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The Burial Waltz

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Donatien Alphonse François Apr 26. 4 Replies

Hi everyone,It was almost a half-century ago, at age 15 or so, that I encountered one of the more important influences in my life: a crazy group of poets/musicians who called themselves The Fugs.They had a huge impact on me in that, though raised in…Continue

Some William Blake to Ponder

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Donatien Alphonse François Apr 25. 6 Replies

Hello all,I'm new here, and so hope this isn't old hat. But, I just had to point you toward a marvelous poem by William Blake in case you've never read it. Despite his sometimes heavily tinged biblical references in his other art and poetry, this…Continue

God's Not Dead - The Christian Persecution Complex (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Annie Willis Apr 20. 7 Replies

Doubtless most if not all of you have heard about that sorry piece of cinema known as God's Not Dead, and perhaps its sequel, cleverly entitled: God's Not Dead 2 (wow, how original!).  Personally, I have wasted neither time nor money on either,…Continue

Tags: God's Not Dead, patheos, Neil Carter, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Confirmed: flagged by religious people for "bullying."

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller Apr 19. 4 Replies

According to Seth Andrews @SethAndrewsTTA  Apr 16"Confirmed. TTA was flagged by religious people for "bullying." Apparently, criticism and skepticism = persecution. #GodHatesFacts"Others reported as "Flagged" and taken off line: @The Thinking…Continue

Tags: @SethAndrewsTTA, @morehead_sarah, @Matt_Dillahunty, @jteberhard, confirmed

The Value of Atheist Nexus ... and of Keeping Contact

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Apr 17. 13 Replies

I don't know about you, but the last 24+ hours were VERY uncomfortable for me.  Why?  Because something I value a LOT, being Atheist Nexus and the people I care about on A|N were temporarily unavailable to me.  No, we're not Facebook; I don't think…Continue

Tags: maintenance, community, availability, Atheist Nexus

Atheist Pig STRIKES AGAIN!!!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Qiana-Maieev Apr 5. 1 Reply

There's no getting around it, Atheist Pig is fast becoming my fave secular comic, and as evidence, I refer you to the following.  Jesus and Mo had better watch their respective asses, 'cuz they got a porker coming up on the outside, and I'm pretty…Continue

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Comment by Randall Smith on October 28, 2015 at 7:39am

When I flipped on the TV to watch the World Series, I was struck by seeing Alex Rodriguez and Pete Rose doing the pre-game analysis. What's wrong with that, you ask? Well, they're disgraced current and former major leaguers, one for using steroids, the other for betting on his own team, both charged and found guilty. Surely they could come up with more respected figures

Comment by Randall Smith on October 27, 2015 at 7:40am

$190 later, I think my dog's nose condition is clearing up. She "breaks out" with bleeding sores. Some viral thing according to the biopsy. She's spending the day indoors with me while it rains (finally!). The wind is knocking off the colorful fall leaves. Boo. Good day to clean house.

Comment by k.h. ky on October 26, 2015 at 6:39pm
Joan, it is so like you to know felaines birthday! I hope she knew how much she meant to all of us.
In-laws! I also have issues with the only one l have but it seems to be a personality clash from word go. I don't think anyone wants to see their children marry someone older with children. Odd that the grandson l brag of so often came from that marriage.

Life has a way of working out.
Comment by Ian Mason on October 25, 2015 at 2:50pm

That's a remarkable story, Joan. Your son-in-law must really have loved your daughter to be willing to make great changes. He must also have been aware of his problems and wanted to change. Life among your family and surrounded by nature sounds beautiful.

I'm starting to have doubts about my son-in-law. Last time I was there, during the summer. I found out that my daughter was the one going out to work and doing all the shopping, cooking, cleaning etc. while he was busy 'working on his thesis.' I don't know what will happen now he's started work too.

I still think of Felaine regularly. A remarkable life and a fighting spirit lost too soon.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on October 24, 2015 at 2:20pm

I miss her too, Joan. It's great that you have a custon-built greenhouse. We haven't had a hard frost here yet, just a bit of "powdered sugar" on the grass. I'm glad you're happy in your home with your daughter now.

I seem to have missed the streaming of Sleep.

Randall, I'm sorry to hear the Amtrack trip was so disappointing. I'd always imagined going cross country that way as a delight. I hear you about your son in law. Joan's story about Larry's turnaround is encouraging. My sister's choice of husband is in that same ballpark. One reason I don't enjoy visiting her.

Like Flying Atheist, I have a bit of cultural-event envy, Ian. But I'm too cheap to pay for streaming live theater when there's so much "free" (already paid for) entertainment.

Have a good weekend, all.

Comment by Joan Denoo on October 22, 2015 at 1:04pm

Randy, I know what it feels like to be happy to be home. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on October 22, 2015 at 1:01pm

Today would have been Sk8eycat's 76th birthday. Felaine, I miss you. 

Comment by Randall Smith on October 22, 2015 at 7:43am

Cooincidently enough, my daughter is also a "Laura". I'm not sure whether she should thank me for coming out, or me thanking her for accommodating me. I guess nothing needs said. It is nice to be home.

Comment by Joan Denoo on October 21, 2015 at 12:59pm

Carl, thank you for your warm comments. I do enjoy being with you and each of the Atheist Nexus friends. My intention is to keep in touch with you and look forward to reading your posts. The cold weather drives me inside and I enjoy writing and sharing my thoughts. We have frosts many nights now. The greenhouse fills with the aromas of citrus in bloom and the greens from the warm, moist produce provides us with delicious flavors every evening.  

Comment by Joan Denoo on October 21, 2015 at 12:52pm

Randy, Laura married a real jerk! I dreaded going to their home or having them visit me. Larry was like the proverbial sexist, racist, bigot of the worst kind. At some point in their marriage, Laura told him to change his attitudes and behaviors or get out. Because her business brings in at least as much as his business, he had a financial loss facing him. Besides, Laura is an outstanding woman (not prejudiced, of course). Long story, short, Larry took some communication courses through Landmark and made an excellent adjustment. He continues to be honest and make clear statements of what he is thinking and wanting. A person knows where he/she stands on any topic; the difference is, he can listen to other points of view. He no longer sees an issue as being black or white but recognizes there exist variable shades of gray.

He owns his own fears and does not assume that his fears will result in some doom and gloom state of affairs. Instead, he looks at fear as an opportunity to reframe his experience. Instead of "bitching" about the world, he thinks and acts in ways that make life better for us all. His favorite phrase, "Let's get 'er did!" offers an invitation to work as a team. My cancer seemed to aid him in this aspect of his life. We took on my challenge as a team effort and he contributed greatly to my recovery.

He is nicer to himself and much nicer to others. He doesn't have to be "right" and everyone else "wrong". He takes pride in his work and skills in technology and admits to being a "jerk" when he falls back into the blame game. He inspires others to think and act to a far greater capacity anyone, even themselves, realize.

Probably the most valuable attribute he gained is a sense of humor that builds people up. Before, his greatest pleasure was putting people down. 

I love the guy, he has a big heart, spends thought and action to make life better for himself and those around him. When it became clear I am no longer able to maintain my big old home and needed more help, he had a greenhouse and tool shed built for me, he and Laura saw to it that a room in their home is comfortable for me and make me feel welcome every single day. 

I hope your daughter has the strength and power to set limits and boundaries with her husband. I think she will be healthier and happier if/when she does. So will you! 

Dominic and I are off to walk the perimeter of the cleared area and refresh the bird feeders. Randy, I hope your day is just splendid!

 

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