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What Annoys God Most? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris on Thursday. 9 Replies

Long story short, it's those near misses, the almost-but-not-quite, close but no cheroot moments, or, would you believe ... Near Death Experiences!  So what's the big deal?  Betty Bowers, America's BEST Christian and self-proclaimed expert on such…Continue

Tags: Near Death Experiences, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

degrading love — part one (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Nov 22. 11 Replies

Love is by many considered among the highest of positive emotions.  Yet when love of the type offered by deities is examined, something seems to go seriously wrong.  The love of Yahweh seems less a gift than a demand, not so much beneficence as a…Continue

Tags: TheraminTrees, god, love

Ning, Error 500s, and Whether to Migrate

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Nov 13. 47 Replies

I just got the following notice from Ning yesterday, (31 October, 2016), in the wake of this latest website outage:As some of you may be aware, we experienced a system outage earlier this morning. The cause was due to a specific network…Continue

Tags: downtime, Atheist Nexus, Ning

Introducing Douglas Murray

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 7. 4 Replies

Most of us who have been around atheism for a while know the heavyweights of our ilk.  Names like Hitchens, Dawkins, Dennett, Harris, Dillahunty and AronRa get nearly daily mention in posts and discussions on Atheist Nexus.  One name I was…Continue

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If There's a God - She's a Woman - The Author T

Started by Joe. Last reply by Chris Nov 3. 4 Replies

I came across this story and thought some here might find it interesting and humorous.It’s titled:If There’s a GodShe’s a WomanFrom the Series:Things You Can Learn from a VaginaIts on the website TheAuthorT.com under the tab, “Free to Read…Continue

His Dark Materials and the Catholic Church

Started by Tonya R. Wheeler. Last reply by k.h. ky Oct 30. 35 Replies

I recently watched the movie, "The Golden Compass" and since I could not find the sequels, I read the books. I enjoyed them, and I will be reading the first one, Northern Lights, starting tomorrow, since it just arrived via inter-library…Continue

Tags: Fantasy, Catholic, Religion, Atheist, Pullman

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Comment by sk8eycat on April 8, 2014 at 9:11pm

"Do you really believe that a female was made from the rib of a male?"  OR "In the case of parthenogenesis, how did a woman give birth to a son?  Where did the 'Y' chromosome come from?"

Why didn't YHWH tell his "chosen people" that the earth is NOT flat?

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 8, 2014 at 8:30pm

Please don't misunderstand me. In 1974, when I was first trying to break away from being a victim, I used violence in return to my father. I would do it again. 

However, I find being unattached a better strategy when dealing with believers, especially the kind that want laws enacted that restrict my judgment, i.e. I will fight:

1) those who want to take away the right of a woman to have control over her own body and

2) those who want intelligent design taught in public schools.

In those cases, they intrude on my rights as a human being and an adult. 

In other encounters, I use the Socratic process: 

Do you really believe there is a supernatural energy who made heaven and Earth? 

or a supernatural energy impregnated a woman? 

or a virgin gave birth to a son? 

or a man who had supernatural power lived on the Earth? 

or in a supernatural spirit? 

or a supernatural man died, was buried, descended into hell? 

or a supernatural man who rose from being dead three days?

or a supernatural man ascended into heaven? 

or do you believe you are part of a group chosen by a supernatural being entitled to redemption? 

or that I have to testify that So-or-so is my lord and master? 

or in the communion of saints? 

or the forgiveness of sin? 

or the resurrection of the body? 

or in a life everlasting? 

As I hear their answers, I take note of them; then ask for the evidence they can give to validate their beliefs. 

There is no need to memorize scripture; all you need to remember are the basic principles of what is real and what is delusion. 

No argument is necessary; it is a strategy to ask and hear their answers. Not to argue with them, or challenge them, or to convert them. I simply want to get the question out into the air and hear their responses. The individual with whom I am in conversation may not ever give thought to what I am asking and their answer. But if there is an audience, especially if the audience is young, they have an opportunity to ask themselves whether these things are true or not. 

It is none of my business what another thinks. It is my business to speak my thoughts. The other can scream, shout, pout, cry, plead, demand, threaten, bully or try to dominate. Just come back with a basic question, "Do you really believe ....?" Leave questions in the air. 

Comment by Brent Feeney on April 8, 2014 at 5:44pm

You're right Joan. I shoulda stood up and basically told him to turn me in - and to shove it up a certain portion of his anatomy. That's my fault. I'm not gonna let it happen again.

That's an interesting story as well. Thanks for sharing. Hope you're doing well.

Comment by Idaho Spud on April 8, 2014 at 4:22pm

I love how you stand up to bullies Joan.

Comment by Loren Miller on April 8, 2014 at 4:05pm

And as promised, here's my Postscript to The Unbelievers event last night.  Turns out, it was as big a deal as the movie was, to me, anyway.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 8, 2014 at 4:00pm

Felaine, what a funny site. Thanks for the lead. I will surely make a daily visit there as I prepare for a perfectly wonderful day! 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 8, 2014 at 3:55pm

Brent, each person has to make their own decisions about how to respond to bullies. 

As for myself, every bully I ever stood up to backed down like a splat of snot. I have stood up in court when challenged on a child abuse case, I have faced down a plumber who told me he knew what he was doing, when he clearly was making a mess of the project. 

I guess fear goes after one has acquiesced as I did for 38 years. One day my dad came at me with his fist when we disagreed on how I was to manage my kids. I was 38, my kids were 10 years. old. We had run from an abusive husband and father. As my father approached me with his fist drawn back, I, sitting, lifted both my feet and shoved him as hard as I could. He did a back flop, the other side of a belly flop, and it knocked him out. When he came to consciousness I was standing over him and told him if her ever touched me I would sue him for everything he has and see that he got jail time. 

That was the end of my fear. Once one crosses the line of being a victim to being in charge of ones' life, everything changes.

I am smart enough to know there are some situations over which I have no control, but with a little forethought, one can usually dodge the bullets and blows. 

Stand tall, head held high, shoulders firm, feet anchored to the ground, a spine of steel and face the foe with competence and confidence. You do not exist to be a victim, nor a bully. You are human being worthy of respect and able to take care of yourself. 

There are times you need help, or a shoulder to cry on. That is perfectly healthy and appropriate. So pick your friends carefully and get rid of the bullies in your life. 
Happy Days! 

Comment by sk8eycat on April 8, 2014 at 3:53pm

Patricia, Joan, and Spud...I recommend a daily visit to LOLcats (or the Hotdogs page) until you get tired of it.  Some of the other divisions of Cheezburger are...well...sick, but they may occasionally give some people a laugh or two.  But the cats are still the best for giggles and AWWWWs.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 8, 2014 at 1:17pm

Loren, Loren, Loren! You did it! Good for you. 

Thanks for the lead to your blog! 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 8, 2014 at 12:00pm

Patricia, I love it. You are all decked out, even with a red flag. What a way to go. I will be thinking of you as you scoot by the daffodils and tulips. "Happy Trails to You!"

 

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