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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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The Playboy Interview: Richard Dawkins

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris on Sunday. 14 Replies

I suppose it was the news that Playboy magazine was returning nudes to its pages after a year's hiatus that sufficiently perked my curiosity to check them out again.  I hadn't looked at Playboy since perhaps 2008, when I began to recognize that I…Continue

Tags: Richard Dawkins, Playboy

Such Lyrics!

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Grinning Cat Feb 13. 9 Replies

Hello Friends,I was ruminating a bit today on my sixty-some years existence. My mind went back to teenage years when I first figured out religion is not only obnoxiously loud, but also nothing I wanted anything to do with. Truly. I knew by age 15…Continue

degrading love — part two (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Feb 11. 1 Reply

TheraminTrees set up religion with his left in Part One of his treatise on how religion demeans and degrades the value of love.  Here in Part Two, he brings in a devastating, "Mike Tyson" right, which negates and invalidates any claim that either…Continue

Tags: Christianity, Islam, TheraminTrees, god, love

Questions......

Started by Thomas Murray. Last reply by k.h. ky Feb 9. 6 Replies

   It has been 6 month now since I signed up for Atheist Nexus membership. The past year has been sort of a bi-polar wave of emotions for me. I hope I wasn't offensive to the folks on here and I think I have been but I don't know to who. My desire…Continue

Proud Dad is REALLY Proud Now!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris Jan 31. 15 Replies

As some of you may or may not know, my daughter is a television news producer, currently working in Nashville, Tennessee.  Her assignment is the morning news, which means she blasts herself up at umpti-ump in the morning to organize and prepare a…Continue

Tags: Emmy, news, television, daughter, dad

Men who challenge men to stop violence

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Jan 9. 19 Replies

Many men join in the effort to reduce violence against women and children and other men. He speaks of the need to place responsibility on men instead of focusing on women to stop violence. He offers a breath of fresh air, as do so many of the men on…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on October 23, 2016 at 5:11pm

This morning at 12: 27 AM Cary died of esophageal cancer with the aid of a doctor. His body was ravaged with the disease and was not able to have any operable or radiology that would prolong his live for many more days of life. He has been on palliative care since I took him to the ER as he hemorrhaged blood. 

The doctors, nurses and staff performed their arts and sciences impeccably and provided me with the clear description of what was happening in his body. Craig returned from Colorado, Laura and her husband and two daughters were with him for the afternoon and into the night. We discussed the prognosis with a clear understanding of what was happening and our options. We chose to pull the plug and see what would happen. They all stayed for the procedure and we touched his arms and legs as he breathed his last breath. It was very simple, just turned off the machines and he was gone within an hour. He was in no pain. We comforted each other.

Cary had a cough since last spring and we all, family and neighbors, and friends tried to talk him into going in. He refused, with strong anger. Laura talked to him privately why he would't go to the doctor and he said he had to take care of me. 

On Tuesday morning at 4:00 AM he woke me up hemorrhaging  blood. We went into the ER, immediately to ICU and processes began. He was in excruciating pain and was immediately heavily sedated. The family agreed on palliative care and then on Friday nigh all members of the family agreed that the tumor was not treatable, and with the advice of all the doctors involved, we agreed to pulling the plugs on all the machines. 

He breathed softly for a few minutes and then he was gone. 

Cary provided me faithful, loving, compassionate care as I was so very sick. I have many happy memories of him and he left us a legacy of a graceful and grateful death. 

I am at peace knowing he is out of pain, chemicals, and machines in order to stay alive for no longer than a month. 

Laura asked for a chaplain and she explained to him that Cary was an atheist and wanted no religious language in his comments. His thoughts and words comforted me and I could kiss Cary for the last time and walk away. 

I love you Cary, Mom 

Comment by Joan Denoo on October 23, 2016 at 4:46pm

I enjoy watching this family grow up even if they are teaching their children gender roles. There is much about their style that comforts me. The children's names are biblical but I don't hear biblical language. The parents are so different then my parents or me for the first ten years of their childhood that I enjoy a less violent way to raise children. I know some of you won't like it; go ahead express your opinion, I am able to have a  conversation with those who disagree with me. 

Comment by Randall Smith on October 23, 2016 at 7:39am

Yes, Joan is our rock. I miss her comments when she's "gone" for awhile.

As you can see, I survived the dinner and "sleepover". The kids were great. I had to work on table manners, however. That's what grandparents do!

Comment by k.h. ky on October 22, 2016 at 1:26pm
I hope Joan is trying to get some rest. And that everything is going as well as can be expected. She's been on my mind a lot.
Comment by Idaho Spud on October 21, 2016 at 1:08pm

There's usually 2 sides to an issue, and deciding which way to go is often a conundrum, especially the ones I get here in Idaho.  Most of them are not as easy to decide as the 3 you showed us (and not as important).

Comment by Daniel W on October 21, 2016 at 1:01pm

Randy, have fun!

Im usually not a fan of ballot measures.  However, I like these.  The State and US Congress have too much corporate control for those systems to enact there laws. 

Here is a website abouit ending Citizen's United

On the carbon tax, it's an example of how the people can take control of this issue.  I had some mixed feelings. It might not pass.   Commutes in my area are some of the worst in the country due to rapid Californication.   The infrastructure is overwhelmed.  But many of the people who pay the tax will be working people who can least afford it.  My county is more affourdable housing than Portland, so a lot of the movement to here is economic.  The people don't have as much control over where their jobs are.   Still, I think we need to encourage solar and wind, and electric when well managed, discourage fossil fuel when possible, so there is a carrot and stick.

Comment by Idaho Spud on October 21, 2016 at 12:31pm

Ballot issues sound good Daniel.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on October 21, 2016 at 8:43am

That sounds like a fun time, Randy. A good meal with fun company.

I like those ballot issues, Daniel. If we end up with both a Democratic president and congress, I suspect Citizens United will be fixed by law.

Comment by Plinius on October 21, 2016 at 8:27am

Have a good time Randall!

Comment by Ian Mason on October 21, 2016 at 8:06am

Have a great time with the grandkids, Randall.

 

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