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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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God's Annual Performance Review (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on Monday. 6 Replies

I don't know about you guys, but there wasn't a performance review I had in 30 years of field service that I didn't LOATHE.  It seems as though Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, is up for turning the tables on the person you would expect would…Continue

Tags: review, performance, god, American's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Learning a Language as a Mature Adult

Started by Daniel W. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 2. 28 Replies

Trying to keep my mind exercised, and not interested in most of the reading materials that I can find.I decided to attempt to learn a language.  Actually, two.  The dilemma is, how do I do that without going to school - not an option - and without…Continue

The Playboy Interview: Richard Dawkins

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris Feb 19. 14 Replies

I suppose it was the news that Playboy magazine was returning nudes to its pages after a year's hiatus that sufficiently perked my curiosity to check them out again.  I hadn't looked at Playboy since perhaps 2008, when I began to recognize that I…Continue

Tags: Richard Dawkins, Playboy

Such Lyrics!

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Grinning Cat Feb 13. 9 Replies

Hello Friends,I was ruminating a bit today on my sixty-some years existence. My mind went back to teenage years when I first figured out religion is not only obnoxiously loud, but also nothing I wanted anything to do with. Truly. I knew by age 15…Continue

degrading love — part two (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Feb 11. 1 Reply

TheraminTrees set up religion with his left in Part One of his treatise on how religion demeans and degrades the value of love.  Here in Part Two, he brings in a devastating, "Mike Tyson" right, which negates and invalidates any claim that either…Continue

Tags: Christianity, Islam, TheraminTrees, god, love

Questions......

Started by Thomas Murray. Last reply by k.h. ky Feb 9. 6 Replies

   It has been 6 month now since I signed up for Atheist Nexus membership. The past year has been sort of a bi-polar wave of emotions for me. I hope I wasn't offensive to the folks on here and I think I have been but I don't know to who. My desire…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on February 13, 2014 at 1:44am

That is the important thing, Chris, to be with and live with people who are partners on a team. No domination or submission, no violence and no aggression. Being happy with someone you respect is a wonderful thing. I look back on those early years of my life and of my children and I just shudder. Never, in my wildest dreams did I ever think I would be part of such a civilized family. The lesson is clear, don't put up with unacceptable behaviors. 

The odd part of this, my ten year old daughter put her hands on her hips, said to her dad, "You don't have a right to treat me this way!" She was the one that awakened me to the insanity of our lives. That very month we loaded the car and headed north from Texas to Washington state. Life has been better and healthier from that day forward. No money, our only food was from our garden, no job, no job skills, and we made it. I am, of all women, most grateful that we pulled it off. 

Comment by Plinius on February 13, 2014 at 12:48am

I love a family like yours, Joan! Teamspirit, love and cooperation are such wonderful things in a group! I've always been sorry that we never managed to enlarge our team, but the two of us make a very good team.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 12, 2014 at 11:46pm

Thank you for your all your kind words. I just feel so overwhelmed about how my family turned out when it was absolutely a fractured, suffering, unhappy, afraid, angry one only 39 years ago. We have built a real team and the granddaughters seem to be following the trends we put in place. 

Born into a violent family, married a violent man, and all that is gone now. Never to return. Seeing the younger generations all using good communication skills, problem solving and conflict resolution, with lots of debate, discussions, differences of opinions and they continue to use those wonderful tools. My heart is just about bursting with joy, and pride, and great hope that others can learn and develop such environments. 

They all have a gentle hand with the dogs, cats, horses, and wildlife. 

Peace! 

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 12, 2014 at 11:20pm

Chris, great photo. Just what makes the best sense. 

Comment by sk8eycat on February 12, 2014 at 9:54pm

Joan, I read this a couple of weeks ago and thought of you...but then you weren't around, at least not in this group, for a while so I didn't post it.  I need to get it off my saggy chest before I forget it, so here goes!

"Some of the best things in history  have been accomplished by people who got 'tired of being pushed around.' "  by Robert A. Heinlein - in several different books.

It may be your own personal history that you changed, but I have the feeling that you have helped many other people improve their lives, so here's to you! [Lifts teacup in salute, along with the biggest smile in my repertoire...(I used to know how to go out on the ice and really "sell it."  I can still do that!) ]

Love,

Elaine aka Felaine  

(The "F" is legit; my first name is Frances, but that was Mother's name, too, so I have been called "Elaine" since the day I was born.  Causes all kinds of fun when I have to show my Medicare card...  And now you all know my big "secret."  Tee-hee!)

Comment by Idaho Spud on February 12, 2014 at 7:50pm

Glad you had a nice day Mindy.

I agree that Joan has made a wonderful family.

Comment by Idaho Spud on February 12, 2014 at 7:48pm

Sorry for your bad day Mindy, and hoping for a better one tomorrow.

Comment by Idaho Spud on February 12, 2014 at 7:39pm

Nice spring video Carl.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 12, 2014 at 3:23pm

Mindy, I am very happy to learn that you are having a little outing today with your mother and daughter! Hope that dark cloud is dissipating a bit, and you feel like you have better control over your life.

You came to the right place for a rant, you are entitled with all the stressful events in your life. Just remember, you can't eat an elephant in one bite ... take one bite at a time and work it through.  

Your resilience and flexibility exist in your character; your strength endures. 

Just as the Mexican plum refreshes and restores each year, you have cycles of dormancy, blossom, fruit, harvest, and dormancy again. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on February 12, 2014 at 3:10pm

Chris, I love your photo of the relaxing cat. 

Joan, it sounds as if you're always surrounded by people you love.  How lucky for you!

 

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