Hang With Friends

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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

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Please start a discussion to share stories, photos, and videos. Replies will pop up in your "latest activity" and a conversation can develop from the feelings and thoughts you contributed. Groups are built on discussions.

Discussion Forum

the value of offence | qualiasoup & theramintrees

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Patricia Mar 3. 3 Replies

To me, this is a big deal (though it may not be to them): two great YouTube video producers have joined forces to deliver one very powerful message on an important subject.  TheraminTrees and QualiaSoup (brothers, I believe) have recently released a…Continue

Tags: offence, offense, QualiaSoup, TheraminTrees

The myth of religions

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Feb 16. 3 Replies

The creation myth of civilizations instructs men to dominate, to conquer, to go forth and multiply. No reasonable person would pay attention to such a god. No hunter-gatherer receives such a senseless message from wise elders.However, that idea…Continue

Tags: masculine, violation, imperative, go forth and multiply,, conquest

Winter Driving, Preparing for the worst

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Feb 1. 2 Replies

Now that we enter the time the Celtics called Imbolc, a pagan celebration of the beginning of spring and season of new life, I ran across this video on preparing for winter driving. It offers reasons for each thing he puts in his vehicles to be safe…Continue

Tags: prepare, driving, winter

A Powerful Message from an old wise teacher :

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Chris Dec 26, 2017. 10 Replies

I received a gift this morning from a virtual friend, Pamela Smith:A Powerful Message from an old wise teacher :" One day an old wise teacher was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have…Continue

10 Tricks from 46 (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 6, 2017. 3 Replies

Apparently, Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, has been slumming.  That is to say, she's been talking to Mike Pence [gasp!].  It would seem as though Mike has offered some of his not-so-personal tricks of the trade on how to be a 21st century…Continue

Tags: tricks, Mike Pence, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

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Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on June 30, 2015 at 10:23am

Joan, thanks for sharing how the nearby wildfires are impacting your family. I hope your fever is gone and you feel better. I didn't realize Washington was such a part of the problem. Wildfires are about twice normal now in Alaska and NW Canada.

Richard, the badges for mont hly donations are fantastic. My only suggestion is that they be maybe 25% smaller in the small profile pic associated with member activity. Notice how the badge eats a fourth of my face. I don't care about special rooms or privileges. I donate because AN is important to me, and I use it heavily just as it is.

For those of you who do not appreciate having a badge stuck to your icon, I remind you that this is science based. Research shows that for people to donate to worthy cause, most need to be seen as donors in that community. Plus visual identifiers remind people that others aren't freeloaders. This little "nudge" is perfectly justified, in my view. This sort of activity is how collective moral behavior emerges in a group. It makes us more of a community, not less. It's not dehumanizing. I want AN to survive.

Comment by Richard Haynes on June 30, 2015 at 9:40am

FYI: If you do not wish to have the member badge on your profile, just contact me. It is easy to remove. However, you will not have access to any exclusives that will come along with it.

The badges are a way for us to say thank you, and a proud way to display your support. Also, I understand that not all can contribute. I respect and understand that. However, to be frank, the only other option is to shut the site down. As I stated in the email, I cannot afford to personally pay for so much of it. 

I remain open to any creative ideas.

Comment by Joan Denoo on June 30, 2015 at 1:12am

Cary woke me at 5:00 AM this morning and the temperature was 85 degrees F. I have never felt a morning like that in Spokane before. I used to feel them when we lived in Texas. I worked about four hours and came in exhausted. 

Laura, Larry, Michelle and Jared are all geared up to move as soon as a call comes into about any fire. They volunteer and go out on called all hours of the night and day, 365 days a year. Jacob, the 16-year-old is now able to go on fire calls but is restricted about what he is able to do. They all have full time jobs to tend to, but leave for their various duties. 

Wenatchee is in the midst of a terrible fire now. 

Photographer captures heart-breaking scenes of wildfire's rage

Comment by Joan Denoo on June 30, 2015 at 12:55am

Carl, I like your new avatar! Very handsome indeed! I am relieved to learn that your federal assistance comes in for you. 

I like the idea of no badges and no tiered access to information. You offer a good idea about contacting Richard and appreciate that you are willing to do it. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on June 29, 2015 at 8:46pm

Pat, that's such a great movie!  One of Humphrey Bogart's many classics.  The Treasure of the Sierra Madre (1948) case anyone was interested.

I like your suggestion of having the badges display optional.  Perhaps I could get a note off to Richard about this conversation.  It's only been discussed here in Hang With Friends, as far as I know.  I'm curious what the rest of the users on this website have to say. 

Comment by Pat on June 29, 2015 at 6:54pm

Sign me up to get rid of the badges. "Badges? BADGES? I don't need no stinking badges!

Seriously, at least make the display optional. For those who want to advertise their donations (not me), great. They should have the option. And for those that don't, they should have the option of removing it from their avatar.

Comment by Grinning Cat on June 29, 2015 at 6:27pm

I'll also "vote" to do without the badges.

Comment by Randall Smith on June 29, 2015 at 8:02am

Carl, well stated. I know we can't give to every hand thrust in our face. I continue to support about 15 "causes", averaging $30 per. Fortunately, I can afford it. And it makes me feel good.

However, I wish to remain "anonymous" about who and how much. One can't help but notice the who and how much here at A/N. I say to myself, "I wonder why he/she hasn't supported this site". I say to "Brother Richard", please remove the insignia.

Comment by Idaho Spud on June 28, 2015 at 2:07pm

Carl, special rooms and special privileges does not sound like a good thing to me either.

There is probably no perfect answer to supporting Atheist Nexus, but I wonder if drawing for a prize is legal.  That might be better than special people.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on June 28, 2015 at 1:29pm

Randy, I tend to agree with your sentiment about donation recognition.  I didn't donate to get a badge. 

Last year, prior to being approved for federal disability insurance, my financial future was quite precarious.  Without even asking, members here on AtheistNexus began pledging financial support if I needed it.  I was humbled and very moved by those offers.

Luckily, my federal assistance came through, so obtaining financial help from individuals here was not necessary.  When Brother Richard sent out his recent request for donations, I strongly felt the need to support a community that was so supportive of me.  AtheistNexus is a very important community for me, and I wish to see it continue.  Making a $30 yearly pledge seemed very reasonable to me.

I totally understand that even $30 may not be available in the budgets of many of our members.  I know.  I've been in that situation more times than I ever expected.  If I was able, I would donate for everyone on their behalf.  

I guess this brings me to my final point.  Brother Richard has alluded to idea of having special rooms and special privileges for paying members.  To be honest, I am against any type of tiered system for members based on anything financial.  Everyone here is too important for the cohesion of our community to be dismissed from participation.

I understand that running this website costs money, and I agree that Brother Richard should not have to pay for it solely.  If additional monies are needed, a general fundraising call should go out with a requested goal.  It's been two years since the last donation request.  Although I'm not privy to all the financial details which Brother Richard is dealing with, the fundraising method used two years ago seemed to work, without the badges of recognition. 


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