Hang With Friends

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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

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Discussion Forum

The Whole Bible in 30 Seconds (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randy Hatly 21 hours ago. 15 Replies

Ever decide that you wanted to read the whole bible, cover to cover, only to realize half-way through Deuteronomy that the darn thing is industrial-strength BORING?!?  Well, never fear!  America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, has done the Cliff's…Continue

Tags: bible, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

punishing doubt (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo on Tuesday. 2 Replies

If you are associated with religion and especially a fundamentalist religion, doubt is intolerable.  Certainty, however it may be achieved or imposed, becomes a necessary element, especially considering the utter dearth of any form of evidence or…Continue

Tags: religion, TheraminTrees, punish, doubt

A moment to relax and see the Earth from space; some how this comforts me.

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Qiana-Maieev on Sunday. 3 Replies

All the squabbles and struggles that I have do not compare with those of some others on this great planet. There are no boundary lines, no political arguments, no up or no down. What is, is. For right now, the scenes offer tranquility. Just the…Continue

Tags: and, wonder, awe, of, space

His Dark Materials and the Catholic Church

Started by Tonya R. Wheeler. Last reply by Plinius on Sunday. 27 Replies

I recently watched the movie, "The Golden Compass" and since I could not find the sequels, I read the books. I enjoyed them, and I will be reading the first one, Northern Lights, starting tomorrow, since it just arrived via inter-library…Continue

Tags: Fantasy, Catholic, Religion, Atheist, Pullman

Issues Atheist, Feminist, GLBTQ, Climate Change

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Oct 6. 2 Replies

This is a test Continue

bending truth, or "We Can All Be Manipulated" (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Sep 29. 39 Replies

The following is one of TheraminTrees' most thorough-going pieces, wherein he looks at the process and techniques whereby a "religious" organization (which will sound VERY familiar to most of us, once introductions are made!) takes a person who…Continue

Tags: indoctrination, truth, manipulation, TheraminTrees

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Comment by The Flying Atheist on November 27, 2013 at 3:34am

Ian......4 a.m.?!  What are you doing out so late?!  It's Tuesday......a school night! 

Sounds like you had a very fun evening.

What age do pensioner benefits begin in Denmark?  I'm 49 years old, but in 8 short months I'll be 50 and technically eligible to become a member of AARP (the American Association of Retired Persons) and to start receiving "senior citizen" discounts and special offers.  Of course, AARP is not our government run retirement/benefits program.  We have "Social Security" for that purpose.  And for me personally, due to economics, I'll probably have to wait until my early 70's to begin collecting those benefits.  

It's all very depressing......... 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 27, 2013 at 2:20am
Comment by Joan Denoo on November 26, 2013 at 11:09pm

Glad you are home, safe and sound. Go ahead and take those pensioners tickets. What the heck, play it for all you can get. 

Comment by Ian Mason on November 26, 2013 at 9:16pm

It's 4 a.m. and I've just got home from Copenhagen and an evening in the company of the wonderful Black Sabbath. And yes, the feet were stamped, the hands were clapped and the head was banged. A great concert that was all I could have hoped for with an excellent mix of old and new numbers.
The only bad moment was with the coach driver on the way over. He was very nice but it's the 3rd time in 6 months that I've been asked if I wanted a pensioner ticket  The next person to do so will sleep wid da fishes!
Enough. Off to bed soon.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on November 26, 2013 at 8:22pm

Here's a nice little "feel good story" I thought I'd share with all of you. 

Family Photo Blown Away by Tornado Found 150 Miles Away in Jefferso...

Jefferson Park is the neighborhood next to mine here in Chicago.  It's where I catch the "L" to the airport. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 26, 2013 at 7:38pm

Your son-in-law had to learn multi-tasking in a hurry. How funny! God may have had to put him on hold a time or two.

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 26, 2013 at 4:24pm

Having a nice husband and good father is very important and I don't mean to make light of the importance of those relationships. I am sorry to learn that church is their main contact with the outside world. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 26, 2013 at 4:22pm

Ouch, Patricia, five grandchildren can bring a lot of pleasure into one's life and it is too bad to miss out on that. It is really sad to think they will grow old not remembering times with you and your husband. Playing church doesn't offer much opportunity for imagination or questioning.

Three of my great-grandchildren came into our lives when they lost their mother to illness. Their daddy was overwhelmed and when I first met him, he looked like a deer caught in headlights. He has settled down nicely to his new combined family and the three children, all between 12 and 2 years old, were leary at first, very cautious about getting close.

I was recovering from heart surgery at the time and couldn't go exploring in the forest as I did with my own great-grandchildren, or make drums out of fallen logs,  or make things out of found items. So we started out by going outside after dark. I sat in a rocker, put a sheet over my head, shone a flashlight from my lap over my face, then started a ghost story. I passed the flashlight and sheet to the next child who told his/her part of the story, and we kept going around the circle until all the children added to the story. At first, those three couldn't do it at all. They just had no imagination. Over the four years since then, they tell the most fantastic stories. Really clever, full of imagination, very creative. 

Church stories are made up by adults and told to children who become passive learners. My goal with the little ones is to have them become creators, imaginers, and free thinkers. 

When my grandkids were little, I told them of the people I met on my research projects, and they told stories of their experiences and their friends. We also did "What if"" stories or "How come?" ones, or "Who is it?" or ... any topic that gets them imagining. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 26, 2013 at 3:58pm

Mindy, your cartoon didn't come onto my wall, but I was able to retrieve it in the email. 

Now here is an interesting situation. You are a guest in someone else's home; they give a blessing, my decision is to not close my eyes, not bow my head and not say "Amen". 

If I am the host, especially if children are at my table, I offer thanks to the farmers or gardeners who grew the food, and the source of grocer or farmers market. No heads bowed, no eyes closed, no amens. 

Sometimes I am questioned if that is a prayer and I respond that it is a statement of appreciation for all those who made our meal possible. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 26, 2013 at 3:31pm

The key element here, in both your cases, is you want to maintain relationships with the ones with whom you set limits. That is the appropriate, healthy and responsible thing to do. 

For myself, I have heard all the religion for more than one lifetime; I don't need any more information, I need to be free of the entanglement that happens when loved ones want me to be saved. I made the decision to set limits, if my conditions are violated, I block their communication and not seek to participate with them. 

Funny thing, I have talked about this before, most of the people that I blocked because they stepped over the line I set, have sought contact with me. I reassure them I am available if religion does not invade our relationships. If they have difficulty sorting out their feelings and needs, I can help them sort; I need no proselytizing. 

Whatever you decide, and for whatever reason, it is up to you to decide for you. Your decision is no one else's business.

If one feels stuck in a relationship that violates one's limits, that indicates there are mixed needs. Those internal conflicts need to be sorted out, a decision made, and then one is not a victim.  


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