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Comment by Idaho Spud on January 24, 2014 at 9:35am

Mindy, I'm a worrier too.  I don't handle stress well.  

My depression and stress have decreased dramatically since leaving mormonism behind, but I still have them more than I want.

I think this site helps a lot.  Joan is always giving good thoughts to calm us down, and I know she helps me, even though some of her thoughts are too Buddhist for my taste.  

Others here help me also, mostly by just being someone to talk to, limited as it might be on the internet.

Being alone, with no one to talk to is the greatest factor in my depression and stress.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 23, 2014 at 11:22pm

Hey, What a son! Just a few rapids in the river of life. The good news is you and he have the courage, and wisdom, and intelligence to take them on, one at a time, and move past them. 

As you know, I am not a great fan of Buddhism, but I do the smorgasbord thing with their teachings. I found simple phrases help my move past a worry, i.e.

"What is, is" (Daniel likes this one, too). or

"The cause of all suffering is desire; end desire; end pain." or 

"If a problem is fixable, fix it. If it is not fixable, then there is no help in worrying." 

"Change takes place through action, not prayer or meditations, but action." 

I would change this one to:

"Change takes place through thought and action, not prayer or meditation, but through thought and action."

There is an old Liberation theology belief that Paulo Freire taught, that thought without action is of no value; action without thought is chaos.

"Choose thought + action = Praexis."

You know how those silent things we tell ourselves that keep us from solving a problem or conflict? Well, they are the negative self-talk that can spell the difference between success and failure. I can't cite the study that was done, but I remember the finding. Mountain climbers who say to themselves, "I can't do it" have less success at mountain climbing than the climbers who say to themselves, "I can do this!" 

Good thinking and doing!

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 23, 2014 at 5:53pm

Good news about your son's raise Mindy.  Hope his knee is no problem.

What is your heart monitor for?

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 23, 2014 at 2:32pm

Mindy, Sorry about your son's knee problems. I am surely glad you have good health insurance! I am about to total up my medical costs and insurance covered expenses; it just makes me sick to even think about it. 

Great news about your son's new position offer and raise. So nice to read some happy news of individuals. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 23, 2014 at 12:14am

P.S. Mindy. Am interested in what your heart monitor reveals. Please keep us updated. 

P.S. Ruth, I like your candles and cake! very festive!

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 23, 2014 at 12:11am

Ruth, I thank you so much for your outstanding articles on such a wide range of topics, and your honesty in responding to each one of us. I hope you are feeling well. 

I have concern that your snow levels may be overwhelming. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 23, 2014 at 12:09am

Mindy, thank you for your greeting. It is always a joy to read your comments so I expect the coming year to be full of your funny, clear, and insightful contributions. 

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on January 22, 2014 at 4:44pm

Happy belated birthday, Joan. Sorry I wasn't around yesterday.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 22, 2014 at 4:16pm

Carl, you know me so well, with the picture of a great human being and scientist. Thanks for your greetings and for all the wonderful postings you make here. 

Your cat video reveals a cat who trained his/her humans very carefully and even tamed the dogs in his/her life! What a cat! Thanks! 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 22, 2014 at 4:09pm

sk8eycat, You have had a most interesting life and able to skate with such a troupe of people and do all that traveling so young! The ice show amazes me, how can people perform such balance and grace on blades?

Sadly, your days came to an end on the ice show with your injury. Do you have arthritis now, or stiffness of your injured ankle? I was always too much of a coward and hated hurting, so stuck to things like books and writing. I admire your and your accomplishments. 

 

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