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...but intelligent people believe in God (DarkMatter2525)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller 5 hours ago. 2 Replies

A ridiculous claim should be recognized as such as a matter of course, shouldn't it?  Shouldn't It?!?  What happens if that claim is so imbued and integrated into society over hundreds if not thousands of years that it has been taken as TRUTH…Continue

Tags: religion, indoctrination, ridiculous claim

Optical Illusions

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This one seems a bit creepy, like the middle one shouldn't be able to change rotation like that. from Cheezburger.comContinue

White House Petition: Change National Motto Back to "E Pluribus, Unum"

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by k.h. ky Jan 22. 8 Replies

There is a petition being sponsored by whitehouse.gov to remove "in god we trust" as the national motto and replace it with the original: "E Pluribus, Unum" or "Out of Many, One."  As of this writing, there are around 11,000 signatures on it, with…Continue

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There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISIS

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller Dec 24, 2015. 3 Replies

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISISGrowth in population, policies and practices that create a gap between the typical person and the wealthy,…Continue

coming out (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Atheist in FundyLand Dec 23, 2015. 6 Replies

Whether as atheist, agnostic, gay / Lesbian or whatever, the process of coming out has been a repeated topic of discussion here on Atheist Nexus and for good reason: it is at once a necessary yet potentially supremely painful process, depending on…Continue

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If God Exists (DarkMatter2525)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Dec 23, 2015. 4 Replies

"Practice makes perfect."  That's the concept, isn't it?  Work diligently at something, especially something you enjoy and are adept at, and your skills sharpen, your judgment improves, and the product of your efforts demonstrate that improvement. …Continue

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Comment by sk8eycat on December 14, 2013 at 7:24pm

Patricia, did you have fusion along with the Laminectomy?  I did...I have two rods bolted to my lower spine, held in place with grafted donor bone. I was astonished at the low pain level afterwards; maybe it was the fact that hospitals are more knowledgeable about pain management now.  I was allowed smaller doses of pain meds every 2 hours instead of having to wait 4 hours for a larger dose that would always leave me groggy.  (I don't know what they gave me...not morphine.  I am violently allergic to that.)  I was able to sit cross-legged on my bed before I left the hospital 5 days after the surgery. Shocked the physical therapist (who I thought was a smug goody-two-shoes anyway.)  I didn't do the prescribed post-hospital therapy...lack of transportation, and... well...it bores me.

BTW, it was a Catholic hospital; I asked to have the "scarecrow" removed from my room, but they wouldn't do that, so the first day I was allowed out of bed, I draped my "Imagine No Religion" T-shirt over it.  My surgeon (young, secular Jewish) nearly fell on the floor laughing when he saw that.  So did one of my RNs (a gay man...middle-aged...ALL the nurses were fabulous!)

The main thing is that, as you said, the sciatic pain was killing me; I couldn't sit in a chair of any type for more than 5 minutes, so I couldn't get an office job for 10 years.  I knew as soon as I came out of the anesthesia that it was GONE! Oh, every once in a while (maybe every 6 months), I'll feel a tingle in my right leg, but it's a numbness-type tingle, not the hot, screaming pain I had before.

The most painful thing about the whole operation was the amount I had to pay out of my own pocket after Medicare paid its share.  I maxed out my only credit card, and am still making payments on the debt.

I need to have the same thing done on my neck, and I just can't.  It scares me...I had a parathyroidectomy (the incision is the same as for any thyroid surgery) in '92, and the post-op pain and stiffness went on for almost a year.  I couldn't sleep lying down for about 3 months, couldn't turn my head far enough even to look in the rear-view mirrors while driving, etc.

Plus...if I rack up any more debts, I'll lose the house. I wouldn't mind moving to an apartment for low-income seniors, but my sister would, and the house is in both our names.

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 14, 2013 at 5:22pm

sk8eycat I can understand a population of uninformed individuals might object to looking at reality through a metaphor, but for a school district to fall for such tactics is just outrageous. I think the Four Horsemen, and others who are militant in their opposition to ignorance being taught in public school is well justified and I consider myself one of those awful persons who take a militant view in opposition to failure to learn science. In fact, the more I learn, the more militant I become. 

The reality is, I am becoming more confrontive to the negative feedback she gave. One of my counselors at Cancer Care gave me some very bad feedback and I called her on it. She is of the old school; nonsense is nonsense, whether stated by an uninformed or a trained counselor. 

Gee, that feels good, to be able to discriminate between healthy and unhealthy therapy! I am sure her motive was positive even as her information was lousy. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 14, 2013 at 5:12pm

sk8eycat and  Patricia My goodness, this sounds serious, and painful. Did the surgeries help? 

"What is a laminectomy?

"Back pain that interferes with normal daily activities may require surgery for treatment. Laminectomy is a type of surgery in which a surgeon removes part or all of the vertebral bone (lamina) to relieve compression of the spinal cord or the nerve roots that may be caused by injury, herniated disk, spinal stenosis (narrowing of the canal), or tumors. A laminectomy is considered only after medical treatments have proven to be ineffective."

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 14, 2013 at 4:56pm

Mindy I the car problem is solved without too much expense. Sorry to learn of your son's strep throat; hope his diabetes strategy stays under control. My favorite of all stories, The Wizard of OZ. Sharing cartoon. 

Ian, Ah ha! The pope is caught in a dilemma: Does the pope forgive the priest or the homosexuality? Seems to me a little reality check is in order. A priest is a construct of the human mind. A homosexual is a reality of hormones and whatever else is involved in creating mammalian sexuality and has nothing for which to be forgiven. 

Steph, cute photo of resistant kitty and lovely young woman. 

Napoleon, is this a correct translation: "one does not become an atheist by desire"?

Steph, Whistleblower Cat!?

Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 14, 2013 at 4:26pm
I have to add my two cents as well. I like the Oz picture and also the Jesus walking on water, Mindy. Funny stuff, as Johnny Carson used to say.
I hope your son recovers quickly. Sounds like he's being well cared for.
Comment by Idaho Spud on December 14, 2013 at 2:56pm

I think you're right Felaine.

Comment by sk8eycat on December 14, 2013 at 2:45pm

Spud, I don't think much has changed in Flaw-riduh since the '80s....in fact it's gotten worse IMO.  That goes for all of the buybull belt.  The adults are afraid their children might learn something, or figure things out for themselves.

Comment by Idaho Spud on December 14, 2013 at 2:27pm

Mindy, I love the Oz images!  

Felaine, what horrible '80s school officials in Florida!

Steph, that NFA cat is funny.

Comment by sk8eycat on December 14, 2013 at 2:24pm

I had a "senior moment" there.  The author who tried to buy the "Oz" books was Piers Anthony.  I had to Google his name by entering the title of one of his books.  How bass-ackward is that?

(That's the kind of thing that happens when I can't remember something...I had back surgery in '09, and I can never remember the first word of the procedure, so I have to think "...and fusion," and then the word "laminectomy" magically appears in what's left of my mind.)

Comment by sk8eycat on December 14, 2013 at 2:15pm

Mindy, first, I hope your son is getting better, and second...

I think those two images from "The Wizard of Oz" are exactly what L. Frank Baum was trying to tell his readers.  And why, back in the early '80s a school district in Florida pulled all the "Oz" books out of their libraries...and BURNED them!  A science fiction/fantasy author who lived in Florida at the time offered a considerable amount of money to buy the books, and was turned down. (Some of them were very valuable first editions.)

Stupid, stupid, stupid.  At the very least ANY school district always needs money, but NOHHHHH!  They had to make sure they destroyed the "satanic" influence in their area.

 

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