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Hang With Friends

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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Betty Explains Religious Freedom (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner yesterday. 10 Replies

Well, considering all the RFRA bills popping up all over the United States, plus all the fun and games ISIS is bringing to the good folks in Syria and Iraq, Betty Bowers, the epitome of well-dressed christianity, has decided to clarify the true…Continue

Tags: persecution, ISIS, Religious Freedom, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Mar 29. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on January 7, 2013 at 5:37pm
http://www.theatlantic.com/infocus/2013/01/winners-of-the-national-...
"Viewers' Choice for Nature: Tender Moment - Everyday in Mara starts with something new and different and day ends with memorable experiences with spectacular photographs. I was very lucky to sight and photograph Malaika, the name of this female Cheetah, and her cub. She is well known for her habit of jumping on vehicles. She learned that from her mother Kike, and Kike from her mother Amber. Like her mother she is teaching lessons to her cub. This is a tender moment between Malaika and her cub. I was very lucky to capture that moment. (© Sanjeev Bhor/National Geographic Photo Contest)"
Comment by Joan Denoo on January 7, 2013 at 5:27pm
http://www.theatlantic.com/infocus/2013/01/winners-of-the-national-...
"Grand-Prize Winner: The Explosion! The subject's name is Busaba, a well cared for Indochinese Tigress whose home is at Khao Kheow Open Zoo, Thailand. I had taken many portraits of Busaba previously and it was becoming more and more difficult to come up with an image that appeared any different to the others. Which is why I took to observing her more carefully during my visits in the hope of capturing something of a behavioral shot. The opportunity finally presented itself while watching Busaba enjoying her private pool then shaking herself dry. In all humility I have to say that Mother Nature smiled favorably on me that day! (© Ashley Vincent/National Geographic Photo Contest)"
Comment by John Lynch on January 7, 2013 at 4:45pm

Yes to all those question Joan. I would be willing to bet a few pesos he is wrong.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 7, 2013 at 3:55pm

John Lynch,

http://www.standingforgod.com/2010/10/the-ministry-of-angels-end-ti...

looks like an interesting sci-fi read. I wonder if anyone asked the good man Dr. David Reagan what evidence does he have to support his claim? Does he believe all the things he reads in the scriptures? Are they worthy of believing? Is it possible that the end times will occur for homo sapiens when we create such a mess of Earth's fragile atmosphere all living things will die and it will take billions and billions of years to get back what we so blatantly wasted? Is it possible the scriptures are just myths told by Bronze Age tribal people to provide a story to explain things about nature they didn't understand? Could it be that religions offer outdated, outmoded, useless information unless one reads it for recreation or to pass time? What if he is wrong?

Sounds like a good source for Chris to answer his question. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 7, 2013 at 3:46pm

Chris Dodds, try Googling: angel + appear in the end times + four wings and four heads; those of a man, an ox, a lion, and an eagle. I found a lot of sites for this and haven't read them. they sound grim, scary, and would arouse fear in the faint hearted. Good luck!

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 7, 2013 at 3:45pm
Chris Dodds, try Googling:
angel + appear in the end times + four wings and four heads; those of a man, an ox, a lion, and an eagle.
I found a lot of sites for this and haven't read them. they sound grim, scary, and would arouse fear in the faint hearted. Good luck!
Comment by Joan Denoo on January 7, 2013 at 3:36pm

John Lynch, for me, when someone doesn't know how to confront, or challenge, or assert themselves and end up trying to mentally and physically hurt someone, I usually go through a two step process: 1. State clearly, concretely, specifically a description of their behavior that I perceive as unhealthy, and offer a remedy. If the other is interested in building a team or community, they will listen. 2. If they have no such interest and only want control and power, my hate scale goes off the meter, I want nothing to do with them, and I dust the dirt off my shoes and go my own way or send them on their way from my property. 

Life is too short to suffer fools. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 7, 2013 at 3:31pm

Idaho Spud, you and Chris are correct about education that teaches obedience instead of critical thinking. It is harder work for a teacher to teach a large group, but there are also advantages. Conflict and problems come up and become the teachable moment. With the requirements to teach to the test, a good teacher has to forego such effort to get through the required stuff. 

When I taught at the boys' ranch, the prison, or the women's programs I was doing remedial work because my students, mostly, had done poorly in school and didn't learn the essential skills of problem solving and conflict resolution and how to think critically.

There are tons of books on these skills and I treated them like tools in a toolbox. My students had to show proficiency in listening, asserting, problem identification, goal setting, etc. in order to qualify for my certificate. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 7, 2013 at 3:23pm

booklover, great way to describe love. Your daughter being with you for the winter break sounded fun and invigorating for you. You have a "spring" in your writing when you talk about her and your family. 

Your "This walk is over" made me laugh. Looks like he/she is at the stage in life that I am. We have 6 " of new snow and temp is now 36 degrees. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 7, 2013 at 2:44pm

Chris Breman, I agree: "training to make them (students) into docile, hardworking subjects who won't criticize or think - churches and other authoritarian institutes always want slaves."

Obedience to authority works for them. It doesn't work for individuals who believe obedience is a high value. 

What we need are critical thinkers, ones who can define a problem without blaming or accusing, who can imagine a preferred future, who knows how identify resources available and those that are needed but not available, who can muster cooperation with others to read a noble goal, who can plan, execute and evaluate outcomes. Then, we will have individuals able to take care of themselves and who live life doing what they like doing. 

This is worth making a loud noise about, even if people don't want us to jangle our cages. 

 

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