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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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bending truth, or "We Can All Be Manipulated" (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Compelledunbeliever on Tuesday. 37 Replies

The following is one of TheraminTrees' most thorough-going pieces, wherein he looks at the process and techniques whereby a "religious" organization (which will sound VERY familiar to most of us, once introductions are made!) takes a person who…Continue

Tags: indoctrination, truth, manipulation, TheraminTrees

punishing doubt (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Sep 6. 0 Replies

If you are associated with religion and especially a fundamentalist religion, doubt is intolerable.  Certainty, however it may be achieved or imposed, becomes a necessary element, especially considering the utter dearth of any form of evidence or…Continue

Tags: religion, TheraminTrees, punish, doubt

We Don't Want Your (Atheist) Money! (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Idaho Spud Sep 2. 17 Replies

I suppose I've heard stories like this before:Conscientious atheist donates money to worthy cause.Worthy cause initially accepts money.Worthy cause discovers source of donation.Worthy cause rejects donation.Swell, eh?  Well Matt Willbourne of…Continue

Tags: American Baptist Churches Association, Murrow Indian Children's Home, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

The Whole Bible in 30 Seconds (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randy Hatly Sep 2. 3 Replies

Ever decide that you wanted to read the whole bible, cover to cover, only to realize half-way through Deuteronomy that the darn thing is industrial-strength BORING?!?  Well, never fear!  America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, has done the Cliff's…Continue

Tags: bible, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Are You a Patriot? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris G Aug 29. 22 Replies

You might think that Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, would be stepping outside of her comfort zone in tackling the concept of patriotism.  As it turns out, not only does she have a proper handle on the term and its implications, she also…Continue

Tags: patriot, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

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Comment by Qiana-Maieev on May 31, 2016 at 11:22pm

Thanks. I'll have to honour my daily pot of tea then.

Comment by Ian Mason on May 31, 2016 at 11:18pm

Two lovely, cheerful videos Joan. Thanks. I too had missed that you've moved back. I'm glad that you're feeling good where ever you are.

The picture of that spaghetti thing is a fake. The true God is the Great Giant Teapot!

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on May 31, 2016 at 5:11pm

Impressive lighting effect, Daniel. I imagined much smaller, dimmer ceiling brightening.

Joan, you're not the only one annoyed by LOLspeak. I think it's because people need to feel superior, so they make the cats seem stupid. It's also like regression to a child ego state, a chance to talk like a kid in public, acceptably.

Our culture is loaded with this sort of thing. For example whenever a TV character is portrayed as a genius, he or she always has to either be socially inept in the extreme or have a major character flaw. In Buck Rogers, the genius robot had to be programmed as an arrogant a**hole. <sigh> Our cultural products reflect how flawed we are.

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I hear you Ian on, "Where there's a will there's a relative."

Joan, I've only kept up intermittently here, and missed something. You're not living with your daughter any more? Ah, it's depressing hearing you talk about dying and sorting your belongings for relatives. I'm not sorting anything. I've always loved Bobby McFerrin's performances. He looks extra nice dressed in white tux and bare feet, relaxing. Mostly funny, with a dark undercurrent. I found the floating out of shoes on the window ledge disturbing.

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on May 31, 2016 at 4:40pm

Joan-Harold and Maude is one of my favorite movies of all time. The direction was about as close to perfect as it could get. I don't think there's a minute in the film that doesn't further the story or the brilliant symbolism. The identical desks of the authority figures (priest, shrink, military officer) with portraits of their leaders (pope,  Freud, president) were priceless.

Comment by Qiana-Maieev on May 31, 2016 at 4:34pm

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 31, 2016 at 2:09pm

Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on May 31, 2016 at 1:51pm
Joan, I didnt know you moved back to Spokane! Sorry I have not been in the loop! Well, Im glad you can be wherever makes you happy!

Ian, when my parents died, I just let go of everything. i figured their obligation to me ended when I became an adult. The rest was gravy. I did say, If no one wanted the family photos, going back 4 or 5 or 6 generations, I would take them. And 2 furniture items. I actually regret that, because the photos feel like an obligation to be their caretaker no one else living cares about, and the one furniture Item That I got feels sort of the same way. Its an old oak dresser.

Joan, glad you have Cary there to help out.

My main job after retiring seems to be to get rid of stuff. I took 3 carloads of items to goodwill, and 2 carloads of books to the public library used book sale. I filled up the recycle bin and trash bin several times over. It helps that with retirement,
I quit all the stress eating and junk food and none of the old clothes fit now, so off to goodwill with most of my clothes. Im down to one closet plus one dresser, that's all I use or need.
Comment by Joan Denoo on May 31, 2016 at 1:32pm

Ian and Chris, I am at the other end of the teeter totter with trying to sort out my things and where they are to go after my death. Craig and his family are not able to come north for several reasons, the high cost of medical care being one. He and his family are not able to show me what they want so I am arbitrarily listing my dining things as theirs. They can give them to another family member if they want. Laura's family come here often and I know what they want, mostly the kitchen items. I have a lot of gadgets they may find useful in their cooking. Cary gets first choice on all that is in the house. The family agree with that decision because he takes such good care of me. 

By the way, I am happy that I moved back to my home. I want to die here, hopefully in my garden or bed. 

I feel very good, my doctors' appointments all are within a mile of my home, my longtime friends live here, and you know how much I love my garden. I wish I had chickens, however, I know I will not always be able to care for them, especially in the winter time or when I am feeling so punky, and Cary would have to do the work. I don't want to impose on him any more than I do. He does an amazing amount of work here and helps me as much as he can. He is still a crotchety middle-aged man and even a burned out light bulb becomes a big deal. I just put an imaginary wall up to deflect the grumpiness and go about my business.

You know, life is so full of burned out light bulbs and replacing them can be interesting. 

Well, happy day to each of you. 

Comment by Plinius on May 31, 2016 at 11:54am

Sorry for your loss Ian. And try hard to stay apart from the inheritance hunters. I found out that even taking some care of an elderly relative makes you suspect in some peoples' eyes: very sad and quite disgusting.

Comment by Ian Mason on May 31, 2016 at 2:27am

Got back from England yesterday. My stepmothers funeral went well. The 'old' vicar from our village came out of retirement for a day and did a very good job: a short service at the cremetorium with a lot of personal things. Everybody was satisfied. The bother started a couple of days later. Where there's a will there's a relative. I'll spare you the details but I'm glad I live the other side of the North sea.

 

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