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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Men who challenge men to stop violence

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Jan 9. 19 Replies

Many men join in the effort to reduce violence against women and children and other men. He speaks of the need to place responsibility on men instead of focusing on women to stop violence. He offers a breath of fresh air, as do so many of the men on…Continue

Ian, a beautiful New Years blessing.

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Chris Jan 5. 7 Replies

Ian, for some reason, my comment would not "send" on Hang with Friends; perhaps it will here!Ian, a beautiful New Years blessing. It goes in my file. I especially like the thought of surprising myself. Laura made a special trip to my Spokane home to…Continue

degrading love — part two (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jan 1. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees set up religion with his left in Part One of his treatise on how religion demeans and degrades the value of love.  Here in Part Two, he brings in a devastating, "Mike Tyson" right, which negates and invalidates any claim that either…Continue

Tags: Christianity, Islam, TheraminTrees, god, love

The Ark Encounter: A Less than Grand Opening (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Idaho Spud Dec 31, 2016. 27 Replies

The day finally arrived.  Ken Ham's Ark Encounter opened on 7 July, 2016 ... to something a bit less than Disney-sized crowds, and more than a couple dissenting voices!  Seth Andrews has gathered a quartet of significant participants in the protest…Continue

Tags: Tracey Moody, Dan Broadbent, Seth Andrews, David Silverman, AronRa

Learning a Language as a Mature Adult

Started by Daniel W. Last reply by Idaho Spud Dec 14, 2016. 27 Replies

Trying to keep my mind exercised, and not interested in most of the reading materials that I can find.I decided to attempt to learn a language.  Actually, two.  The dilemma is, how do I do that without going to school - not an option - and without…Continue

What Annoys God Most? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Dec 7, 2016. 10 Replies

Long story short, it's those near misses, the almost-but-not-quite, close but no cheroot moments, or, would you believe ... Near Death Experiences!  So what's the big deal?  Betty Bowers, America's BEST Christian and self-proclaimed expert on such…Continue

Tags: Near Death Experiences, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

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Comment by Joan Denoo on November 26, 2013 at 3:58pm

Mindy, your cartoon didn't come onto my wall, but I was able to retrieve it in the email. 

Now here is an interesting situation. You are a guest in someone else's home; they give a blessing, my decision is to not close my eyes, not bow my head and not say "Amen". 

If I am the host, especially if children are at my table, I offer thanks to the farmers or gardeners who grew the food, and the source of grocer or farmers market. No heads bowed, no eyes closed, no amens. 

Sometimes I am questioned if that is a prayer and I respond that it is a statement of appreciation for all those who made our meal possible. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 26, 2013 at 3:31pm

The key element here, in both your cases, is you want to maintain relationships with the ones with whom you set limits. That is the appropriate, healthy and responsible thing to do. 

For myself, I have heard all the religion for more than one lifetime; I don't need any more information, I need to be free of the entanglement that happens when loved ones want me to be saved. I made the decision to set limits, if my conditions are violated, I block their communication and not seek to participate with them. 

Funny thing, I have talked about this before, most of the people that I blocked because they stepped over the line I set, have sought contact with me. I reassure them I am available if religion does not invade our relationships. If they have difficulty sorting out their feelings and needs, I can help them sort; I need no proselytizing. 

Whatever you decide, and for whatever reason, it is up to you to decide for you. Your decision is no one else's business.

If one feels stuck in a relationship that violates one's limits, that indicates there are mixed needs. Those internal conflicts need to be sorted out, a decision made, and then one is not a victim.  

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 26, 2013 at 2:52pm

Patricia, I am happy to learn you have time to investigate which computer will work best for you. There are lots of brands from which to choose. I look forward to learning what you decide. 

Have to keep these lines open to chat with this group. Never boring, always enlightening, and very often fun. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 26, 2013 at 2:49pm

Patricia, sounds as though you make a very responsible decision in this case. You want to keep the relationship with your daughter and grandchild and in order to do that you have to set limits on subject matter.

Good for you. You are not the villain in this situation; you know what you know and what you need. Taking care of yourself is essential for mental health. Listening to or participating in a conversation, such as religion, with them is of no interest to you and your line should be drawn. 

If you don't have choices, you become a victim. Because you do have choices, and because you have drawn the line, you are not a victim. You are a decent, wise and compassionate person. 

I support you 100%.

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 26, 2013 at 1:47pm

@Patricia, I asked Laura her recommendation and here is her response: 

"It sounds like your friend is at the point I was at in 2007 when I was "so done" with Microsoft computers. If she is interested in switching to Apple, the type of computer depends on her needs. Does she need portable or not. If portability is important to her then a Macbook is the way to go. If portability is not important then an iMac is a wonderful solution." Laura

Keep in mind that Laura has her own business designing web pages for professionals, her husband builds network systems for professionals. They have lots of experiences and knowledge. 

I hope you find what is right for you. I have MacBook that I use every day, an iMac that I use for designing/creating albums, and I still have an ancient Microsoft that I never use. It has old documents from years ago.  

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 26, 2013 at 10:31am

SILENCE IMPLIES AGREEMENT! 

Comment by Idaho Spud on November 25, 2013 at 10:18pm

Tasty sounding recipes Joan.  I've saved them to try.

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 25, 2013 at 10:09pm

Steph, I like: "If atheism is a religion, then off is a TV channel."

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 25, 2013 at 10:08pm

Steph, Now, that pigeon photo is funny! 

Patricia and Spud, most prepared food is far too sweet for me as well. I make my own whipped cream with top grade, very fresh heavy cream, with just a sprinkle of turbinado sugar and a dollop of Nielsen-Massey Vanillas, Madagascar Bourbon Vanilla Bean Paste.
The ancient cranberry sauce recipe off the package with ground cranberries, oranges, and about half the sugar works for me. Toss in a handful of chopped roasted walnuts and you have ambrosia. 

Comment by Idaho Spud on November 25, 2013 at 10:01pm

That's the best response I've heard to that ridiculous religious accusation Steph.  

I must admit I was guilty of accusing atheists of that when I was in the brainwashed state.  It's such an incredibly dumb thing to say, on so many levels, that I'm now at a loss to why I was proud of thinking of and saying it.

 

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