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maggie and milly and molly and may (Edward Estlin Cummings & Eric Whitacre)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 20. 2 Replies

It's amazing what you discover when you go looking for something you had no idea you'd find.  On an impulse, I pulled up Eric Whitacre's website to see if he had created any new pieces.  It would seem that he has: a song cycle called The City and…Continue

Tags: e e cummings, Eric Whitacre

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISIS

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Randall Smith Nov 18. 1 Reply

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISISGrowth in population, policies and practices that create a gap between the typical person and the wealthy,…Continue

Passive and Active voices

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 16. 1 Reply

Have you noticed that much of the discussion in families and with friends, in the print media, on TV, and now on the internet is in the Passive Voice? Many people whine, complain, gripe, accuse, blame, call names, ridicule, grumble, bitch, rebuke,…Continue

Tags: and, behaviors, communication., attitudes, learned

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by The Flying Atheist Nov 14. 2 Replies

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested"In 2009, a Wayne County assistant prosecuting attorney noticed…Continue

Tags: women, Enough, SAID, black, victims

Something Beautiful – Nathan Phelps & Seth Andrews

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 10. 7 Replies

And it is beautiful, too, indeed, I think some of Seth Andrews' best work.  Interesting point: rather than Seth's dulcet baritone doing the narration, this piece presses Nathan Phelps' deep bass intonation into service, bringing a different flavor…Continue

Tags: Nathan Phelps, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, beautiful, something

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Joan Denoo Oct 27. 14 Replies

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Comment by Tony Carroll on September 27, 2013 at 11:26am

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Well, was out early this morning, got home and guess who walked up the driveway when I stopped. Jehovah's Witnesses! An older lady, middle aged man, and a young man, guess about 15-16.

They introduced themselves (can't remember names). Before they even started, I said " Either mormons or jw, right? And since you're not in the mormon uniform and carrying bom, I'm guessing jw's. " I know I skipped way ahead in the script for them, as evidenced by the looks on their faces. Have to admit, it was fun.

Well the older lady responded yes they were jw, and wanted to share their news with me. Here is where it got interesting. The man said "before we get started, can we have a word of prayer?". I said no. The look on the teenagers face was shock. Literally. Like he couldn't believe what he heard. The older couple, however, that was really interesting. Their faces looked like stone. Total shutdown. After a beat, he asked why. Damn, my mind was racing. Of all the myriad answers I could give. I had already blown their scripting out the water, so how to continue. So I simply said to them, "I'm an atheist. Don't believe in any dieties". The lady said "sorry to have taken up your time" and they walked away.

The most interesting thing about this small exchange was the reaction of the teen. His face showed his thoughts and emotions. I mean you could see the shock, uncomprehension, horror, disbelief, incredulity all flashing across his face. The adults were able to control it. He wasn't.

Oh, the very last thing. As they were getting in their van, they looked in my direction as I was still standing in the driveway. So I smiled real big and waved at them. Seemed like they couldn't get going fast enough. Like I said, it was fun

Comment by sk8eycat on September 26, 2013 at 10:05pm

Steph...what I did today: Took a friend to a local pub/restaurant (owned and operated by a Scottish/British  ex-pat family); I had Bangers & Mash, and I am so full I can hardly move.  Had a GREAT time!   *;) winking

Comment by sk8eycat on September 26, 2013 at 10:01pm

For all I knew, the stories we were taught in Sunday school could have been written by Hans Christian Andersen or the Brothers Grimm. 

We started going to church when we moved to Burbank when I was in kindergarten. Dad wanted to establish himself quickly because he was planning to open his own accounting practice, and joining the local church was one way to do that.  It happened to be a very relaxed place, more into having community social events than telling us we were going to burn in hell.  Dad and the minister hit it off immediately, and the Rev. made him Treasurer...Rev. had been doing the books himself, and was overwhelmed.  Actually, we didn't call him "Reverend" anything... he was Mister to everybody.  (Well, he was "Art" or "Arthur" to the grownups.)

I think I was in 4th or 5th grade when I rebelled and refused to go to church any more.  I was having dance classes almost every day after school and all day on Saturdays, and I said I wanted a Day Off. 

I don't know if I ever really believed in god or Jesus, I just wasn't interested. I tried to believe when I was in high school...tried very hard, but I just couldn't.  I'd listen to my classmates when they got up and "witnessed" during services (this was at a totally different church...Bapnit), and wondered why none of that stuff ever happened to me.  I was so naive that it never occurred to me that they might be lying.

(re-posting to correct some typos.  I have an orange purr-monster between me and the keyboard.)

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 26, 2013 at 5:18pm
sk8eycat, "In the beginning....we lied."
Yes, I think that correctly names the situation. One lie leads to another and pretty soon everything gets so chaotic, no one can separate the fabrication from fact ... unless, of course, one throws out the entire belief system and goes with direct observation and critical thinking, with experimentation and doubts.
Comment by Steph S. on September 26, 2013 at 4:08pm

How is everyone?

I'm reading all the posts here. I hope everyone is having a good week so far.

Comment by sk8eycat on September 26, 2013 at 3:08pm

If Eve was cloned from Adam's rib (there are 2 versions of her creation in Genesis, but the "mental" people only read the 2nd one), then she/he was having sex with him/herself.

My question later was, where did Cain's wife come from...he supposedly killed his brother and went to another town...HOW was that town populated?

"In the beginning....we lied."

Comment by sk8eycat on September 26, 2013 at 2:35pm

FundaMENTAList xians truly believe that "there are many things that kids are not meant to know."  Particularly science.  That's why they want financial help from the gov't to send their kids to private schools that turn out idiots just like them.

Once youngsters learn that the earth was not created in 6 days, they start asking questions, and won't settle for evasive answers.

Most of the atheists I know were raised in much more religiously restrictive homes than I was.  As a comparison, on xmas morning they had to wait for their fathers to finish reading the buybull before they could open their presents.  My sister and I had to wait for Dad to set up the camera and take at least one roll of photos of the tree, the fireplace, us, etc. before we could rip into everything.

I've always felt embarrassed when people prayed before meals, especially in restaurants. 

Comment by Ian Mason on September 26, 2013 at 3:21am

Nothing wrong with your ego Napoleon :-D

My favourite street in the whole world: Charing Cross Road, London. It's where most of the good bookshops are. There's a good selection of second-hand especially. I always go hunting there whenever I'm in England.

Comment by sk8eycat on September 26, 2013 at 1:23am

Yeah, I'm a bookaholic, too.  My parents of my fondest early-childhood memories is Dad reading me to sleep every night till I learned to read for myself.

I sometimes tell people who ask me what church I go to that it's the Public Library. 

Comment by sk8eycat on September 26, 2013 at 12:37am

Absolutely!  I remember the days when publishers were delighted to have books "Banned in Boston." T'was a surefire guarantee that they would be bestsellers everywhere else.

But small-minded people push my "Rant" buttons.  Or as Bree, the writer of "Think Banned Thoughts" blog says, I put on my ranty-pants.

She wrote an excellent blog post a few months ago about the danger of "protecting" children too much.  Every parent of small children should read it.

In fact I recommend her entire blog very highly.


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