Hang With Friends

Location: Earth
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Come on in, pull up a chair!

Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

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Discussion Forum

Issues Atheist, Feminist, GLBTQ, Climate Change

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by BenGee 13 hours ago. 3 Replies

This is a test Continue

The Whole Bible in 30 Seconds (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randy Hatly on Thursday. 15 Replies

Ever decide that you wanted to read the whole bible, cover to cover, only to realize half-way through Deuteronomy that the darn thing is industrial-strength BORING?!?  Well, never fear!  America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, has done the Cliff's…Continue

Tags: bible, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

punishing doubt (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo on Tuesday. 2 Replies

If you are associated with religion and especially a fundamentalist religion, doubt is intolerable.  Certainty, however it may be achieved or imposed, becomes a necessary element, especially considering the utter dearth of any form of evidence or…Continue

Tags: religion, TheraminTrees, punish, doubt

A moment to relax and see the Earth from space; some how this comforts me.

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Qiana-Maieev Oct 16. 3 Replies

All the squabbles and struggles that I have do not compare with those of some others on this great planet. There are no boundary lines, no political arguments, no up or no down. What is, is. For right now, the scenes offer tranquility. Just the…Continue

Tags: and, wonder, awe, of, space

His Dark Materials and the Catholic Church

Started by Tonya R. Wheeler. Last reply by Plinius Oct 16. 27 Replies

I recently watched the movie, "The Golden Compass" and since I could not find the sequels, I read the books. I enjoyed them, and I will be reading the first one, Northern Lights, starting tomorrow, since it just arrived via inter-library…Continue

Tags: Fantasy, Catholic, Religion, Atheist, Pullman

bending truth, or "We Can All Be Manipulated" (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Sep 29. 39 Replies

The following is one of TheraminTrees' most thorough-going pieces, wherein he looks at the process and techniques whereby a "religious" organization (which will sound VERY familiar to most of us, once introductions are made!) takes a person who…Continue

Tags: indoctrination, truth, manipulation, TheraminTrees

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Comment by Joan Denoo on December 20, 2013 at 7:43pm

Mindy, yes, this is a good place to come and explode in disgust and whatever the feeling. 

I also think it is quite appropriate to state, directly to the one that ticks you off, that you don't like it. Point out exactly what you don't like, You don't need to say why, that is pointless to get into that because he/she will just come back with some sort of denial or defense.  

Just a very simple script: 

"When you  ... say, do, or share an offensive piece ... or whatever. 

"I feel  ... disgust, revulsion, insulted, nauseated ... or whatever. 

"I want you to ... stop, quit, apologize, discontinue, ... or whatever. 

"If you don't ... stop, I will block your site ... or whatever. 

Just remember, 7,200,803,677 other human beings inhabit the Earth and you don't have to put up with any one!!!!! 

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 20, 2013 at 7:29pm

Loren, your music selections refresh me. You have a real ear for beautiful sounds, calm moods, I like your offerings very much. Thanks. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 20, 2013 at 6:46pm

I saw this today and it seems to be particularity appropriate right now. 

Comment by Loren Miller on December 20, 2013 at 6:19pm

To those who wish to assert that shaming religions as silly and not real is not okay:

  • Have you actually READ your holy book?
  • Have you seen some of the utterly ridiculous things it asserts?
    • Talking donkeys and snakes
    • People who live for centuries
    • Creation that took seven days (with no evidentiary support) as opposed to 13.7 billion years (and enormous volumes of evidence)
    • Proscriptions for things like pork, shellfish, and wearing clothes made of two different materials
    • Too many other things to name
  • Are you prepared to offer satisfactory proof that they are for real?

If not, we suggest you either get used to it ... or rethink your attachment to a ridiculous, millennia-old myth.

Comment by Loren Miller on December 19, 2013 at 9:24pm

More delicious music from my all-time favorite jazz ensemble, Oregon:

Comment by sk8eycat on December 19, 2013 at 5:19pm

Oh, that is SO true!  My best friend for the last 10 years is a man  in DC...we talk on the phone a lot, but we've never met face to face, or I would have hugged him and never let go.  We"met" on an atheist forum that no longer exists.  I have 2 or 3 longtime friends from that forum, and we all keep each other hanging onto life when things get rough.

I just thought of a line from one of Armistead Maupin's "Tales of the City" books, "I'd rather have 5 good friends than one mediocre lover."  I've got the friends...gave up on lovers so long ago I can't remember who the last one was; just that he was worse than average.


Comment by Ian Mason on December 19, 2013 at 4:18am

Happy solstice all :-)

Just got home from my night shift and a good workout so these ARE my plans for the day.

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 19, 2013 at 1:51am

sk8eycat, you are a treasure; I got goose bumps all over again when I read your celebration of my news.

You have so many challenges, it is a wonder you keep your keen sense of humor. Having good health care from "an artist" makes such a great difference and you deserve it. Your description of petting Lyle immediately after your surgery and feeling his hair evokes visions of what can happen and should happen in our health delivery system. 

Comment by sk8eycat on December 19, 2013 at 12:39am

Joan, hands started becoming arthritic when I was in my early  40s, and it may have been tendons or ligaments getting hung up on calcium deposits in my fingers.  Also, I had a condition called hyperparthyroidism...a rogue parathyroid gland was drawing calcium out of my bones, and depositing it where it didn't belong...all over my body (and expelling some of it through my kidneys).  A LOT of the deposits slowly went away after I had surgery in 1992, and so did symptoms like trigger finger. 

Oh!  I forgot!  I had carpal tunnel syndrome in both hands, too.  I had the right hand fixed (they wanted to do the left hand first, and I argued and argued till I finally wore them down) in 1993  because I desperately needed to go back to work, and my best office skill always was on the 10-key.  I was a whiz.

The amazing thing was that the carpal tunnel release was done as "day surgery." I wen in at 6AM, they worked on me starting at 11 AM, and I was alert and ready to go home by 2PM.  I was wearing a steel wrist brace wrapped with elastic bandage, but my fingers were free.  The first thing I did when I got home was pet Lyle, the ORNJ cat we had back then, and already I could feel the silky texture of his fur...every single hair...for the first time in years. I cried a little...for joy.

At that time I was going to a County (charity) hospital, and I can't praise the surgeons and nurses who took care of me enough.  The surgeons were senior residents from UCLA Medical School, and they were so gung-ho about finding out the cause of anything and everything,and fixing it.  Another surgeon that I met at a formal banquet a few years later told me that the one who did the parathyroid surgery was "an artist."  The scars from both operations are almost invisible, and always have been.

PS: I just read your good news!  YAYYYY!  CONGRAD-JULASHUNZ!!!  Ai iz sew happee 4 U!  HUGS to the nth degree!

(jumping up and down and singing!)

Have a VERY Sunny Solstice!

Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 18, 2013 at 11:35pm

Sk8eycat, did you just talk trash to me?!  LOL


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