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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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An AN member passed away

Started by Deidre. Last reply by Deidre Aug 18. 4 Replies

Went into the chat room last Friday night, for the first time in a while, and learned that Mequa passed away. I had been good friends with him for a time, but we had differences and stopped talking back in the spring of this year. I knew however,…Continue

A Parable by Mrs. Betty Bowers

Started by Loren Miller Aug 17. 0 Replies

Betty Bowers is becoming SO GOOD at delivering as America's Best Christian, she now does 30-second parables!  (Okay, 32 seconds!  Picky, picky!) Have You Had YOUR Betty Today?Continue

Tags: bible, parable, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Goodwill to Few Men (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Michael Penn Aug 16. 8 Replies

Think Goodwill Industries does well by the poor?  Fact is, they do WAY BETTER for themselves, to the point where America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, thinks they're ripping off the christian playbook a bit too well!  Have a look for yourself:…Continue

Tags: ripoff, Goodwill Industries, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Steven Weinberg on his anti-theism

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller Aug 2. 4 Replies

I like the sound of Steven Weinberg's voice. He has a calming impact on me as I rush to get my home of 41 years ready to sell and plan and put into motion the new garden at my daughter's home. My home is full o empty boxed quickly filling with the…Continue

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Plinius Jul 10. 12 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

losing faith (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jul 5. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees has recently begun producing a new series of YouTube videos, which added to a wonderful library of earlier observations regarding his experience of religion. Good as all those pieces are, I personally think they pale against this…Continue

Tags: story, history, faith, TheraminTrees

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Comment by Joan Denoo on January 24, 2014 at 11:15am

Spud, I know what you mean when you wrote, "her thoughts are too Buddhist for my taste." They get on my nerves sometimes as well. I love the feedback. You are a true friend, honest, to the point, and clear. I have to say this site encourages such attributes. 

Comment by Plinius on January 24, 2014 at 9:57am

How I wish I could drop in for tea and a potato, Spud!

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 24, 2014 at 9:38am

Mindy, I can understand how you are stressed.  I would be much worse if I had children to worry about.

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 24, 2014 at 9:35am

Mindy, I'm a worrier too.  I don't handle stress well.  

My depression and stress have decreased dramatically since leaving mormonism behind, but I still have them more than I want.

I think this site helps a lot.  Joan is always giving good thoughts to calm us down, and I know she helps me, even though some of her thoughts are too Buddhist for my taste.  

Others here help me also, mostly by just being someone to talk to, limited as it might be on the internet.

Being alone, with no one to talk to is the greatest factor in my depression and stress.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 23, 2014 at 11:22pm

Hey, What a son! Just a few rapids in the river of life. The good news is you and he have the courage, and wisdom, and intelligence to take them on, one at a time, and move past them. 

As you know, I am not a great fan of Buddhism, but I do the smorgasbord thing with their teachings. I found simple phrases help my move past a worry, i.e.

"What is, is" (Daniel likes this one, too). or

"The cause of all suffering is desire; end desire; end pain." or 

"If a problem is fixable, fix it. If it is not fixable, then there is no help in worrying." 

"Change takes place through action, not prayer or meditations, but action." 

I would change this one to:

"Change takes place through thought and action, not prayer or meditation, but through thought and action."

There is an old Liberation theology belief that Paulo Freire taught, that thought without action is of no value; action without thought is chaos.

"Choose thought + action = Praexis."

You know how those silent things we tell ourselves that keep us from solving a problem or conflict? Well, they are the negative self-talk that can spell the difference between success and failure. I can't cite the study that was done, but I remember the finding. Mountain climbers who say to themselves, "I can't do it" have less success at mountain climbing than the climbers who say to themselves, "I can do this!" 

Good thinking and doing!

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 23, 2014 at 5:53pm

Good news about your son's raise Mindy.  Hope his knee is no problem.

What is your heart monitor for?

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 23, 2014 at 2:32pm

Mindy, Sorry about your son's knee problems. I am surely glad you have good health insurance! I am about to total up my medical costs and insurance covered expenses; it just makes me sick to even think about it. 

Great news about your son's new position offer and raise. So nice to read some happy news of individuals. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 23, 2014 at 12:14am

P.S. Mindy. Am interested in what your heart monitor reveals. Please keep us updated. 

P.S. Ruth, I like your candles and cake! very festive!

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 23, 2014 at 12:11am

Ruth, I thank you so much for your outstanding articles on such a wide range of topics, and your honesty in responding to each one of us. I hope you are feeling well. 

I have concern that your snow levels may be overwhelming. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 23, 2014 at 12:09am

Mindy, thank you for your greeting. It is always a joy to read your comments so I expect the coming year to be full of your funny, clear, and insightful contributions. 

 

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