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Men who challenge men to stop violence

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Jan 9. 19 Replies

Many men join in the effort to reduce violence against women and children and other men. He speaks of the need to place responsibility on men instead of focusing on women to stop violence. He offers a breath of fresh air, as do so many of the men on…Continue

Ian, a beautiful New Years blessing.

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Chris Jan 5. 7 Replies

Ian, for some reason, my comment would not "send" on Hang with Friends; perhaps it will here!Ian, a beautiful New Years blessing. It goes in my file. I especially like the thought of surprising myself. Laura made a special trip to my Spokane home to…Continue

degrading love — part two (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jan 1. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees set up religion with his left in Part One of his treatise on how religion demeans and degrades the value of love.  Here in Part Two, he brings in a devastating, "Mike Tyson" right, which negates and invalidates any claim that either…Continue

Tags: Christianity, Islam, TheraminTrees, god, love

The Ark Encounter: A Less than Grand Opening (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Idaho Spud Dec 31, 2016. 27 Replies

The day finally arrived.  Ken Ham's Ark Encounter opened on 7 July, 2016 ... to something a bit less than Disney-sized crowds, and more than a couple dissenting voices!  Seth Andrews has gathered a quartet of significant participants in the protest…Continue

Tags: Tracey Moody, Dan Broadbent, Seth Andrews, David Silverman, AronRa

Learning a Language as a Mature Adult

Started by Daniel W. Last reply by Idaho Spud Dec 14, 2016. 27 Replies

Trying to keep my mind exercised, and not interested in most of the reading materials that I can find.I decided to attempt to learn a language.  Actually, two.  The dilemma is, how do I do that without going to school - not an option - and without…Continue

What Annoys God Most? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Dec 7, 2016. 10 Replies

Long story short, it's those near misses, the almost-but-not-quite, close but no cheroot moments, or, would you believe ... Near Death Experiences!  So what's the big deal?  Betty Bowers, America's BEST Christian and self-proclaimed expert on such…Continue

Tags: Near Death Experiences, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

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Comment by Plinius on April 5, 2014 at 1:23am

And I can't figure why someone would want to beat two month old babies! That's a crime!

Comment by Plinius on April 5, 2014 at 1:20am

I marvel at your daughter, Joan, how she found the strength to defend herself - she must have learnt it from you, I think, but you didn't dare to use it at the time. Wonderful, how you escaped and grew strong!

I never laughed too in my parents' house. Sexist men only joke with people they see as equals, never with women. Such men target their unfunny jokes at women, then say women have no sense of humor.

The humor broke out when I felt good about myself, and it's still there. I even use it in teaching - so good when fifteen people have a good laugh together!

Comment by Arp on April 5, 2014 at 12:53am

Joan, I read your story, and I realized what you went through. I can only say you are a real life hero. You have my admiration.

About revealing my atheism, I have no fear in revealing my atheism to the people I know such as friends, family and relatives.

I'm only concerned about strangers and school bullies (I'm still a student) who just need a thing to pick on others.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 5, 2014 at 12:23am

Oh yes, I understand your situation Arp. Many do not want their atheism revealed because of personal, professional or other reasons and I honor that. 

I have been trying to figure out a way to get the fine writings that occur in various Atheist Nexus sites to the general population without exposing others to unnecessary risks. 

I am retired and living on my pension. I have nothing to lose by exposing myself to public knowledge of my strong anti-theist thinking. I think the problems that religion creates are so serious, they need to be exposed, challenged and replaced with ways of thinking that are healthier for the planet. 

The conversations that occur on Atheist Nexus are very different than on Facebook and Twitter. The real food for thought comes on these sites. This is where I come for nourishment and for a safe place to rant. 

Comment by Grinning Cat on April 4, 2014 at 10:42pm

Joan, you truly went through challenges I can't imagine... I'm glad you broke the cycle, and you and your kids went on to create a good life!

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 4, 2014 at 8:43pm

By the way, we ran away from our home on base at Ft Hood, TX in 1974; my husband was a full colonel by then. Yes, officers beat their wives and children, too. Don't let anyone tell you it is only the lower income, uneducated, low social strata that experience family violence.

I made a very good living after I earned my master's degree, when I had a private practice and most of my clients were wives of ministers, doctors, lawyers, judges and business executives. I was called as an expert witness in several child custody cases. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 4, 2014 at 8:33pm

Carl, Oh, yes! I think so. As a very small child I was always trying to figure out how to escape the razor strap which my mother used with perfect skill, and I was often trying to untangle their terrible fights. I was an only child and after WWII we lived in a neighborhood with no other children my age. I loved going over to Mrs. Robinson’s home with my collie and visit her many dogs, cats, chickens, Guinea hens and parrot. That is where I spent most of my time until I graduated from high school. 

After I married, I had to learn how to walk on egg shells and became quite good at it. When the children were born, my daughter was six weeks old when she received the first beating,  then my son Craig, and then my son Cary. I taught them how to be quiet when their dad was home, we spoke in sign language. 

One day in 1974, when Laura was ten years old, she put her hands on her hips, looked her Dad in the eye, when she was only eye level with his brass buckle belt and told him he didn’t have the right to treat us that way. 

Click! What did she say? She said he didn’t have the right to treat us this way! How many other times had he treated us in a way that he didn’t have a right to do? I put my kids in the car, with our two cats and their litters and drove two thousand miles, bought us an old condemned house and we lived in a tent until we got all the mice out of the place. We then moved in and slept on the floor, and used our tent for cooking. We did laundry in a basement sink, and began to work as a team. 

We planted a huge garden, made arrangements with Mert Rosauer, our local grocer, to scavenge his back room each week for out of date milk and meat. I worked full time, went to school and when the kids were in high school I finally had a master’s degree and began to make a living wage. 

That started 40 years ago, July 1, 1974. Now, 2014, that old condemned house is a lovely home with a beautiful garden where we hold weddings, funeral memorials, baby christenings, birthday celebrations and welcome in each new season with a festival. 

I lived with abundant resources and I lived with none. I know the struggles of families trying to survive with so many barriers to making a living wage. I spent my working years with people in trouble, whether it was at a boys’ ranch, at Community Colleges where I taught life skills for displaced homemakers, at battered women’s shelters, or at the prison where I taught men anger management and other skills they needed to survive in today’s world. 

I had to not only divorce my whole family, because we were generations of family violence victims, both men and women. I married a man with a similar heritage. To break out of the system, I had to break with family, religion, and community. 

Now, am I not one lucky woman!? I broke the cycle that goes back more generations than I have been able to find. I have gone back 15 generations on one grandparent … all with family violence. 

I am profoundly happy. I have met some rough challenges and I have been up to the task on every single one. Cancer was the most recent and I have been diagnosed with no cancer cells in my body. I had a chemo drip this afternoon and in three weeks I have my last. Life is too precious to be mad, sad, afraid, or guilty. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 4, 2014 at 7:53pm

Loren, Priceless! I'm reposting. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 4, 2014 at 7:28pm

I look for and read things that seem important to know and to develop my position on the topic at hand. I, too, don't look for the funny and don't see it until someones points it out.  Spud, you and I could be related. And I enjoyed the flies around stuff comment of sk8eycat
Compounding that fact, I am getting more concerned about religion and what it does to thinking. Knowing even sophisticated scientists fall for that religious claptrap, makes me shudder! 

Looking on the bright side, we have Dawkins, Krauss, Dennett, and 

Dale McGowan

Ayaan Hirsi Ali

Richard Carrier 

Hemant Mehta 

Michael Newdow 

James Randi

Julian Assange 

David Suzuki

Peter Boghossian

Richard Leakey

Sean Faircloth,  

Ricky Gervais

Seth MacFarlane

Quite a nice assortment of people to read, from whom to gain ideas. 

Comment by Loren Miller on April 4, 2014 at 6:41pm

 

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