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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner 17 hours ago. 84 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

The Ark Encounter: A Less than Grand Opening (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo on Wednesday. 22 Replies

The day finally arrived.  Ken Ham's Ark Encounter opened on 7 July, 2016 ... to something a bit less than Disney-sized crowds, and more than a couple dissenting voices!  Seth Andrews has gathered a quartet of significant participants in the protest…Continue

Tags: Tracey Moody, Dan Broadbent, Seth Andrews, David Silverman, AronRa

Fan.tasia – A Disney Mashup by Lindsey McCutcheon

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Idaho Spud on Monday. 8 Replies

Any of you remember that Hollywood musical dance number mashup that Nerd Fest UK created put together some months back?  Well, someone by the name of Lindsey McCutcheon has…Continue

Tags: Lindsey McCutcheon, animation, Disney

The Gun Industry's Killing in Killing (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris G Jul 20. 15 Replies

America's Best Christian has finally acknowledged that there may be one outfit which has her belief system beat for it's leverage on the government.  No great surprise, it's the NRA and the gun industries.  Betty's a good loser, though.  She's made…Continue

Tags: NRA, guns, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

The God of Cancer (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Jul 18. 10 Replies

Seth Andrews has been through the mill as it comes to dealing with those who insist that their faith in a deity is not just valid but necessary to their lives and to all lives.  Having dealt with that gauntlet and come out the other side an atheist,…Continue

Tags: cancer, god, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

We Are America / Love Has No Labels (John Cena - Ad Council)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Jul 10. 3 Replies

It seems to be a repeating pattern: I wander around the internet and inevitably, I stumble onto all manner of stuff.  It happens all the time on YouTube, and as you doubtless have deduced, yours truly tripped over something a couple minutes ago,…Continue

Tags: patriotism, labels, love, Ad Council, John Cena

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Comment by Randall Smith on January 30, 2016 at 7:34am

Pizza night. I've invited my "kids" over to partake. I'll be spending much of the day cleaning house, esp. the kitchen. Having "company" over is a good excuse to do a thorough cleaning.             We'll celebrate, if you will, my son-in-law's decision and fait accompli to have a vasectomy two days ago. He's 40 with three children (and a great father). I have empathy since I had one after 4 kids. 

Comment by Randall Smith on January 28, 2016 at 8:06am

Thanks, all, for your suggestions. I take them to heart. I'll let you know the results.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 27, 2016 at 6:01pm

Ian, it looks as though the Earth Wind Map directs a lot of wind to your part of the Atlantic system 2016-01-27. 

Atlantic 

Data | Wind @ Surface

Date | 2016-01-27 13:00 Local UTC

Data | Wind @ Surface

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on January 27, 2016 at 3:19pm

Plinius, the painting does reflect our current active core, but I’d rather not restrict ourselves by identifying with that. I particularly miss younger, more diverse An members sharing their experiences here.

Joan, I can relate to kind of "putzing" through one’s days, doing most everything in slow motion. With stable angina I need to carve out new routines that work for me.

Randall,  I agree with Plinius, Bertodd, The Flying Atheist and Joan about how to bring up the subject of parenting.

Comment by Ian Mason on January 27, 2016 at 2:15pm

My daughter became very annoyed some years ago when I broached the subject of the past and my drinking so I've let the matter drop. I think she's aware that a lot of it was self-medicating for depression.

Love the picture, Chris. Stealing it.

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on January 27, 2016 at 11:11am

On the arthritis front, I don't want to do a Dr. Oz here, but years ago I noticed significant stiffness in my knuckles. I read about a supplement that was new at the time called SAM-e. Time mag ran a big article about it back then, claiming it's a natural substance our bodies produce less of as we age. I've been taking it ever since and the symptoms in my knuckles have all but vanished.

Randall, my parents were divorced when I was 11. It seemed quite devastating at the time, but my mom didn't have a lot of choice. Our dad beat the crap out of us on the rare occasions when he was sober and beat the crap out of our mom on the more normal occasions when he was drunk. Of course my mom's boss, a stalwart Catholic orthodontist, promptly fired her because getting a divorce wasn't proper.

In your position I think I would open the door to your children to let them know you're willing to talk if they want to, and leave the choice up to them.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 27, 2016 at 10:34am

Randy, I agree with Chris, "start by telling them something about your own feelings during that time," and listen for an answer. Prepare yourself beforehand to hear what you may not want to hear. If so, don't become defensive, acknowledge whatever you hear. Pay attention to how you feel and describe your feelings without laying blame. You have a right to stand tall and proud of raising your daughters as a single parent. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 27, 2016 at 10:18am

Chris, the painting perfectly reflects our group and makes me laugh.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on January 27, 2016 at 10:09am

That's a great picture, Chris.  I think it represents us very well.  Many of us have lost some of our physicality but not our attitude.

Always nice to hear stories of happy pets.  I wish Dito well.

 

Randy, I think Chris is absolutely correct.  Talking is almost always better.  Perhaps a good way to breach the topic is to tell them how glad you are to see them as happy, grown adults, and that you were worried for them at times because of the divorce.  Like Chris said, that's a good way to open up the subject. 

Comment by Plinius on January 27, 2016 at 8:48am

Scary, but talking is almost always better. You could start by telling them something about your own feelings during that time, to let them know the subject is open. 

 

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