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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Are You a Patriot? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris G 11 hours ago. 22 Replies

You might think that Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, would be stepping outside of her comfort zone in tackling the concept of patriotism.  As it turns out, not only does she have a proper handle on the term and its implications, she also…Continue

Tags: patriot, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

We Don't Want Your (Atheist) Money! (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat on Thursday. 11 Replies

I suppose I've heard stories like this before:Conscientious atheist donates money to worthy cause.Worthy cause initially accepts money.Worthy cause discovers source of donation.Worthy cause rejects donation.Swell, eh?  Well Matt Willbourne of…Continue

Tags: American Baptist Churches Association, Murrow Indian Children's Home, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

The Ark Encounter: A Less than Grand Opening (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Aug 21. 24 Replies

The day finally arrived.  Ken Ham's Ark Encounter opened on 7 July, 2016 ... to something a bit less than Disney-sized crowds, and more than a couple dissenting voices!  Seth Andrews has gathered a quartet of significant participants in the protest…Continue

Tags: Tracey Moody, Dan Broadbent, Seth Andrews, David Silverman, AronRa

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Idaho Spud Aug 14. 91 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Wedding Haka - Subtitled & translated

Started by Joan Denoo Aug 13. 0 Replies

I ran across a video of a wedding in which a group of wedding guests celebrated with a performance of a traditional Māori ancestral war dance, called a Haka. It was intended for sons, however, the women have joined in a participation of…Continue

Tags: new, traditions., women, men, Haka

Onward (Unpaid) Christian Soldiers (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris G Aug 13. 1 Reply

Proselytizing in the military is a dirty little secret most radical christians would rather didn't get out.  Well, never let it be said that America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, was ever a wallflower where a pit bull was needed!  In the following…Continue

Tags: Military Religious Freedom Foundation, MRFF, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

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Comment by Joan Denoo on April 29, 2013 at 7:14pm
Comment by Joan Denoo on April 29, 2013 at 6:32pm

"The streets of Amsterdam are awash in the color orange in honor of the Netherlands' ruling House of Oranje-Nassau, as officials prepare for a once-in-a-generation rotation of royal titles — and the rest of the country gets ready to party."

"Tuesday, Queen Beatrix is to abdicate, Willem-Alexander become king, and his 9-year-old daughter Princess Catharina-Amalia become crown princess."

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 29, 2013 at 6:22pm

This string is just outstanding ... Ruth, excellent reference for "Men who hate women and women who love them";

"'Jets waive QB Tim Tebow.' There was no mention in that release of Tebow’s statistics with the team, perhaps in part because there were none worth mentioning";

The male bird holding the beak of the female; let me think, what can she do to reclaim her power?;

A new king for the Netherlands; may all your people flourish during your reign!

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on April 29, 2013 at 5:24pm

Debra Stevenson said

Why would anyone be friends with someone who thinks that your 'inherently inferior' to them?  That is a form of an abusive relationship, that is not a 'friendship'.

Indeed. But it's often the norm for women to love men who think that women are inherently inferior to men. Doublethink and denial, or self-deception, seem to go a long way in our culture.

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Comment by Lillie on April 29, 2013 at 3:01pm

Tom, at least you were not on the way to work when you were peed on. LOL

Comment by Plinius on April 29, 2013 at 2:09pm

I love that, thanks Patricia!

We expect a lot of noise tomorrow, most people are very busy to paint the country orange to honour our next king. I hope I'll find a quiet spot... 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 29, 2013 at 12:45pm

Carl, forgive me for using myself as referent, but that is what I know.

How can an ordained minister who is gay reconcile his beliefs with dogma? I don’t ask frivolously, but seriously?

In my case, the dogma supports domination of women, and I had to divorce that concept as I searched for a better way of living. All options were open for me, and it finally came to just good old-fashioned reality checking, options exploration, and critical thinking.

I understand how you could grow up in a family and a ”liberal, progressive gay friendly church”, feel good about yourself and became disillusioned with the dogma. I assume you, too, had to search for principles upon which you could build your life. 

Comment by sk8eycat on April 29, 2013 at 12:42pm

LMAO...I just read that the NY Jets let the Praying Man-tis, Timmy Tebow, go.

O, happy day! *snicker!* *snort!*

Proof again that Nothing Fails Like Prayer.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 29, 2013 at 12:10pm

Learning to love oneself, even as family and community think LGBT are less than normal or even worse, requires some really good rehab for the individual. It is obvious we can't change public opinion over night. In the meantime, work on loving oneself and, dare I say it, build strong protective walls.

I don't know good authors regarding LGBT but by now there should be many resources. 

Although being a battered wife took hard work to overcome and my worst enemies were my family and community, I couldn't get a handle on how to be healthy until I discovered some healthy writers and therapists. Obviously, the best therapists can be peers ... if you are lucky, as I was.

Being a battered woman was a learned behavior; LGBT learns far too early to reject themselves for who they are. That is what has to be unlearned.   We all need to work on public attitudes. 

Comment by Grinning Cat on April 29, 2013 at 12:06pm

Thanks for the morning thoughts and smiles! (Especially Be Happy cat, lamp cat, and IQ higher than body temperature! :)

The Jewish practice is to actually read the entire Torah in synagogue over a three-year cycle, not a cherry-picked lectionary. (It's chanted from a scroll in Hebrew, but congregants often follow along from books that include a translation.) Of course it gets interpreted and spun appropriately, in varying ways depending on how orthodox or liberal the group is. No different from Christians or other believers trying to keep some value in their scriptures in the face of conscience and reality.

At LGBT pride festivals I've seen ministers and priests handing out stickers that say "GAY BY GOD". Wrong for me on both points, but I see those religious leaders as simply doing their best to include and help people, using the "cognitive toolbox" they have.

Those of us who are straight or gay might forget, bisexual folk are twice as likely as any of us to find someone to take home.

<grin> Most folks around us are straight, though, so it doesn't increase the dating pool that much. And there's the common prejudice that a bi person will cheat with, or leave you for, someone of another gender. That idea is ably deconstructed in the paper "Bisexuals and the Slut Myth", as based on two widespread false assumptions that reinforce sexism, heterosexism, and compulsory monogamy.

(Many people know they want or need a monogamous relationship -- that's a valid reason, as opposed to "god said so". Quite a few others are happily, honestly, responsibly nonmonogamous.)

 

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