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Comment by Joan Denoo on April 19, 2013 at 11:12pm

Happy birthday Melinda. 

Comment by Ian Mason on April 19, 2013 at 10:31pm

Happy Birthday Melinda. Hope you have a great day.

Felaine, that's a normal reaction. When some parts (esp. brain parts) get more than their usual use something has to shut down. Think of it as a  rest-and-repair mode. You will come back stronger afterwards. I react in the same way sometimes so this is the voice of experience talking. Fresh air and exercise will enhance the recovery process.

Bruises do seem to have their own spectrum not otherwise known. The changes can be quite interesting to follow. Enjoy the rest and recovery Joan. The above applies to you too plus; post-surgical patients are advised to eat a high-calorie diet, so enjoy your favourite cakes, choc, desserts etc. as "doctor's orders".

The 4/20 wouldn't mean much here as there aren't 20 months in a year :-D

Comment by The Flying Atheist on April 19, 2013 at 10:25pm

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, MELINDA! 

I hope you have a wonderful celebration.

Comment by Tony Carroll on April 19, 2013 at 9:55pm

Hey Melinda. This is about 4/20 and pot, from Wikipedia.

The earliest use of the term began among a group of teenagers in San Rafael, California, in 1971,[2][3] calling themselves the Waldos,[4] because "their chosen hang-out spot was a wall outside the school".[5] The group first used the term in connection to a fall 1971 plan to search for an abandoned cannabis crop that they had learned about.[4][6] The Waldos designated the Louis Pasteur statue on the grounds of San Rafael High School as their meeting place, and 4:20 p.m. as their meeting time.[5] The Waldos referred to this plan with the phrase "4:20 Louis". Multiple failed attempts to find the crop eventually shortened their phrase to simply "4:20", which ultimately evolved into a codeword that the teens used to mean pot-smoking in general.[6]

High Times editor Steven Hager wrote "Are You Stoner Smart or Stoner Stupid?" in which he called for 4:20 p.m. to be the socially accepted hour of the day to consume cannabis.[7] He attributes the early spread of the phrase to Grateful Dead followers, who were also linked to the city of San Rafael.

There you go. Anyway, Happy Birthday!!!

(And if you spark a blunt, don't bogart the roach)! LOL :)

       

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 19, 2013 at 9:33pm

Bandages off, an incredibly ugly bruise and no pain. I can handle that just fine. Getting some ambition back ... slowly. I am enjoying sleeping through these cold windy days. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 19, 2013 at 8:42pm
sk8eycat, I'm very sorry about your friend's illness and your "Brain Fog". Not a good week for you. With Hairy Jerry more comfortable, you can enjoy his company and treasure your time together. "Think Banned Thoughts" looks like an interesting site. Take good care of yourself.
Comment by sk8eycat on April 19, 2013 at 7:00pm

I have to 'splain something.  I'm still home, but have been in sort of what Loren calls Brain Fog for several days.  I'll try to catch up with all the posts I've misssed, but obviously I am NOT cat-sitting for my computerless friend.

She called me Sunday to tell me she'd been sick all weekend, had cancelled the first part of her travel plans, and would be leaving on Thursday instead. Okay.  I tried calling her Tuesday to find out what time she wanted to pick me up Wednesday night...so I would be packed and ready.  Got her voice mail; left a message.  No call back. Called twice more; same thing.  Began to worry. Called 3 more times starting Wednesday morning; voice mail, no call back. I knew something was wrong, and went into panic mode.  By 7PM I was imagining her collapsed on the floor, and unable to reach a phone.  I was ready to call 911 when she did call me...she'd just been released from hospital...been in since Monday...almost died from dehydration and ventricular fibrilation.

THAT's when I went into Fog Mode.  I've slept more in the past day and a half than I had since Sunday.  From relief. I'm selfish.  I would hate to lose her; she's been a fabulous friend for more than 30 years...and taught me to be a better cook.

Other news: The Prednisone seems to be helping Hairy Jerry a little bit; he's more active, and vocal, is ravenous sometimes, and drinking a lot of water...which are all good signs.  But, of course, I'm not expecting a cure.  Just knowing that he's more comfortable is enough.

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Now, I want to turn you all on to a Blog called "Think Banned Thoughts."  I don't know if the writer/blogger is an atheist or not, but I don't care. I like what she has to say, and I've replied to some of her posts.  (Actually, she thinks DEEP thoughts.) 

http://thinkbannedthoughts.wordpress.com/author/thinkbannedthoughts/

 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 19, 2013 at 5:14pm

Melina, I know what you mean. When is love good for a child, and when is love not enough? I think every loving parent goes through this phase. I visioned a narrow walk with high fences, and I had to protect them from dashing into the street and getting run over. As they got older the walk became a street and I had to protect them from killing themselves and others when they started to drive. A little older, a little more freedom, and I had to guide them so they wouldn't have unwanted pregnancies. Then I had to open my controlling hand and let them fly.

I don't know if that gives you any help. We did have a revolving door when they moved back in, moved away, and move back in again. I thought the revolving door would never stop swinging. Now it has, they are all 49 years old, and two have exceptionally fine families. My older son took a much harder path, including alcohol abuse, a failed marriage with a fine woman, and then a brain injury that left him disabled. That is the risk a mother takes when having children. I do not know what I could have done to prevent his life-journey. By remaining flexible, keeping lines of communication open, confronting when necessary, supporting when needed, setting values that make sense to you without imposing them on a child, sets the stage for healthy, productive living. 

My most sincere best to you and your family. May you hear each other and explore for mutual ground. You and your husband provide the kind of love that does not smother, and yet empowers them to grow to be who they are, using their internal guide. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on April 19, 2013 at 12:59pm

What an awesome lizard photo.  He/she is beautiful.  Any scientists on here who can tell if that's a male or female?  I'd be interested in knowing how you tell the difference.   

Loren, those are great cards.  What a fantastic idea.  It's often very easy for us to patronize and pander to people that we feel may need our help.  Those cards are a great way to request that we "back off." 

Comment by Ian Mason on April 19, 2013 at 11:48am

The lizard is fun, Melinda.

Loren, those cards are a great idea. I was at a talk about autism a few days ago and they sound like a useful tool for those with problems in that spectrum.

This popped up. I wonder if there's a natural simian/feline bond?

 

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