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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

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Men who challenge men to stop violence

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Jan 9. 19 Replies

Many men join in the effort to reduce violence against women and children and other men. He speaks of the need to place responsibility on men instead of focusing on women to stop violence. He offers a breath of fresh air, as do so many of the men on…Continue

Ian, a beautiful New Years blessing.

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Chris Jan 5. 7 Replies

Ian, for some reason, my comment would not "send" on Hang with Friends; perhaps it will here!Ian, a beautiful New Years blessing. It goes in my file. I especially like the thought of surprising myself. Laura made a special trip to my Spokane home to…Continue

degrading love — part two (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jan 1. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees set up religion with his left in Part One of his treatise on how religion demeans and degrades the value of love.  Here in Part Two, he brings in a devastating, "Mike Tyson" right, which negates and invalidates any claim that either…Continue

Tags: Christianity, Islam, TheraminTrees, god, love

The Ark Encounter: A Less than Grand Opening (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Idaho Spud Dec 31, 2016. 27 Replies

The day finally arrived.  Ken Ham's Ark Encounter opened on 7 July, 2016 ... to something a bit less than Disney-sized crowds, and more than a couple dissenting voices!  Seth Andrews has gathered a quartet of significant participants in the protest…Continue

Tags: Tracey Moody, Dan Broadbent, Seth Andrews, David Silverman, AronRa

Learning a Language as a Mature Adult

Started by Daniel W. Last reply by Idaho Spud Dec 14, 2016. 27 Replies

Trying to keep my mind exercised, and not interested in most of the reading materials that I can find.I decided to attempt to learn a language.  Actually, two.  The dilemma is, how do I do that without going to school - not an option - and without…Continue

What Annoys God Most? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Dec 7, 2016. 10 Replies

Long story short, it's those near misses, the almost-but-not-quite, close but no cheroot moments, or, would you believe ... Near Death Experiences!  So what's the big deal?  Betty Bowers, America's BEST Christian and self-proclaimed expert on such…Continue

Tags: Near Death Experiences, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

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Comment by Idaho Spud on January 24, 2014 at 2:02pm

Chris, thanks for the tea and potato wish.  I do also.

Carl, thanks for the compliment and potato meal wish.  

Joan, thanks for the friendship.  Just in case you missed it, I only said some of your thoughts are too Buddhist for my taste.  Smile:)

Mindy, my first thought is also the worst case scenario in a lot of situations.  I think my meditation is watching my 300 favorite movies (mostly comedies) every year.  I like reading your posts. You have some good thoughts and often make me smile.

I can say much the same for Chris, Carl, Loren, Felaine, Joan, Patricia, Daniel, and a bunch more (sorry if I forgot you).  When an unknown rich relative leaves me a cool $million (yeah, right!), I'll come for a visit.

Comment by Loren Miller on January 24, 2014 at 1:56pm

Feh ... I'm doing.  Cold outside, but not INSIDE, which is a good thing!

Comment by Loren Miller on January 24, 2014 at 1:17pm

I thought this was just CLASSIC:


Comment by The Flying Atheist on January 24, 2014 at 12:00pm

Spud, it's always a pleasure to read your comments and to hear your views.  I second what Chris said......it would be fun to sit down and share a baked potato meal with you. 

When my sister lived in northern California, years ago she gave me the cookbook "Small Potatoes" from the Luther Burbank Home and Gardens in Santa Rosa.  The whole book is everything potatoes.  From appetizers, soups, salads, breads, entrees, and desserts.  I've had a lot of good eating from that book.   

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 24, 2014 at 11:15am

Spud, I know what you mean when you wrote, "her thoughts are too Buddhist for my taste." They get on my nerves sometimes as well. I love the feedback. You are a true friend, honest, to the point, and clear. I have to say this site encourages such attributes. 

Comment by Plinius on January 24, 2014 at 9:57am

How I wish I could drop in for tea and a potato, Spud!

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 24, 2014 at 9:38am

Mindy, I can understand how you are stressed.  I would be much worse if I had children to worry about.

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 24, 2014 at 9:35am

Mindy, I'm a worrier too.  I don't handle stress well.  

My depression and stress have decreased dramatically since leaving mormonism behind, but I still have them more than I want.

I think this site helps a lot.  Joan is always giving good thoughts to calm us down, and I know she helps me, even though some of her thoughts are too Buddhist for my taste.  

Others here help me also, mostly by just being someone to talk to, limited as it might be on the internet.

Being alone, with no one to talk to is the greatest factor in my depression and stress.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 23, 2014 at 11:22pm

Hey, What a son! Just a few rapids in the river of life. The good news is you and he have the courage, and wisdom, and intelligence to take them on, one at a time, and move past them. 

As you know, I am not a great fan of Buddhism, but I do the smorgasbord thing with their teachings. I found simple phrases help my move past a worry, i.e.

"What is, is" (Daniel likes this one, too). or

"The cause of all suffering is desire; end desire; end pain." or 

"If a problem is fixable, fix it. If it is not fixable, then there is no help in worrying." 

"Change takes place through action, not prayer or meditations, but action." 

I would change this one to:

"Change takes place through thought and action, not prayer or meditation, but through thought and action."

There is an old Liberation theology belief that Paulo Freire taught, that thought without action is of no value; action without thought is chaos.

"Choose thought + action = Praexis."

You know how those silent things we tell ourselves that keep us from solving a problem or conflict? Well, they are the negative self-talk that can spell the difference between success and failure. I can't cite the study that was done, but I remember the finding. Mountain climbers who say to themselves, "I can't do it" have less success at mountain climbing than the climbers who say to themselves, "I can do this!" 

Good thinking and doing!

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 23, 2014 at 5:53pm

Good news about your son's raise Mindy.  Hope his knee is no problem.

What is your heart monitor for?

 

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