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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

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Optical Illusions

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jan 31. 66 Replies

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White House Petition: Change National Motto Back to "E Pluribus, Unum"

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by k.h. ky Jan 22. 8 Replies

There is a petition being sponsored by whitehouse.gov to remove "in god we trust" as the national motto and replace it with the original: "E Pluribus, Unum" or "Out of Many, One."  As of this writing, there are around 11,000 signatures on it, with…Continue

Tags: E Pluribus, Unum, in god we trust, petition

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISIS

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller Dec 24, 2015. 3 Replies

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISISGrowth in population, policies and practices that create a gap between the typical person and the wealthy,…Continue

coming out (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Atheist in FundyLand Dec 23, 2015. 6 Replies

Whether as atheist, agnostic, gay / Lesbian or whatever, the process of coming out has been a repeated topic of discussion here on Atheist Nexus and for good reason: it is at once a necessary yet potentially supremely painful process, depending on…Continue

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If God Exists (DarkMatter2525)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Dec 23, 2015. 4 Replies

"Practice makes perfect."  That's the concept, isn't it?  Work diligently at something, especially something you enjoy and are adept at, and your skills sharpen, your judgment improves, and the product of your efforts demonstrate that improvement. …Continue

Tags: religion, YouTube, god, DarkMatter2525

Mental health in the age of violence: Dr. Elliott Ingersol

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randall Smith Dec 1, 2015. 1 Reply

I literally just discovered Dr. Elliott Ingersol yesterday, as a part of a discussion I had with other members of the Northern Ohio Freethought Society.  Dr. Ingersol is a licensed psychologist and clinical counselor in Ohio, as well as a professor…Continue

Tags: talk, psychotropic, therapy, psychology, Elliott Ingersol

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Comment by Joan Denoo on November 8, 2013 at 11:43pm

Patricia, Spud, Mindy, and Carl. Each one of you has great writing and thinking ability. Each very different from the other. Each of you writes from your compassion and disgust about the wonderful and stupid things people do. Each of you writes about your feelings in ways with which I resonate. I read your comments, feel your pain, rejoice in your joys, share in your disagreement with foolishness, and you reveal your concerns about all the things that concern me. 

Your treasures of mindfulness come through the computer screen revealing great jewels. Write on, my hearty companions!  

Mindy, thanks for that lovely photo of painted body art and thanks to Patricia for passing it along. I did not receive it. The patterns amaze me; a fine collection. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on November 8, 2013 at 10:52pm

Patricia, I'm so much better at expressing myself in written form than verbally.  In particular, when speaking about passionate issues, complicated subjects, or in the heat of the moment, I often struggle to express myself clearly.  I stumble and hesitate, trying to spit out a previously known perfect word or phrase that has somehow eluded me at the most inopportune time.  I'm one of those people who fifteen minutes later says, "Oh, I should have said......"

What's funny, I don't really have a fear of speaking in front of crowds or even one-on-one.  I just get major "senior moments" trying to cough up a word I know I want to say but can't remember.   I would be a horrible defense attorney or public debater.  

Leisurely writing down my thoughts allows me to organize and to express myself much more clearly and eloquently. 

Comment by Idaho Spud on November 8, 2013 at 5:16pm

Steph, like Joan, I love the kitty that knows he has feetz!!

Comment by Idaho Spud on November 8, 2013 at 5:15pm

Chris, sorry about your problem with some neighbors.  I can relate, as I'm a worrier also, and get very stressed-out when there's conflict.

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 8, 2013 at 1:22pm

Carl, your words reflect great wisdom and compassion. You don't wear rose colored glasses, you express yourself well and have such a nice way of saying things. 

Patricia, your wording is clear;  you always make good sense. Sadly, religion gives way to hypocrisy far too easily. A most destructive trait. Your realism refreshes me. 

Chris, old wounds hurt when they show up in a new situation. My guess is that these events are red flags waving, trying to tell you areas in which you need healing. Trust your feelings; they are real and provide valuable information. 

Mindy, Friday! Already! 2013 moves right along. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 8, 2013 at 1:06pm
Option:
Do nothing;
Find the anonymous writers and movers and negotiate with them;
Thank those who appreciate your efforts;
Remove the plant and get full enjoyment out of it in your own place;
Take a vote of the building;
Retaliate.
Now the fun is deciding which option to choose and lay or sit in your favorite position and laugh.
Comment by Plinius on November 8, 2013 at 2:26am

And sometimes small things begin to worry me disproportionately. I put a big plant in the hall of this building, and some neighbours liked the initiative and said so. Others began to post anonymous notes - it wasn't good enough - and began to pust the plant around. I found it in dark corners, where it will die, it was pushed against the wall, so the leaves broke, and I put it back every time. Now I don't know what to do: put the plant in the garbage, kill some neighbours, burn the building? I've been pestered quite a lot when I was younger, and this plant incident brings up a lot of memories I'd rather had forgotten...

Comment by The Flying Atheist on November 7, 2013 at 11:52pm

Joan, you couldn't be more correct in your assessment of the non-religious and of the wonderful people who are a part of this group.

It's the theists who are supposed to be the caring, humanitarians, but their main problem is that they get sidetracked by divisive dogma and sectarianism. 

Atheists don't have all that extra and unnecessary religious baggage, which in turn allows us to focus our energies and empathy on humanity with a much clearer and rational vision. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 7, 2013 at 11:21pm

Mindy, I am so proud of you and the way you handled the situation! You stand tall, confident, with a backbone of steel, and a heart full of compassion as well as a great funny bone. Now what more could one want from a friend?!  I agree with Ruth, unfriending is appropriate and maybe even required. 

You know, the thing about atheism, it is a good and decent way to perceive the world. Even though the basic theme is no belief in god/s, the effect is to open my eyes, and so many others' eyes, to a much larger world. Believing in god produces such narrow comprehension and dogmatic thinking that I find less and less with which to be patient. 

Thanks again, Patricia, for being a relay for missed messages. 

Steph, I love you kitty's feetz!!

Ruth, thank you for your support; you have been my strongest ally all these years, even when I need to listen more carefully to others. Thank you, dear fiend. 

Patricia and Ruth, maybe a walker is an excellent idea for me. My doctor says to go for more walks, but I am so unsteady on my feet, maybe I will take some action to stabilize myself and get out more. 

To all my Atheist Nexus friends, good night, sweet dreams, and a great tomorrow. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 7, 2013 at 11:07pm

Dear Atheist Friends, you are inspirations! Through diseases, injuries, unresolved conflicts, each one of you bounces back like champions, with courage, insights, compassion, determination, and stretch your minds;  all these and other attributes I find so appealing. 

We all thrive ... not just survive! 

 

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