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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Men who challenge men to stop violence

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Grinning Cat yesterday. 17 Replies

Many men join in the effort to reduce violence against women and children and other men. He speaks of the need to place responsibility on men instead of focusing on women to stop violence. He offers a breath of fresh air, as do so many of the men on…Continue

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on Sunday. 83 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Such Lyrics!

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Joan Denoo May 19. 8 Replies

Hello Friends,I was ruminating a bit today on my sixty-some years existence. My mind went back to teenage years when I first figured out religion is not only obnoxiously loud, but also nothing I wanted anything to do with. Truly. I knew by age 15…Continue

Atheist Pig STRIKES AGAIN!!!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller May 18. 2 Replies

There's no getting around it, Atheist Pig is fast becoming my fave secular comic, and as evidence, I refer you to the following.  Jesus and Mo had better watch their respective asses, 'cuz they got a porker coming up on the outside, and I'm pretty…Continue

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The Burial Waltz

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Donatien Alphonse François Apr 26. 4 Replies

Hi everyone,It was almost a half-century ago, at age 15 or so, that I encountered one of the more important influences in my life: a crazy group of poets/musicians who called themselves The Fugs.They had a huge impact on me in that, though raised in…Continue

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Comment by Bertold Brautigan on December 7, 2015 at 3:54pm

Tweak his cheek for me, Carl

Comment by Randall Smith on December 7, 2015 at 7:54am

Carl, what's the latest on your kidney transplant and all other health related issues? You're holding out on us!

Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 6, 2015 at 9:15pm

Ian, at least you can now see the light at the end of the tunnel. You're doing a good thing by putting your own priorities first.  

Comment by Ian Mason on December 6, 2015 at 9:09am

Thanks, good people. The nice thing is I'll still be getting paid for 3 months afterwards. Then the hunt for a new job starts.

Comment by Randall Smith on December 6, 2015 at 7:56am

Gracious, Ian! That's not a good way to end your work (job) life. All I can say is hang in there. It won't be long. Then, FREEDOM!

Comment by Plinius on December 6, 2015 at 1:18am

Rooting for you, Ian! 

Comment by Ian Mason on December 5, 2015 at 11:07pm

I'm not feeling on top of things at the moment. I've been sent to a new workplace to serve out the last few weeks of my notice and I do not like it. I'm being rotated between three buildings on the same site and it's impossible to find a rhythm or get on top of things. On top of that it's difficult to get there with public transport. My emotional state has become uncomfortable, verging on depression so I've taken a few nights sick and am going to see the family in England for a pre-holiday visit and some relaxation. When I come back there will be seven nights work left that I have to drag myself through and then it's all over. What a relief that will be.

Comment by Ian Mason on December 5, 2015 at 10:57pm

There are good ways and bad ways of not growing up but if you don't want to take responsibility for things ( a partner, children, work) then stay clear of them. A healthy child-like part of your nature is often a plus and will help bonding with children. Unfortunately I fell into the former category when I started a family and have had to learn to grow up. It's taken a long time. I think that part of the problem is that men have often had to learn from scratch. Our fathers didn't know how so we couldn't learn from them. It's good that the world is slowly changing and that the lessons will be passed on to the next generation.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on December 1, 2015 at 10:22pm

There are still plenty of young men clinging to the irresponsibility of boyhood, unfortunately. I guess research would tell us what percentages changed over time.

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 30, 2015 at 11:42pm

So many men of my generation grew up to remain boys. They wanted what they wanted when they wanted it, including sex. The men expected to be served by a non-complaining mother figure. The football heroes remained adolescent even until our 40th class reunion when I decided I had nothing in common with them. 

Many of the women of my generation bore the children of the young men, and many discovered they had to raise babies into adulthood without the emotional and financial help of the fathers.

It seemed strange to me that many fathers did not have the emotional bonding with their children that many mothers had.

Living with my daughter and her husband is an eye opener for me. They each have their businesses, they work together as a team on a joint enterprise, they share the tasks of doing the many chores of the household and of raising children. They both appear happy in their relationship and with the way they organize things.  

Witnessing the end of the patriarchal nature of my ancient family tree and the ease with which Laura and Larry share responsibilities gives me high hopes for the evolution of the family that occurred in my lifetime. I only wish my parents and grandparents could see the benefits to both men and women for this development in our family. 

 

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