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11 "unanswerable" questions for atheists - answered (Aron Ra)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Tom Sarbeck Jun 6. 1 Reply

If you spend any time around YouTube and have any history of looking at atheist material (or even theist material!), you will inevitably run into: "XX Questions Atheists Can't Answer."  These are occasionally followed by: "XX Questions Atheists…Continue

Tags: apologist, answer, questions, unanswerable, Aron Ra

worshipping narcissists (qualiasoup & theramintrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Idaho Spud Jun 3. 1 Reply

They're all around us: people who perceive the world as revolving around them and will go to considerable lengths to make it so: narcissists.  Such beings have been with humanity, I suspect, since humanity emerged from the gene pool.  Even worse,…Continue

Tags: narcissist, QualiaSoup, TheraminTrees

Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by Grinning Cat May 2. 42 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

Tags: singing, lyrics, reclaimed, reclaiming, HumanLight

appropriating morality (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo May 1. 7 Replies

We've all heard the claim: "Human morality comes from god."  And we've all seen for ourselves what Yahweh's "morality" looks like, from condemnations of homosexuality and the treatment of women as chattel to inexplicable sanctions against the eating…Continue

Tags: morality, appropriating, TheraminTrees

Bible Belt Atheist (New York Times)

Started by Loren Miller Apr 19. 0 Replies

The following showed up in my YouTube feed this morning, and I decided to have a look.  Turns out, the New York Times has given us a reasonably even-handed look at a good friend of ours, being one Jerry DeWitt, former bible-thumper and now a pretty…Continue

Tags: Bible Belt, atheist, Jerry DeWitt

How would you respond?

Started by Christina Scribner. Last reply by Christina Scribner Apr 10. 5 Replies

So, this morning, I was at my local coffee shop as I am most weekdays between bus runs. I do the editing on my husband's books so I had my laptop with me. My wallpaper is a picture I found online sometime back of a double helix with the word atheist…Continue

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Comment by Idaho Spud on August 23, 2014 at 8:15am

Patricia, when I said I don't like avatars changing too often, I hope you didn't take offense.  I just had the thought that you might because you've been changing yours lately.

I just get temporarily confused when I see a new avatar.  It is my problem, not yours.

You are one of my best friends, and whatever you do is fine by me.

By the way, I've been wanting to tell you:  That purple cat is attractive.

Comment by Idaho Spud on August 23, 2014 at 8:04am

Mindy, I'm also glad that real friends don't care about weight here.

Comment by Idaho Spud on August 23, 2014 at 8:00am

Relatively speaking, I'm not vain either, but I do get embarrassed by my overweight when I have to take my clothing off in front of a doctor &/or nurse.

I also like to dress nicely when I go to town.  It's not all vanity because I've read that you get much better service when you're well-dressed.

Comment by Idaho Spud on August 23, 2014 at 7:54am

Cris, thank you much for your input and compliment.

Carl, I thank you much for your compliment as well.

Comment by Idaho Spud on August 23, 2014 at 7:51am

Oh, yes Randall.  I don't like those big capital A's either.  I also don't like some avatars where it looks like the person has went out of their way to make the ugliest thing they could think of.  I'm not talking about any of you regulars, of course.

I've had the thought that my family could track me down through my childhood picture.  They all have copies of it and I let my brother know that I was going to use it online, and he ask me to point to it when I used it.

I think he just wanted to see how I made it look because he's a photographer.  I didn't let him know where I put it, I just sent him the picture in an e-mail, and that may have satisfied him.

However, it might be they have found me years ago, and just haven't mentioned it.  However, if that were the case, I think one of my sisters that is very vocal, would have commented about some of my posts where she strongly disagreed or thought I said something wrong about her or other members of the family.

I agree that at our age, we have no good reason to be worried about what other people think.  I'm working on it, and I'm almost there.

Comment by Randall Smith on August 23, 2014 at 7:14am

Spud, I meant no offense. With or without a current photo, I can see you in my mind's eye. I just don't like to see one of those big capital A's. I can understand your reluctance to go "current". Don't you think your family could "track you down" through your childhood picture? Besides, at your (our) age, why should we be worried about what other people think? Bottom line, it's no big deal, either way.

Comment by Plinius on August 23, 2014 at 3:00am

Never mind, Spud, the image of you created by your words is stronger and more beautiful. I can't even use a baby picture; I've been overweight from birth. Age is really freeing, to me at least. I always hated the awkwardness you get when you try to talk to people but they are checking your sexual usefulness in the meantime - it breaks down any sensible conversation. Now that I'm in category ´useless´ I can talk to any person. I'm not vain but I like to look well cared for.

Comment by Idaho Spud on August 22, 2014 at 12:43pm

Thanks Carl.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on August 22, 2014 at 12:33pm

Spud, whatever you decide to do is fine with me.  I have to admit, I always thought the picture of you on the phone with the cat by your side was very, very cute. 

I changed my photo because the last one was seven years old and I've put on weight since then and grown older looking.  Such is life!

If you wish to have your privacy respected, that's totally understandable. 

For whatever it's worth, I'd bet the farm that displaying a current photo of you with some added weight would not matter one bit to any of us here.  You're a great guy and that is what really matters.  Just do whatever is comfortable for you.   

Comment by Idaho Spud on August 22, 2014 at 10:16am

Think I need to update my avatar Randy?  I appreciate faces in avatars also.  I also don't like avatars changing too often.

I've been thinking of putting my 73 year-old face in place of my 4 year-old one.  Haven't done it yet for 2 reasons.  One, I'm embarrassed by how fat I am still.  Two, I'm not sure I want to make it easier for my mormon family to find me, although it might make them think to read some of the posts here.

What do the rest of you think?  Should I put my present face on my avatar?

 

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