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The Playboy Interview: Richard Dawkins

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris on Sunday. 14 Replies

I suppose it was the news that Playboy magazine was returning nudes to its pages after a year's hiatus that sufficiently perked my curiosity to check them out again.  I hadn't looked at Playboy since perhaps 2008, when I began to recognize that I…Continue

Tags: Richard Dawkins, Playboy

Such Lyrics!

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Grinning Cat Feb 13. 9 Replies

Hello Friends,I was ruminating a bit today on my sixty-some years existence. My mind went back to teenage years when I first figured out religion is not only obnoxiously loud, but also nothing I wanted anything to do with. Truly. I knew by age 15…Continue

degrading love — part two (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Feb 11. 1 Reply

TheraminTrees set up religion with his left in Part One of his treatise on how religion demeans and degrades the value of love.  Here in Part Two, he brings in a devastating, "Mike Tyson" right, which negates and invalidates any claim that either…Continue

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Questions......

Started by Thomas Murray. Last reply by k.h. ky Feb 9. 6 Replies

   It has been 6 month now since I signed up for Atheist Nexus membership. The past year has been sort of a bi-polar wave of emotions for me. I hope I wasn't offensive to the folks on here and I think I have been but I don't know to who. My desire…Continue

Proud Dad is REALLY Proud Now!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris Jan 31. 15 Replies

As some of you may or may not know, my daughter is a television news producer, currently working in Nashville, Tennessee.  Her assignment is the morning news, which means she blasts herself up at umpti-ump in the morning to organize and prepare a…Continue

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Men who challenge men to stop violence

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Jan 9. 19 Replies

Many men join in the effort to reduce violence against women and children and other men. He speaks of the need to place responsibility on men instead of focusing on women to stop violence. He offers a breath of fresh air, as do so many of the men on…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on November 24, 2013 at 1:26pm

Oh! Mindy! I understand your reasons for leaving Facebook. The hate mail can be dreadful! Thankfully, there is a "Block" button to weed out filth. 
I kind of like those who attempt to give me rational reasons for disliking my writings. It gives me a chance to reconsider my thinking and either agree or disagree with them and why. Over time, I feel stronger in my thinking. I do often realize I have overstated or made a reasoning mistake. As to feelings, there can be no mistakes in how one feels. The feelings may be based on erroneous thinking, but if so, I am able to make changes in my own thinking and come out stronger. 

My experience with Facebook was it was far too conservative for my liking, and I just didn't want to listen to a bunch of delusions. I blocked them as well. Family and friends sent me all kinds of sickeningly sweet, syrupy, mawkish, sentimental, trite, saccharine things that made my teeth itch. I wrote them individually and told them I did not think their material made any sense and didn't stand up to scrutiny. I would block them in the future if I got any more of it. Well, you can guess ... a lot of family and friends unfriended me.

Slowly, over time, many of those individuals reconnected with me and send me thoughtful (full-of-thought) comments, and we restored our relationship, to my benefit, and I hope theirs.  

Thanks to people like you and ... oh dear, I won't list names because I will surely leave some very precious friends out. I have been able to rethink my positions and make appropriate adjustments. 

Arguing does me no good! Asking question, pointing out what, how, and why I do not share an idea, helps me, even if it infuriates another. I love to challenge another to think, even as I love being challenged ... if based on reason.

Feelings are another matter. One can not argue with how another feels; it is their reality. I can look at my own feelings and listen for what they tell me. Why am I angry, sad, mad, afraid, guilty or ashamed? When I sort those kinds of things out, I have a better understanding of what drives me. 

Honesty seems to have great power. Especially for my cousins, many of whom are very active in their churches. One married a Lutheran minister with patriarchal ethics. In her email comments she sounds depressed and unhappy and wonders why. I can read how dominated she feels, even though she doesn't say it. I simply ask her questions about her feelings, and her values. She hangs in with me until she gets angry (which really means she is afraid). 
No one said growing up would be easy. There are no good roadmaps. The holy books lead one astray, filling the head with nonsense that I call The Passive Gospel. So, we can be active in thought and action. We can celebrate together our stressors and accomplishments. We can stand as a cloud of witnesses for each other, with encouragement, information, ideas, ...jeez, I had a terrible time finding a secular word cloud: 
Comment by Steph S. on November 24, 2013 at 10:30am

Good thing you got away from Facebook. The Nexus site is so much better. I hope everyone is having a good day. IT is rainy and cold here today.

Comment by Idaho Spud on November 23, 2013 at 6:32pm

Ruth, thanks for the explanation of "like".  Someone said that it was connected to facebook, so I was concerned, even though I never found any of my Nexus likes on facebook.  Your explanation reduces my concern even more.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on November 23, 2013 at 5:26pm

The "like" button does two things. It tells everyone you liked that, in the Latest Activity and adds to the like count for that thing. If you want to go back to it later, a shortcut is stored under "Likes" on your profile page. Well, also someone could look at your likes from your page to get an idea of your preferences.

Comment by Steph S. on November 23, 2013 at 5:15pm

Love the cats with books and tea cup. Enjoy the posts here.

Patricia I love owls too and enjoy that GIF.

Yes, Mindy we are real friends here and support you. Always thinking about you and wish you the best.

My thoughts are with everyone here.

Comment by Steph S. on November 23, 2013 at 5:12pm

Comment by The Flying Atheist on November 23, 2013 at 2:43am

Just got back in town and reading what I missed. 

Mindy, as horrible as it is to have your daughter come to you in tears, the fact that she feels comfortable enough to emotionally express herself to you says so much about you personally.  In a different scenario she might choose to shut you out and not communicate at all, which I know would be even worse for both of you.  But she hasn't done that.  She trusts you.  You are there when she needs you.  You strongly support her both on good days and bad days.   You're a wonderful mother, Mindy.  You have a very special, close-knit family and your daughter benefits from such a solid and trusting foundation.  I do wish her well.  Hopefully in the near future she will find the right combination of workable tools to minimize and combat these issues.  And great news from your son!  You must all be very proud.  

Sk8eycat, thanks for sharing your very personal details.  Understanding and being aware of others' experiences helps everybody.  I have great admiration for you as well and I always look forward to reading your posts.      

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 23, 2013 at 1:54am

Felaine, what a sweet picture! And an excellent cellebration of Mindy's good news.

Mindy, I am happy for you and your son. Good job of homeschooling and your efforts return to you in a wonderful way. 

Thinking about your daughter and hoping she is finding joy. 

Cheetah Purring

Comment by sk8eycat on November 23, 2013 at 1:36am

Mindy, that news about your son's promotion is absolutely JOYOUS! (Or joyful...I don't know which is correct grammar,,,Heh).  Anyroad, thank you for posting that; it makes me feel good to know that  somebody somewhere is getting the breaks they have earned.

[Lifting cuppa tea in congratulations]

Comment by Plinius on November 23, 2013 at 1:08am

I'm happy that there's good news too in your family; Mindy! That could help your daughter.

 

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