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An AN member passed away

Started by Deidre. Last reply by Deidre Aug 18. 4 Replies

Went into the chat room last Friday night, for the first time in a while, and learned that Mequa passed away. I had been good friends with him for a time, but we had differences and stopped talking back in the spring of this year. I knew however,…Continue

A Parable by Mrs. Betty Bowers

Started by Loren Miller Aug 17. 0 Replies

Betty Bowers is becoming SO GOOD at delivering as America's Best Christian, she now does 30-second parables!  (Okay, 32 seconds!  Picky, picky!) Have You Had YOUR Betty Today?Continue

Tags: bible, parable, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Goodwill to Few Men (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Michael Penn Aug 16. 8 Replies

Think Goodwill Industries does well by the poor?  Fact is, they do WAY BETTER for themselves, to the point where America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, thinks they're ripping off the christian playbook a bit too well!  Have a look for yourself:…Continue

Tags: ripoff, Goodwill Industries, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Steven Weinberg on his anti-theism

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller Aug 2. 4 Replies

I like the sound of Steven Weinberg's voice. He has a calming impact on me as I rush to get my home of 41 years ready to sell and plan and put into motion the new garden at my daughter's home. My home is full o empty boxed quickly filling with the…Continue

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Plinius Jul 10. 12 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

losing faith (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jul 5. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees has recently begun producing a new series of YouTube videos, which added to a wonderful library of earlier observations regarding his experience of religion. Good as all those pieces are, I personally think they pale against this…Continue

Tags: story, history, faith, TheraminTrees

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Comment by The Flying Atheist on May 2, 2013 at 9:24pm

Ugh!!  I hate sitting through a prayer in a restaurant.  Been there, done that several times.  It's embarrassing. 

Melinda/Felaine, about 10 or 11 years ago I made the conscious decision to cut myself off from and rid my life of people who had nothing positive to bring into my life or that I didn't enjoy being around.  I was tired of not getting anything good in return for the effort I put out.  Perhaps to some people that sounds selfish, but my life has been so much better and less stressful as a result.  I just hate drama, unless it's in a movie.  Although I'm a nice, friendly and cordial guy (if I may say so), I'm careful and choosy about who I bring into my inner circle.  You two have done the right thing. 

Comment by sk8eycat on May 2, 2013 at 7:11pm

That one phrase is so true:

"...Christians are some of the most hateful people I know..."

I must admit that one couple I've been close to since jr. high (I was a bridesmaid at the wedding in 1958) who are very sincere about being a Baptist minister and Mrs. Rev., but they are still a lot of fun, and they don't get in my face about my atheism. They like me for myself.  That's all I ask from anybody.

Well, the Rev. does one thing that makes me feel awkward, when we have an informal reunion at the hamburger place where we used to hang out, he insists (doesn't ask) on ad libbing a sermon-length prayer while the fries get cold.  I refuse to bow my head, but I've never started eating while he's putting on his little show,  Maybe next time....

Oh, and they are very proud of being friends with Beverly and Tim LaHaye (of "Left Behind" fame)....and even though the Rev is retired, he still travels and substitutes at churches that need a temp.  And they never have to worry about where their next burgers and fries (and malts) will come from....

Comment by Steph S. on May 2, 2013 at 5:21pm

Comment by sk8eycat on May 2, 2013 at 11:58am

Please excuse all the typos in that last post. There's some rather expensive plumbing work going on out in the patio (replacing a broken pipeline), and it's freaking me out a bit.

I NEVER wanted to be a homeowner. 

Comment by sk8eycat on May 2, 2013 at 11:52am

Joan, you are the LAST person in here that I would call "hard-hearted"!

I have dumped a few basically nice friends in the last 40 years because they tried to drag me "back into the fold" in one way or another.  they were genuinely worried about the state of my non-existent soul, but I just couldn't hack what felt like nagging to me.  I finally just stopped returning phone calls, and when one came no my door one Sunday AM, I just blurted "What part of 'NO' don't you understand?" And quietly shut the door.  It was rude, but it worked.

Sometimes you just have to offend them to get them to quit bugging you.  If they want to discuss beliefs in a friendly way, will listen politely to my/your side of things, and don't proselytize, that's fine. They have to understand that faith in the invisible, unprovable, incredible isn't something one can turn on or off like a light.  I don't believe anymore because I can't. Simple as that.

I have also dumped a formerly close friend, not because of religion but because she's become completely racist, and I can't stand that, either.  I think she's reverting to her upbringing in the Deep South as she gets older.  *shudders*

So, my friend, we deal with truth, not wishful thinking, and the truth is that you and I know we don't have all that much time left... nobody knows exactly how much...but why should we waste it on people that make us uncomfortable?  That isn't hard-heaarted IMO, it's practical.  ;>)

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 2, 2013 at 11:19am
Tom, I understand your point about Dennett not finding a way to politely state his point of view. I share Dennett's value that religion causes more pain and suffering and is not made up by the good that it does. It is the dogma that I/he find so revolting and needing to be articulated out loud.
A very sweet neighbor of mine is a devout believer; I don't want to offend her, however, I do want her to hear my beliefs. If she is offended and if I lose her as a friend, What is, is. Maintaining a relationship or a friendship just doesn't matter that much to me. Guess I am hard hearted, even as I do hear the cries of the world caused by religious beliefs.
Comment by Joan Denoo on May 2, 2013 at 11:17am
Tom, I understand your point about Dennett not finding a way to politely state his point of view. I share Dennett's value that religion causes more pain and suffering and is not made up by the good that it does. It is the dogma that I/he find so revolting and needing to be articulated out loud.
A very sweet neighbor of mine is a devout believer; I don't want to offend her, however, I do want her to hear my beliefs. If she is offended and if I lose her as a friend, What is, is. Maintaining a relationship or a friendship just doesn't matter that much to me. Guess I am hard hearted, even as I do hear the cries of the world caused by religious beliefs.
Comment by Steph S. on May 2, 2013 at 10:35am

Comment by Plinius on May 2, 2013 at 4:20am

And menopause is a blessing, thanks mother nature! Some ten years before that, I was at last old and ugly enough that men could talk to me without being distracted by thinking about seks with me: what a relief! I could talk to them and sometimes they even understood me...

Comment by sk8eycat on May 2, 2013 at 3:59am

"Spiritual" is such a slippery word...if you go back to its origin, "spirit" comes from the Greek (or is it Latin?) word for "breath." In that sense we are all "spiritual" while we are alive. The phrase in the buybull, "the spirit left him," doesn't mean anything more than, "he stopped breathing."

Then there is "Rah! Rah! Rah!" school spirit.  Or lively, as in a "spirited" horse or dog...or any animal, including homo sapiens sapiens.

To me it sometimes means something that makes me gasp (inhale...in medical terminology "inspire.") with wonder and joy...such as standing at the rail of the viewing platform at Niagara Falls, or watching the first moon landing...live, photos of the universe from the Hubble Space Telescope, and videos from Sojourner and Curiosity on Mars.  AND seeing "Billy Elliott - The Musical" last year.

That collection of spirit-based words does NOT have anything to do with the supernatural as far as I'm concerned because there ain't no sich annimule.  As Annie Laurie Gaylor says, "The natural world is super enough for me."

 

 

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