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Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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bending truth, or "We Can All Be Manipulated" (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller 16 hours ago. 39 Replies

The following is one of TheraminTrees' most thorough-going pieces, wherein he looks at the process and techniques whereby a "religious" organization (which will sound VERY familiar to most of us, once introductions are made!) takes a person who…Continue

Tags: indoctrination, truth, manipulation, TheraminTrees

punishing doubt (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Sep 6. 0 Replies

If you are associated with religion and especially a fundamentalist religion, doubt is intolerable.  Certainty, however it may be achieved or imposed, becomes a necessary element, especially considering the utter dearth of any form of evidence or…Continue

Tags: religion, TheraminTrees, punish, doubt

We Don't Want Your (Atheist) Money! (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Idaho Spud Sep 2. 17 Replies

I suppose I've heard stories like this before:Conscientious atheist donates money to worthy cause.Worthy cause initially accepts money.Worthy cause discovers source of donation.Worthy cause rejects donation.Swell, eh?  Well Matt Willbourne of…Continue

Tags: American Baptist Churches Association, Murrow Indian Children's Home, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

The Whole Bible in 30 Seconds (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randy Hatly Sep 2. 3 Replies

Ever decide that you wanted to read the whole bible, cover to cover, only to realize half-way through Deuteronomy that the darn thing is industrial-strength BORING?!?  Well, never fear!  America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, has done the Cliff's…Continue

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Are You a Patriot? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris G Aug 29. 22 Replies

You might think that Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, would be stepping outside of her comfort zone in tackling the concept of patriotism.  As it turns out, not only does she have a proper handle on the term and its implications, she also…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on August 6, 2013 at 7:19pm

booklover, I can identify with what you mean about changing from a "ditz" to a real person in your own right. My former husband used to come to visit every couple of years and stayed in my home. One time he asked me "what happened to that sweet young person I married?" I told him I grew up. And if felt so good. 

Ruth, it was in my master's degree program at Whitworth where I learned these communication skills. My three kids were in high school at the time, and they would attend some of our seminars and learned right along with me. Even though they were so young, a lot of the skills became incorporated into their life styles. They were all relatively young and weren't able to put those skills into good practice for a couple more years, but the seeds were planted in them and they evolved into skilled communicators. When Laura took the first courses about five years ago, I read some of her reference books and discovered the same authors as I had read. So, she not only has more training than I, now, and her whole family has since taken several courses, they value critical thinking, self-awareness, learn to like themselves and they added more tools to move on. Laura and Larry each have their own businesses, are entrepreneurial, and don't blame others for their successes and failures. I am so very proud of what they have done.

The Flying Atheist, glad your exam was routine. Love your photo of butterfly and flower. Pretty colors and textures, and natural. Perfect food for feelings. 

Patricia, lovely fantasy world. 

  

Comment by The Flying Atheist on August 6, 2013 at 5:19pm

Joan, thanks for your kind words.  My medical appointment was a routine checkup.  

The sky quickly cleared up this morning and today has turned out to be a nice, sunny day.  

  

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on August 6, 2013 at 1:38pm

What an amazing story of personal transformation through learning communication skills, Joan. It hardly sounds possible. I too am a big fan of communications skills, but took the route of graduate school courses. Your approach sure sounds like it works too.

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 6, 2013 at 11:52am

Chris Breman, I am so sorry t learn of your continuing hot weather. I would love to share our lovely cool breezes with you, especially at night. What do you do to find some relief? 

The Flying Atheist, hope your medical check up turns out well! Take really good care of yourself, you are too precious to waste. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 6, 2013 at 11:42am

Just a bit of information, my daughter married a man I couldn't stand. He was opinionated, know it all, arrogant, crude, rude, judgmental, and his behavior was simply outrageous. Laura put up with it a few years, getting more and more frustrated as she grew older. Then, one day, she laid it on the line, get some relationship and communication skill training or he was out of there. He did, and he evolved into the nicest, most compassionate, sweet heart I could want for a son-in-law. I adore him and so does Laura. Their two daughters think the world of him and give sincere praise for the changes he made in his life and in theirs. He chose the same kind of training I received at Whitworth under the presidency of Ed Lindaman, only his training was through Landmark. I took some of those courses and they are essentially the same as Lindaman's philosophy. My daughter was the first to take the courses, and that gave her the confidence to identify what she wanted in life and to know that she was not getting it. Then Larry took them, the two daughters, then one son-in-law, then the two oldest grandkids took the pre-teen and teenage courses. Laura's father was going to take it but died before he could. My son, Craig, and his wife have taken the courses and so have their two boys. When we all got together for five days this summer, it was amazing to watch the two families blend together, using problem solving, conflict resolution, and communication skills. 

The Landmark Forum

Some people call it a cult. Nonsense! it is a relationship, communication training course. It requires one to examine old attitudes, beliefs, customs, traditions and values and make a decision if these continue to hold true. It is an experiential kind of training, with exercises to learn at the cellular level. Recently, Larry returned from an advanced communication course and he paid attention to what each of us was saying. It felt so good, so nice, so affirming. We had honest conversations, didn't have to defend ourselves because of his arrogant self-righteousness, and we all benefited. 

I know of no other program that makes fundamental positive changes in an individual, a family, a business, an organization, as Landmark.

 

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 6, 2013 at 11:38am

Good morning everyone. A beautiful partly cloudy day, 67 degrees F at 8:48 AM. We had two days of very heavy rain that knocked down all the Monarda. The hummingbirds keep coming, even feeding almost next to the ground. Thankfully Siamese Cat hasn't been around to nibble on them. Goldfinches are back today and seems to like the feeders. One, a brilliant yellow, the other muted yellow. Male and female I suppose. No Tail Squirrel has reappeared, as well as Fat Tail, Skinny Tail and Notched Tail. I haven't seen Chickadees. Guess I will have to make a Chickadee Song playlist. Hummingbirds just started their daily dive bombing my head ... they never touch me, but come within a foot of my ears. Sound like dive bombers. 
Confession time, I picked the ugliest photos I could find. Not a very nice thing to do; I try my best to justify my looks at 77 y.o. 

sk8eycat, About the closest I come to such adventure stories is Kon Tiki. I enjoyed that half a century ago or more. 

booklover, I went snorkeling in the Carribean and loved it. It was the most sensual experience possible. Saw beautiful fish, turtles and other lovely things ... like coral.  OH! I remember those days of late  teens and early 20s. They brought home some real loosers and I discovered if I said anything negative, they became defensive. I had to learn to keep my mouth shut! DAMN I hate doing that! Long story short, they chose fine, beautiful, handsome, intelligent, fun and funny mates. I adore them all. And their kids are just tremendous! It turns out my three kids make good sense, even after all the dumb things they did growing up.  I was scared to death that they wouldn't turn out to be wise and compassionate. Everything that scared me turned out to be phantom fears. 

Comment by Plinius on August 6, 2013 at 8:52am

Good afternoon and take care FA! More pomegranate, less coffee!

It's a bit cooler here, wonderful!  Even the PC behaves itself, so I can get a lot of work done.

What a horrible date did your son pick, Melinda, just the type you never need.

And I've been old for some three decennia - my cats say so and they should know.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on August 6, 2013 at 8:41am

Good morning to all of you.  Yes, it's grey and gloomy here.  I didn't get enough sleep and now I'm trying to wake myself via some coffee.  I also have a doctor's appointment this morning.  My blood pressure is going to be through the roof from the caffeine. 

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on August 6, 2013 at 1:05am

booklover your description of your son's pretty date reminds me of a comedy skit. The guy is talking to his shrink about his relationship with his girlfriend. She's gorgeous, the sex is great, but she keeps doing things like set his couch on fire and total his car. You don't like any kind of seafood? I can hardly imagine that.

When you say,"I also like and love my cats and dog more than I like most people." That reminds me of a saying. You know you're old when you really really really love your cat. I qualify for that.

Joan, I think the Redford photo doesn't do him justice. B&W and every wrinkle is enhanced. Brigitte Bardot, I hope I look that good at 79. The photo of Jack Nicholson also looks like the worst shot one could take, with the food and sour expression. I'm sure if he were in a shirt and smiling he'd look far more likeable.

Thanks for Burrito cat, Steph. It's good to hear from you.

Great lovecat gif sk8eycat, thanks. When I sent it to my husband he said, "Is that what we'd do if we had tails?"

Hugs to all!

Comment by Plinius on August 5, 2013 at 10:07am

Isn't beauty in the eye of the beholder? I see a lot of elder women I love to look at - but don't ask me about handsome. For me handsome is such an intricate mix of personality and shape that I never know what it is.

And now I'll shut down the pc again, before the poor thing crashes again from the heat.

Waving to all of you!

 

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