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Comment by Idaho Spud on November 25, 2013 at 1:35pm

Mindy, I like Cool Whip much better than whipped cream (at least the old Cool Whip).  In fact, I refuse to put whipped cream on anything.  I don't think I've tasted Cool Whip since they added milk and cream to it, because I usually have pie without any topping.

I don't like sports either.  Not even enough to talk about them.  Oops, I guess I just did : )

I think we called it Pop when I was young.  I just call it a soft drink now.

Comment by Steph S. on November 25, 2013 at 10:35am

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Comment by Steph S. on November 24, 2013 at 9:14pm

Carl that soup looks so good. Good to eat when you are feeling under the weather. Still cold and rainy here and more rain expected all week long.

Comment by Steph S. on November 24, 2013 at 9:13pm

Patricia - that is so funny!!

Thanks

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 24, 2013 at 4:37pm

Oh! Carl, that bowl of soup looks so good. Just right for a cold day. 

Thank you for your kind words; you do a tremendous job of being straightforward, honest (even about football), and supportive. There is hope for a better world with people such as yourself and those on this string, and on this site. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on November 24, 2013 at 2:35pm

Steph, cute picture of the cats under the umbrella.  I saw you are getting rain in your area.  Supposedly that weather system is predicted to continue northeast and screw up holiday travel plans on the East Coast in the next few days.  We shall see.  Have a great day. 

Mindy, I hope you feel better soon.  I hate being sick.  It depresses me.  I feel like it's wasted time......but what can you do?  BTW, don't be mad, but I confess that I hate football.  Yes, "hate" is a strong word, but I've chosen it wisely.  I hope we can still be friends!  As you are aware, Chicago is a HUGE sports town, but I've never had any interest whatsoever in any sports.  If I wasn't the last, I was the second-to-last kid to be chosen in gym or on the playground for sports teams.  It was an aspect of my life that I not only accepted but that I embraced.  Give me music and art anytime!    

Joan, when people hear truths they don't like or don't want to be true they get angry and defensive.  Good for you for always speaking out and keeping your integrity intact.  I'm glad to hear that some of your soured relationships have been restored.  Perhaps you've been successful in planting a few seeds of knowledge and rationality.  You have so much to offer other people. 

It's cold here too.  Overnight it was 13-degrees.  It's now warmed up to 25 with sunny skies.     

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 24, 2013 at 1:37pm

Steph, loved your comment and photo of cats sitting and enjoying rain. Looks like paradise. Yes, I agree that this site is a very special one, full of thoughtful, caring, compassionate people who have open minds and not so open that their brains fall out. 

It is very cold here, clear skies, not so much wind, yet. I probably will lose some plants because of the low day and night temps. Well, if the climate changes, we will be losing a lot of plants because of water or temperature changes. I might as well get used to it. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 24, 2013 at 1:26pm

Oh! Mindy! I understand your reasons for leaving Facebook. The hate mail can be dreadful! Thankfully, there is a "Block" button to weed out filth. 
I kind of like those who attempt to give me rational reasons for disliking my writings. It gives me a chance to reconsider my thinking and either agree or disagree with them and why. Over time, I feel stronger in my thinking. I do often realize I have overstated or made a reasoning mistake. As to feelings, there can be no mistakes in how one feels. The feelings may be based on erroneous thinking, but if so, I am able to make changes in my own thinking and come out stronger. 

My experience with Facebook was it was far too conservative for my liking, and I just didn't want to listen to a bunch of delusions. I blocked them as well. Family and friends sent me all kinds of sickeningly sweet, syrupy, mawkish, sentimental, trite, saccharine things that made my teeth itch. I wrote them individually and told them I did not think their material made any sense and didn't stand up to scrutiny. I would block them in the future if I got any more of it. Well, you can guess ... a lot of family and friends unfriended me.

Slowly, over time, many of those individuals reconnected with me and send me thoughtful (full-of-thought) comments, and we restored our relationship, to my benefit, and I hope theirs.  

Thanks to people like you and ... oh dear, I won't list names because I will surely leave some very precious friends out. I have been able to rethink my positions and make appropriate adjustments. 

Arguing does me no good! Asking question, pointing out what, how, and why I do not share an idea, helps me, even if it infuriates another. I love to challenge another to think, even as I love being challenged ... if based on reason.

Feelings are another matter. One can not argue with how another feels; it is their reality. I can look at my own feelings and listen for what they tell me. Why am I angry, sad, mad, afraid, guilty or ashamed? When I sort those kinds of things out, I have a better understanding of what drives me. 

Honesty seems to have great power. Especially for my cousins, many of whom are very active in their churches. One married a Lutheran minister with patriarchal ethics. In her email comments she sounds depressed and unhappy and wonders why. I can read how dominated she feels, even though she doesn't say it. I simply ask her questions about her feelings, and her values. She hangs in with me until she gets angry (which really means she is afraid). 
No one said growing up would be easy. There are no good roadmaps. The holy books lead one astray, filling the head with nonsense that I call The Passive Gospel. So, we can be active in thought and action. We can celebrate together our stressors and accomplishments. We can stand as a cloud of witnesses for each other, with encouragement, information, ideas, ...jeez, I had a terrible time finding a secular word cloud: 
Comment by Steph S. on November 24, 2013 at 10:30am

Good thing you got away from Facebook. The Nexus site is so much better. I hope everyone is having a good day. IT is rainy and cold here today.

 

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