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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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God's Annual Performance Review (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 19. 6 Replies

I don't know about you guys, but there wasn't a performance review I had in 30 years of field service that I didn't LOATHE.  It seems as though Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, is up for turning the tables on the person you would expect would…Continue

Tags: review, performance, god, American's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Learning a Language as a Mature Adult

Started by Daniel W. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 2. 28 Replies

Trying to keep my mind exercised, and not interested in most of the reading materials that I can find.I decided to attempt to learn a language.  Actually, two.  The dilemma is, how do I do that without going to school - not an option - and without…Continue

The Playboy Interview: Richard Dawkins

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris Feb 19. 14 Replies

I suppose it was the news that Playboy magazine was returning nudes to its pages after a year's hiatus that sufficiently perked my curiosity to check them out again.  I hadn't looked at Playboy since perhaps 2008, when I began to recognize that I…Continue

Tags: Richard Dawkins, Playboy

Such Lyrics!

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Grinning Cat Feb 13. 9 Replies

Hello Friends,I was ruminating a bit today on my sixty-some years existence. My mind went back to teenage years when I first figured out religion is not only obnoxiously loud, but also nothing I wanted anything to do with. Truly. I knew by age 15…Continue

degrading love — part two (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Feb 11. 1 Reply

TheraminTrees set up religion with his left in Part One of his treatise on how religion demeans and degrades the value of love.  Here in Part Two, he brings in a devastating, "Mike Tyson" right, which negates and invalidates any claim that either…Continue

Tags: Christianity, Islam, TheraminTrees, god, love

Questions......

Started by Thomas Murray. Last reply by k.h. ky Feb 9. 6 Replies

   It has been 6 month now since I signed up for Atheist Nexus membership. The past year has been sort of a bi-polar wave of emotions for me. I hope I wasn't offensive to the folks on here and I think I have been but I don't know to who. My desire…Continue

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Comment by Grinning Cat on November 22, 2013 at 11:21pm

(Doris Redrupp illustrating Edward Gorey's immortal quote -- hit the link for a larger version)

Comment by Steph S. on November 22, 2013 at 8:52pm

Comment by Steph S. on November 22, 2013 at 8:51pm

Wow - he sounds so very smart and intelligent Mindy. You must be a very proud mother. Thanks for always being here for me. I sure so appreciate that.

Comment by Steph S. on November 22, 2013 at 4:58pm

How wonderful to hear about your son Mindy. Congrats. He is really going places. Always here for you whenever you'd like to share.

Comment by sk8eycat on November 22, 2013 at 12:39pm

Many good quotes here: http://modernatheist.org/humanities/quotes/

Click on one, and you'll get the slide show.

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Mindy, I have tried to deal with clinical depression for more years than I can count...that's one of the reasons I sometimes  "disappear" from this group for days or weeks at a time. It comes and goes: some meds have worked for me, and some don't. I don't like to talk about it because of the reactions I've gotten from people I thought were my friends in the past..."you're too self-centered" is one of the mildest.

I have lost jobs because of it...I would reach a point where deciding to get out of bed in the morning was too difficult a decision to make. Paxil helped about 20+ years ago when I was obsessing about walking in front of a train (I stopped myself by remembering the trauma such an action causes train crews and EMTs...some of my uncles and cousins worked for the railroads, and I have a great affection for anyone who works the trains today.).

So.... I've been going through a lot of mental/emotional/physical pain for the last couple of months, and I empathize with you and your daughter completely.  I wish I could say something more helpful...I'm not on any meds now...haven't been for years...so my "brayne" is stuck.  But I just wanted you to know that I''ve "been there, done that," and I know what It feels like.

I really wish there was some way to send physical hugs over the net...research has proved that hugs do release beta endorphins into the brain, and provide some relief...temporarily.  Here's one for you:

*&gt;:D< big hug

Hugging a kitty helps, too. Srsly. Pumpkin spent last night purring on my shoulder; didn't help me get to sleep, but I felt comforted. I think they may be telepathic...or empathic.

Comment by Plinius on November 22, 2013 at 12:33pm

Try not to worry too much, Mindy, just be your usual loving patient self, that is all you can do. She'll find her strength. Hugs to you!

Comment by Steph S. on November 22, 2013 at 11:20am

Mindy sorry to hear about your daughter and her depression.

I hope she gets better,

HUGS to you and your family

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 22, 2013 at 11:00am

Mindy, I am really sorry about your daughter's depression. You do all the right things, and it just beyond your control. The only thing I can think of is to do as you have been, encouraging her, giving her emotional support as well as physical support. 
So, the next thing is for you and your husband to take really good care of yourselves so that you can be a strong rock upon which she can come for safety, security and stability. 

If you feel fear, insecure, unstable, she will sense it and not have the S3 she needs. 

I don't have chronic depression, however several of my friends do, and they sleep a lot. They take Rx that help greatly but not completely. Roxanne often seeks out a shoulder to lean on and it seems to help; not an easy condition to be helpful. 

Do you have relaxation and meditation tapes? They can help you stay calm and refreshed. Some teachings of Buddhism helps. Not so much for your daughter, but for you to stay serene. 

Comment by Grinning Cat on November 22, 2013 at 10:54am

Mindy, hugs to you and your daughter! I hope the weekend visit does her good!

Comment by Steph S. on November 21, 2013 at 6:56pm

Good picture Patricia - going to save that.

 

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