Hang With Friends

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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

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maggie and milly and molly and may (Edward Estlin Cummings & Eric Whitacre)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 20. 2 Replies

It's amazing what you discover when you go looking for something you had no idea you'd find.  On an impulse, I pulled up Eric Whitacre's website to see if he had created any new pieces.  It would seem that he has: a song cycle called The City and…Continue

Tags: e e cummings, Eric Whitacre

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISIS

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Randall Smith Nov 18. 1 Reply

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISISGrowth in population, policies and practices that create a gap between the typical person and the wealthy,…Continue

Passive and Active voices

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 16. 1 Reply

Have you noticed that much of the discussion in families and with friends, in the print media, on TV, and now on the internet is in the Passive Voice? Many people whine, complain, gripe, accuse, blame, call names, ridicule, grumble, bitch, rebuke,…Continue

Tags: and, behaviors, communication., attitudes, learned

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by The Flying Atheist Nov 14. 2 Replies

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested"In 2009, a Wayne County assistant prosecuting attorney noticed…Continue

Tags: women, Enough, SAID, black, victims

Something Beautiful – Nathan Phelps & Seth Andrews

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 10. 7 Replies

And it is beautiful, too, indeed, I think some of Seth Andrews' best work.  Interesting point: rather than Seth's dulcet baritone doing the narration, this piece presses Nathan Phelps' deep bass intonation into service, bringing a different flavor…Continue

Tags: Nathan Phelps, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, beautiful, something

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Joan Denoo Oct 27. 14 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

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Comment by Plinius on April 28, 2013 at 1:48pm

Thanks Flying Atheist, and a good weekend to all of you. I could even work in my veg roof garden today, at last it's turning green!

Comment by Idaho Spud on April 28, 2013 at 12:23pm

Melinda, thanks for "Everybody gets a drumstick."

Comment by tom sarbeck on April 28, 2013 at 10:09am

booklover: "I agree with Steph about better to have no friends than the wrong ones."

Unless you live in a small, bigot-laden town, I doubt it's necessary to have no friends. Years ago when my work was about to take my wife and me from Florida to Texas, my brother's wife protested that we would be leaving our friends. Surprised, I told her we would go out and make new friends. We did.

One exception, I find myself unable to make friends of ministers, priests, etc. I consider them swindlers.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on April 28, 2013 at 9:40am

I hope you're all having a good weekend.  It's finally warm and sunny here!!

Comment by Ian Mason on April 28, 2013 at 12:59am

Melinda, you've had all the good advice there is so I won't add more.

"Why do you care?" YES, that gets up my nose too. I care because that religious stuff is DANGEROUS. As soon as anyone believes that the "Truth", perfect and unquestionable, is out there the seed is sown for fanaticism. On top of that, believers expect respect for just being believers and religion is held to be above criticism. How often have we said that certain behaviour is unacceptable and been rebuffed with "but it's their religion"? Dennet's book "Breaking the Spell" goes into this in detail and if anyone hasn't read it, I can recommend doing so.

Comment by Lillie on April 28, 2013 at 12:07am

Melinda, I had the same thing happen with a friend who was becoming very pushy and dictatorial.  I began having other plans whenever she called.  Eventually she stopped calling.  You could tell your friend that alcohol no longer agrees with you and you would just rather not be around it.  Or more to the point you could tell her that it is becoming more difficult to discuss religion as you have moved so far from these discussions.  At any rate, I know you will be able to deal with this as you are becoming more confident in the direction your life is taking.  I like to think that A/N is playing a part in this.  Good luck.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 27, 2013 at 10:56pm

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 27, 2013 at 10:23pm

sk8eycat, you write, "I am so passionate about keeping religion out of politics" reveals that you have understanding about the long range consequences of mixing the two. 

Remember the physician, Dr. Ignaz Philipp Semmelweis, who realized doctors were infecting their patients with some unseen infections and tried to convince them to wash their hands between touching those who are sick. His colleagues laughed at him and called him insane. The poor man was committed to an asylum, where he died at age 47 after being beaten by the guards, only 14 days after he was committed.

Or remember the geologist, J Harlen Bretz, who published research papers in 1923 theorizing water caused the landforms in eastern and southern Washington state, even though there was no evidence of water that could have done it. Other geologists laughed at him and dismissed him. A man by the name of Joseph T. Pardee knew where the water came from. It wasn't until mid-1950s Bretz’s interpretations could no longer be ignored, and the geology society accepted his theory.

We are, today, at the place where people do not recognize the risk of mixing church and state. Either they don't remember history, or they believe some superpower will come to our rescue, or their economic futures are tied to the value of using religion to control the public. 

Observe the evidence; it is clear what side of the fence you are on and even if you stand alone, you are correct. 

Comment by Steph S. on April 27, 2013 at 10:07pm

I would rather have no friends than the wrong type of friends.

Comment by Steph S. on April 27, 2013 at 10:07pm

Actually Ruth you have it right. I would advise Melinda the same way, and like you I don't have any real life friends- just friends here on the site. Just the online type friend.


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