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Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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The Playboy Interview: Richard Dawkins

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris yesterday. 14 Replies

I suppose it was the news that Playboy magazine was returning nudes to its pages after a year's hiatus that sufficiently perked my curiosity to check them out again.  I hadn't looked at Playboy since perhaps 2008, when I began to recognize that I…Continue

Tags: Richard Dawkins, Playboy

Such Lyrics!

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Grinning Cat Feb 13. 9 Replies

Hello Friends,I was ruminating a bit today on my sixty-some years existence. My mind went back to teenage years when I first figured out religion is not only obnoxiously loud, but also nothing I wanted anything to do with. Truly. I knew by age 15…Continue

degrading love — part two (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Feb 11. 1 Reply

TheraminTrees set up religion with his left in Part One of his treatise on how religion demeans and degrades the value of love.  Here in Part Two, he brings in a devastating, "Mike Tyson" right, which negates and invalidates any claim that either…Continue

Tags: Christianity, Islam, TheraminTrees, god, love

Questions......

Started by Thomas Murray. Last reply by k.h. ky Feb 9. 6 Replies

   It has been 6 month now since I signed up for Atheist Nexus membership. The past year has been sort of a bi-polar wave of emotions for me. I hope I wasn't offensive to the folks on here and I think I have been but I don't know to who. My desire…Continue

Proud Dad is REALLY Proud Now!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris Jan 31. 15 Replies

As some of you may or may not know, my daughter is a television news producer, currently working in Nashville, Tennessee.  Her assignment is the morning news, which means she blasts herself up at umpti-ump in the morning to organize and prepare a…Continue

Tags: Emmy, news, television, daughter, dad

Men who challenge men to stop violence

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Jan 9. 19 Replies

Many men join in the effort to reduce violence against women and children and other men. He speaks of the need to place responsibility on men instead of focusing on women to stop violence. He offers a breath of fresh air, as do so many of the men on…Continue

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Comment by Grinning Cat on February 26, 2014 at 1:01am

Felaine, thanks for bringing Mabel Fairbanks to my (and others') attention -- she deserves to be known far and wide!

Comment by sk8eycat on February 25, 2014 at 7:13pm

Black History Month...Yahoo posted photos and short tributes about 60 African-American women who broke color barriers and/or were "first" in various professions, but they effing left out Mabel!

This 1998 is the best article I've ever seen about her, even without the photo that was originally printed with it.

http://articles.latimes.com/1998/feb/19/news/ls-20524

IMNSHO Mabel still beats the *bleep!* out of Beyonce.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 25, 2014 at 1:25am

Chris, you are not broken, you are paying attention to what your body is telling you and honoring its messages to you. Good for you!

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 25, 2014 at 1:21am

Felaine, excellent article, full of good data that reveals the scope of our dilemma. I agree wholeheartedly that it will not be government or wealthy oligarch who will bring us out of this miss. It is the people ourselves. We have to stand up to them, to challenge them, to confront them and then work like the devil to get money out of politics. 

Comment by Plinius on February 25, 2014 at 12:46am

Thanks for the hugs, that is something that really helps. Like Sk8eycat, I'm stuck here, there's no one to delegate. And I was never prepared to let my partner do all the work himself, so I tried to do half of the workload like any partner would. It's bizarre that it can break me in six weeks.

Comment by sk8eycat on February 25, 2014 at 12:42am

Joan, or challenge those who take, and take, and give (secretly) to those who run campaigns to elect people who help the takers get more of whatever they want.  I'm thinking of the Walton family (Walphart), and the Koch brothers who have joined up with Karl Rove...one of the most evil political puppet masters of our era.

Income inequality in the US is so out of line with other industrialized nations that it's outrageous.  Most European CEOs ratio of income compared to average workers is somewhere between 15:1 to 25:1.  In the US it's more like 300:1 to 400:1

Those clowns are just NOT worth that much money ...and thy are using their ill-gotten gainst to change our government at all levels.

http://www.dailykos.com/story/2014/02/24/1279850/-Income-Inequality...

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 25, 2014 at 12:42am

Chris, I am so very sorry you have all these pressures on you. There seems to be no relief for you in sight. Is it possible for you to turn off the phone, to lie back and just catch your breath? Can you say "NO" to some of the demands placed on you? Is there someone who can help?

As I understand your predicament, others make demands on you that they have no right to make. In a way, I am urging you to refuse to be a victim of life's circumstances and set limits that seem right for you. Is that at all possible?  

By all means, you are not weak! Your body gives you messages that you need to pay attention to and honor. You have the responsibility to pace yourself in the many tasks that lie ahead of you. Others have no right to impose tasks on you that are beyond your ability to handle. Your body is your friend telling you to set limits. 

If you feel any shame or guilt at not being able to do all the details, then you can just chuck those feelings in the toilet and get some rest, relax the way that works best for you, and take great pride in your gentle, caring nature.

I join in the group hug; my thoughts are with you hoping you can rest your body and your mind. 

Comment by Ian Mason on February 24, 2014 at 10:44pm

Sorry to hear about your siuation, Chris. Everyone has a point where he/she is over-burdened and you've gone beyong yours. That is NOT weakness. I hope you can find some way of delegating or of taking a break. You deserve some time for yourself. Hugs and good wishes from here.

Nice one, Napoleon. One day it might come true.

Comment by sk8eycat on February 24, 2014 at 4:34pm

Chris, you are beyond being able to relax on your own, especially if your heart rate is out of control.  Can't your GP give you something, a mild tranquilizer, to help you get through this stressful period?  So many people think "tranquilizers = evil" but at times we do need more help than our bodies can provide, and I think that's what's happening to you (even though I'm half a world away...almost).  I took care of both my parents at home while they were going through all kinds of medical hell...at the same time, and there were days when I wanted to run away...and leave no forwarding address.  I still feel that way when my sister's autism/Asperger's gets on my nerves, but I can't.  No place to run to, and no car to get me to one.  I'm stuck here.  And I do get occasional chemical help (I don't drink, so I get an Rx for a very mild relaxer, and am looking into herbal remedies.)

In the meantime, I AM thinking of you, wishing someone in your family would realize it's NOT YOUR JOB  to do everything.  And it's NOT YOUR FAULT that you aren't Superwoman.  Nobody is.

Adding my cyber-hugs to Mindy's {{{{{Chris}}}}}  And many purrs and head-bonks from my two lazy cats.  (How does one type a head-bonk?  >^..^<)

Comment by Idaho Spud on February 24, 2014 at 1:14pm

Chris, I'm sorry about your stress-load.  

I would ask if you can delegate, but that's probably as stupid as your GP's suggestion.  Plus, I hate delegating.  I like things done my way.

I am learning my limit however.  When I reach it, I just refuse to do anymore, despite people thinking I'm lazy.

 

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