been doing (the radio show ended back in late November when the station that had handled the broadcast went off the air).

Someone (who, apparently, is no longer on the Nexus) had been threatening to report me for spamming and it scared me enough to take a breather until now. I knew I hadn't been spamming, but I guess the thought of a drawn-out argument on-line was somethng I didn't have a stomach for.

Many things have happened since I was last here; back in October, my mom had a stroke which, fortunately, wasn't bad as these things go. She was in hospital for several weeks but was OK. She can still speak clearly, though she slurs a few words and forgets some others; she can still walk with help of a cane and she can still use her right arm, though it's been weakened.

Not long after that, I got a job at one of the local Walmarts as a grocery stocker, but that job didn't last very long. I was there right before Thanksgiving until early February, when I was told I had to take a transfer into maintenance or be fired. I took the transfer but found I couldn't do maintenance work (I was doing all right stocking groceries). 

Right before I left, though, mom was back in hospital with what turned out to be a case of congestive heart failure. She was in hospital again for a couple of weeks, but she's doing much better now.

Since then, I've been shuttling back and forth between my place in south St. Louis city and the rest of my family's place (my mom, two sisters, niece and nephew) on the Illinois side of the St. Louis area helping to take care of her. It's not a long trip mile-wise, but does take a bit of time because I have to travel by bus and light-rail as I have no car.

It's been a good thing helping mom out; I get her breakfast and lunch and make sure she gets her medicine taken and anything else she needs. It can be a pain sometimes, but not anything I hadn't been expecting.

I'm gonna try to be more active here as I was previously. I have been keeping up with the posts via e-mail; looks like it's been a pretty active time for everyone.

Hope all of you have been well; talk to you all later.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 7, 2014 at 8:17pm

Patricia, I am so very sorry to learn of your responsibilities imposed on your childhood. It is amazing you have been able to overcome those memories and develop a very funny and friendly side. I am delighted you are here on AN and contributing your humor and wisdom. Very sad news that your brother and you barely know each other. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 7, 2014 at 8:12pm

Oh gosh! Loren, I can't wait for your report. Just have a wonderful time. I hope you get an autograph and a handshake. May the power be with you. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 7, 2014 at 7:36pm

Comment by Idaho Spud on April 7, 2014 at 7:27pm

Joan, I used to visit quite often, but now it's very uncomfortable, sad, and depressing.  I'm not good at socializing under normal conditions, and this family just seems too much for me.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 7, 2014 at 7:08pm

Spud, do you have opportunity to be with your nieces and nephews from time to time? The good news is, one day they will be grown and able to seek out other options, if they have an inkling there are others. Plant seeds when you can. 

All the neighbor kids spend a big part of their summers in my back yard with me. It was tough at first because two mormon families with large families, wouldn't let their kids come over because they know I am a non-believer. With all the other kids here, it became pretty hard for them to keep their kids away. The kids and I just enjoyed the garden and its critters and we didn't talk about beliefs, unless they asked me. I was honest with them about how I think, and I am sure they were questioned by their parents about our conversations. It worked out fine for me and the kids.

They are all growing up now and finding interests with their peers. I don't see them as much anymore. However, they do come by for a visit and "chin wag".  The next generation is still pretty young, just out of diapers, so I don't expect to see them here for another year or so. 

Comment by Idaho Spud on April 7, 2014 at 7:02pm

Joan, "When God was a Woman" sounds like an interesting historical book.

When I was a believer, I didn't think women were put-down by the mormon church, with the possible exception of polygamy.  However, now I see a lot of it.

I also agree with Arp that no one should be trained for a priesthood.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 7, 2014 at 6:58pm

Patricia, thank you for sharing your story. Thankfully, you didn't have to raise a whole bunch of kids; it is bad enough when you had to be the parent for your brother. Sadly, too many children have to parent their siblings with both mother and father working. That is too big a burden to place on a child. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 7, 2014 at 6:55pm

Arp, you make a very good point about no boy or girl should be trained for a priesthood. I had not thought about it in those terms. The real task of a mother and father is to raise each to be fully functioning as an adult, not as an adult who acts and thinks as a child. Every child needs that kind of training. 

Thanks for the feedback!

Comment by Idaho Spud on April 7, 2014 at 6:44pm

Glad you have some good news Mindy.


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