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Men who challenge men to stop violence

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Jan 9. 19 Replies

Many men join in the effort to reduce violence against women and children and other men. He speaks of the need to place responsibility on men instead of focusing on women to stop violence. He offers a breath of fresh air, as do so many of the men on…Continue

Ian, a beautiful New Years blessing.

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Chris Jan 5. 7 Replies

Ian, for some reason, my comment would not "send" on Hang with Friends; perhaps it will here!Ian, a beautiful New Years blessing. It goes in my file. I especially like the thought of surprising myself. Laura made a special trip to my Spokane home to…Continue

degrading love — part two (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jan 1. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees set up religion with his left in Part One of his treatise on how religion demeans and degrades the value of love.  Here in Part Two, he brings in a devastating, "Mike Tyson" right, which negates and invalidates any claim that either…Continue

Tags: Christianity, Islam, TheraminTrees, god, love

The Ark Encounter: A Less than Grand Opening (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Idaho Spud Dec 31, 2016. 27 Replies

The day finally arrived.  Ken Ham's Ark Encounter opened on 7 July, 2016 ... to something a bit less than Disney-sized crowds, and more than a couple dissenting voices!  Seth Andrews has gathered a quartet of significant participants in the protest…Continue

Tags: Tracey Moody, Dan Broadbent, Seth Andrews, David Silverman, AronRa

Learning a Language as a Mature Adult

Started by Daniel W. Last reply by Idaho Spud Dec 14, 2016. 27 Replies

Trying to keep my mind exercised, and not interested in most of the reading materials that I can find.I decided to attempt to learn a language.  Actually, two.  The dilemma is, how do I do that without going to school - not an option - and without…Continue

What Annoys God Most? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Dec 7, 2016. 10 Replies

Long story short, it's those near misses, the almost-but-not-quite, close but no cheroot moments, or, would you believe ... Near Death Experiences!  So what's the big deal?  Betty Bowers, America's BEST Christian and self-proclaimed expert on such…Continue

Tags: Near Death Experiences, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

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Comment by Joan Denoo on October 23, 2016 at 5:53pm

And I thought of those of you who overcame life's challenged.

Randy, I did not mean that you overcame alcoholism, I meant you have overcome powers beyond your ability to control. You raised your family and now have grandchildren to love.

Daniel, thank you for the link to ending Citizen's United. I will read it thoughtfully (meaning full of thought). 

Spud, in my experience of being a firebrand feminist in a sexist community, and an atheist in a Christian community, I understand what you say. The thing that works for me is to speak, write, and act, on well thought-out  principles with competence and confidence, i.e. C,C, squard.  I also learned to have a tough skin; don't take vicious attacks personally, even as you do not accept the nonsense slung your way. Be ready to duck and run; gather your strength to think and act another day. You will find like-minded people and begin to grow a coalition. Many poses more power than an individual; however the individual has to take the risks. 

Thank you all for your support while I went through a death with dignity of a son. Your words comforted me, profoundly. I could not send messages to you because all the messages that I tried to send from the hospital would not go through.I discovered there was an easy fix but only after leaving there this morning. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on October 23, 2016 at 5:36pm

Daniel, I agree with your political statement 100% and will have a lot more to say about it when I am rested. Sleeping in a hospital chair with bells, buzzers, and whistles going off day and night, I had little sleep. I know you understand. 

Randy, I thought of you as our little family gathered together to celebrate Cary's life, his overcoming alcoholism, and his responsible care of me for the last few years. 

Randy, hug your children and their offsprings often and tell them you love them. Life is so very precious and can melt before your eyes. That little spark exists for such a short period, even when it seems forever, it is not.  

I went to the stars knowing our atoms are "Part of starstuff" The October/November night sky presents another period of change. I grow comfort knowing that we are all part of each other. We need each other and build and destroy together. 

Look at what has happened to Syria or Yemen or Palestine in today's environment,  That is what will happen in the United State if we have another war, our building in shambles, lives and ways of life will change. 

Look at the dispute about climate change and know we have an opportunity to learn and live in nonviolent ways. We can make the effort to restore health to the planet or we can comfort each other as the planet responds to our choices. If we can do it, others can too. 

I love you, dear friends, even though I have never seen you in person, I have read our writings and shared ideas with you. That is enough to create a true friend. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on October 23, 2016 at 5:12pm

Please excuse my misspellings, even my proofreading was not working. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on October 23, 2016 at 5:11pm

This morning at 12: 27 AM Cary died of esophageal cancer with the aid of a doctor. His body was ravaged with the disease and was not able to have any operable or radiology that would prolong his live for many more days of life. He has been on palliative care since I took him to the ER as he hemorrhaged blood. 

The doctors, nurses and staff performed their arts and sciences impeccably and provided me with the clear description of what was happening in his body. Craig returned from Colorado, Laura and her husband and two daughters were with him for the afternoon and into the night. We discussed the prognosis with a clear understanding of what was happening and our options. We chose to pull the plug and see what would happen. They all stayed for the procedure and we touched his arms and legs as he breathed his last breath. It was very simple, just turned off the machines and he was gone within an hour. He was in no pain. We comforted each other.

Cary had a cough since last spring and we all, family and neighbors, and friends tried to talk him into going in. He refused, with strong anger. Laura talked to him privately why he would't go to the doctor and he said he had to take care of me. 

On Tuesday morning at 4:00 AM he woke me up hemorrhaging  blood. We went into the ER, immediately to ICU and processes began. He was in excruciating pain and was immediately heavily sedated. The family agreed on palliative care and then on Friday nigh all members of the family agreed that the tumor was not treatable, and with the advice of all the doctors involved, we agreed to pulling the plugs on all the machines. 

He breathed softly for a few minutes and then he was gone. 

Cary provided me faithful, loving, compassionate care as I was so very sick. I have many happy memories of him and he left us a legacy of a graceful and grateful death. 

I am at peace knowing he is out of pain, chemicals, and machines in order to stay alive for no longer than a month. 

Laura asked for a chaplain and she explained to him that Cary was an atheist and wanted no religious language in his comments. His thoughts and words comforted me and I could kiss Cary for the last time and walk away. 

I love you Cary, Mom 

Comment by Joan Denoo on October 23, 2016 at 4:46pm

I enjoy watching this family grow up even if they are teaching their children gender roles. There is much about their style that comforts me. The children's names are biblical but I don't hear biblical language. The parents are so different then my parents or me for the first ten years of their childhood that I enjoy a less violent way to raise children. I know some of you won't like it; go ahead express your opinion, I am able to have a  conversation with those who disagree with me. 

Comment by Randall Smith on October 23, 2016 at 7:39am

Yes, Joan is our rock. I miss her comments when she's "gone" for awhile.

As you can see, I survived the dinner and "sleepover". The kids were great. I had to work on table manners, however. That's what grandparents do!

Comment by k.h. ky on October 22, 2016 at 1:26pm
I hope Joan is trying to get some rest. And that everything is going as well as can be expected. She's been on my mind a lot.
Comment by Idaho Spud on October 21, 2016 at 1:08pm

There's usually 2 sides to an issue, and deciding which way to go is often a conundrum, especially the ones I get here in Idaho.  Most of them are not as easy to decide as the 3 you showed us (and not as important).

Comment by Daniel W on October 21, 2016 at 1:01pm

Randy, have fun!

Im usually not a fan of ballot measures.  However, I like these.  The State and US Congress have too much corporate control for those systems to enact there laws. 

Here is a website abouit ending Citizen's United

On the carbon tax, it's an example of how the people can take control of this issue.  I had some mixed feelings. It might not pass.   Commutes in my area are some of the worst in the country due to rapid Californication.   The infrastructure is overwhelmed.  But many of the people who pay the tax will be working people who can least afford it.  My county is more affourdable housing than Portland, so a lot of the movement to here is economic.  The people don't have as much control over where their jobs are.   Still, I think we need to encourage solar and wind, and electric when well managed, discourage fossil fuel when possible, so there is a carrot and stick.

Comment by Idaho Spud on October 21, 2016 at 12:31pm

Ballot issues sound good Daniel.

 

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