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10 Tricks from 46 (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 6. 3 Replies

Apparently, Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, has been slumming.  That is to say, she's been talking to Mike Pence [gasp!].  It would seem as though Mike has offered some of his not-so-personal tricks of the trade on how to be a 21st century…Continue

Tags: tricks, Mike Pence, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Grinning Cat Oct 19. 99 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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A Powerful Message from an old wise teacher :

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Plinius Sep 28. 8 Replies

I received a gift this morning from a virtual friend, Pamela Smith:A Powerful Message from an old wise teacher :" One day an old wise teacher was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have…Continue

Speak English? YOU FIRST! (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Donald R Barbera Sep 27. 5 Replies

Honestly, the title to this piece is badly under-representative of the content.  To be far more accurate, what we have here is Mrs. Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, going on a rant.  Before you say it ... Say WHAAAA?  Betty Bowers ranting? …Continue

Tags: America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

10 Things About Patriotism (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Plinius Sep 26. 2 Replies

It seems as though lately, Mrs. Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, is evolving into America's Best Patriot.  She has recently been taking some fairly well-aimed shots at a certain Orange Nightmare and his sycophantic hangers-on, regarding the…Continue

Tags: patriotism, Donald Trump, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

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Comment by Plinius on December 30, 2014 at 6:45am

Joan, I'm some twenty years younger than you are. Even when I was young NO ONE talked about the justice of the status quo. No one pointed at abusive husbands, no one talked about rape within a marriage, sexism was unmentionable and all the battered women and children were said to be clumsy. Even to ask about those things was frowned upon. We still have bruises but we're so very lucky that society has changed - not everywhere, but most people have a new sense of justice. Laura came out well, and Brooklyn will have what we missed - I'm happy for her!

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 30, 2014 at 6:16am

Thanks for your kind words, Chris. Yes, I tell myself as you advise. 

My life feels triumphal because of overcoming some big challenges. My kids seem to be successful, and their families flourish by any measure. Both granddaughters stumbled around for a while; their lives seem more settled now. All of them have fun together even as they work together. I have no complaints.  I am just a whiner. 

Seeing my five-month-old great-grandaughter hit me very hard. Laura was her age when I came home from getting my hair cut and found her with bruises from head to foot. I wrapped her in a blanket and ran next door to my neighbor, a nurse. She took one look, and we headed for the ER. We entered the crowded and noisy place, my baby screaming and I was hysterical. The noises of the room quieted as the doctors and nurses examined her. All I can remember was the room, once noisy, now silent except for Laura's screams and my hysteria. The doctor took me to another office and filled me full of whatever it is they do with hysterical women. A chaplain came in; I screamed that I needed help because I couldn't stop my husband's brutality. He recognized me because I was active in the programs of the chapel and Sunday school

Doctors found no broken bones; they treated cuts and abrasions, gave her painkillers. Laura was six months old. 

I took her home. I didn't pack up the kids and leave! 

No one talked to Don about his behavior. No doctor or social worker or chaplain or psychiatrist. Col Smith held a position at Madigan Army Medical Center. An army colonel is an officer and a gentleman. 

Seeing beautiful little five-month-old Brooklyn reminded me of Laura, all those years ago. I didn't protect her. She was so little; I didn't protect her.  

Comment by Plinius on December 30, 2014 at 5:14am

In hindsight we're all wise, Joan! Don't feel guilty, you probably did the best you could think of with the info you had at that time. No reason to blame yourself!

Comment by Plinius on December 30, 2014 at 5:10am

I feel the same, Mindy - can't they thank the people who helped them?

I hope you get better soon, Carl, the flu is NOT what you need!

What I got for xmas is a visit from brother-in-law - let's forget it a.s.a.p! The stupid oaf did nothing but complain and talk about himself. I think he only misses us when we no longer do things for him. People like that drain my energy and give nothing in return. I keep on helping him - because my husband feels responsible for his brother.

Next week I'll be back in the classroom - YIPPEE!

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 30, 2014 at 5:07am

Randy, you asked about my health. I am fully recovered from all the cancer treatments and my life returns to normal. I sleep a lot, and don't have a lot of interest in doing anything bur reading or reading A/N mail. I feel incredibly content and happy to be alive. Thanks for asking. 

The week with my daughter was exhausting! I don't know how she does all that she accomplishes. She has her own business, takes a lot of time to be with her two daughters and their families, volunteers for the Fire District, and spends time with me. We have great fun together. My life goes very well. I'm still working on shaking the guilt of not getting out of a bad marriage and getting the kids out earlier .. but that is just wallowing in old stuff that does no one any good. I don't know what I am going to have to do to shake that guilt. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 30, 2014 at 2:41am

Carl, boy! it takes some creative imagination to find the "good" in this event. Flu, especially now, for you, has no positive aspect. Bummer! 

Comment by sk8eycat on December 30, 2014 at 2:06am

One of the advantages of being a "loner."  I haven't had a flu shot in 10+ years, and haven't  had even a sniffle in all that time,either.

Well, my nose tends to drip when the weather gets below 50deg, but there's no infection.  (Just gross.)

I think that the older you get, and if you manage to stay relatively healthy, you immune system becomes more efficient.  Mom used to drag me to the doctor when I was in elementary school for a gamma globulin shot whenever there was a run of measles in the school (no vaccines then), so I was 20 years old and in Miami Beach when I broke out with roseola.  Cost me 6 days pay.  I've never had rubella measles.  Had chicken pox and mumps when I was 6 or 7....NOT fun.  And the chicken pox returned as shingles when I was 21 or 22.  Gaaaahhhhh!

But I have not had influenza or anything like that since I retired.

*knocks wood*

Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 30, 2014 at 12:45am

What I got for Xmas:  the flu.  I had my flu shot back in the Fall, so hopefully this won't last too long or be too severe.  Several members of my family are also afflicted.  The price you pay for family unity during the holiday season.  Ugh!

Comment by sk8eycat on December 29, 2014 at 1:09am

Comment by Idaho Spud on December 28, 2014 at 11:57am

Mindy, thanks for the quote from Pat Condell.  Excellent!

 

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