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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

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What Annoys God Most? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat 16 hours ago. 10 Replies

Long story short, it's those near misses, the almost-but-not-quite, close but no cheroot moments, or, would you believe ... Near Death Experiences!  So what's the big deal?  Betty Bowers, America's BEST Christian and self-proclaimed expert on such…Continue

Tags: Near Death Experiences, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

degrading love — part one (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Nov 22. 11 Replies

Love is by many considered among the highest of positive emotions.  Yet when love of the type offered by deities is examined, something seems to go seriously wrong.  The love of Yahweh seems less a gift than a demand, not so much beneficence as a…Continue

Tags: TheraminTrees, god, love

Ning, Error 500s, and Whether to Migrate

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Nov 13. 47 Replies

I just got the following notice from Ning yesterday, (31 October, 2016), in the wake of this latest website outage:As some of you may be aware, we experienced a system outage earlier this morning. The cause was due to a specific network…Continue

Tags: downtime, Atheist Nexus, Ning

Introducing Douglas Murray

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 7. 4 Replies

Most of us who have been around atheism for a while know the heavyweights of our ilk.  Names like Hitchens, Dawkins, Dennett, Harris, Dillahunty and AronRa get nearly daily mention in posts and discussions on Atheist Nexus.  One name I was…Continue

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If There's a God - She's a Woman - The Author T

Started by Joe. Last reply by Chris Nov 3. 4 Replies

I came across this story and thought some here might find it interesting and humorous.It’s titled:If There’s a GodShe’s a WomanFrom the Series:Things You Can Learn from a VaginaIts on the website TheAuthorT.com under the tab, “Free to Read…Continue

His Dark Materials and the Catholic Church

Started by Tonya R. Wheeler. Last reply by k.h. ky Oct 30. 35 Replies

I recently watched the movie, "The Golden Compass" and since I could not find the sequels, I read the books. I enjoyed them, and I will be reading the first one, Northern Lights, starting tomorrow, since it just arrived via inter-library…Continue

Tags: Fantasy, Catholic, Religion, Atheist, Pullman

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Comment by Joan Denoo on May 30, 2013 at 12:55pm

My granddaughter faces a difficult choice for her, a dysfunctional boss, unhealthy work environment and some who would stop her from developing her own power. Her mother and father, and family members all stand with her in support of her flourishing and  of the decisions she makes and I sent her this little message:


Now, as to "fierce", by some processes of nature, we are born, live and die. There are several ways to manage that life.
1. Seek out authority figures and follow them, including gurus. 
2. Seek out information from many sources, think about which have the highest probability of success in developing a functional life style. 
3. Pay attention to one's body and listen for messages, take action to bring about positive change. 
4. Use drugs, legal or illegal, to ease pain. 
5. Turn to religion to ease pain. 
6. Develop life skills and use them as tools. 
7. Attend and follow Landmark skills building classes. They are simply tools for living and flourishing. 
8. Whine. Beg. Plead. Give in. 

9. 

10. 

So, we observe there are many ways, healthy and unhealthy, to try to be successful and to ease the pain of living. 
Some work against health, some promote flourishing. 


Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on May 30, 2013 at 11:47am

Joan, I woke up this morning from a dream about the benefits of vitamin D. Then I realized I'd never discussed it with you. I take 5,000 IU of vitamin D daily as a preventive, but it's also helpful for cancer recovery. I first learned about it from a physician friend who sent me a link to a professional symposium talk by Cedric F. Garland. Our cells are normally connected by tight junctions, through which cytoplasm actually flows from one cell to the next. Low vitamin D reduces the number of tight junctions, and when they're cut off every cell begins to function as a competitive individual instead of a good citizen. If a pro-growth mutation happens the isolated cell gets out of control. High dose vitamin D restores the number of tight junctions, so even mutated cells can calm down and begin to act like good citizens again. Here's the hype version.

Thanks for the info about Gene Roddenberry, sk8eycat. Now I admire him even more.

Cute cats, Steph.

Comment by Steph S. on May 30, 2013 at 9:40am

Joan I am glad that you are doing well and staying strong.

Ruth I love those Star Trek cats.

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 30, 2013 at 2:32am

Mindy, that is very special photo of you and your daughter! A great family. 

I haven't written you yet about how much I like your plan for the tutor to get through math. Thank should clear up a lot of things for her. Lots of good luck. 

Comment by sk8eycat on May 30, 2013 at 2:08am

Steph, I sent that Spock photo and quote to a friend who got to know Gene Roddenberry quite well, and this is her reply (LOL):

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This is why Gene Roddenberry was considered a "loose cannon" by NBC and Desilu, later by Paramount! He kept putting these comments into his scripts in hopes that some of them would get by the censors (oh, pardon me: Quality Control). -- Bjo
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My reply to Bjo, was:
I thought the NBC censors' dept. was called Broadcast Standards.  aka B.S.
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I did tell you that I knew the guy who played "Ensign Hadley" (and the White Rabbit in "Shore Leave," and a lot of other extra roles in TOS) when I was in Holiday, didn't I?
 
He's on the far left in this HOI photo:
 
 

 
Comment by Joan Denoo on May 30, 2013 at 1:19am

My wonderful surgical and chemical oncologests looked me over today and I described the different feeling I have, not to complain, but to describe. One option is to change the chem formula and I said only if it doesn't reduce the probability of getting all the cancer cells. 
Had another dose of chemo today and feel good. Have some new strategies for handling the leaking problems. Laura and Laurie joined me for the procedure. Very nice company. 

Have an appointment tomorrow with the dietitian to work on problems. Did I tell you, fresh garlic eased my stomach cramping.  It turns out my harsh back pains were caused by the chemo to supplement my bone marrow. Knowing those pains caused by strengthening bone marrow, I can tolerate it. Here is where deep meditations and breathing come in handy. I surely don't want any more Rx's than I have to take. That pain will be kind of like having pains to have a baby, it is forgotten soon after birth, and/or healing of my immune system. 

I'm pooped, enjoyed reading your comments on a wide variety of topics. See you tomorrow. 

Comment by sk8eycat on May 29, 2013 at 10:57am

Joan, forgive me, but your "Loess on the Palouse" made me think of this (by Stewart Moskowitz)

I have a print of this somewhere...

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 29, 2013 at 10:17am

We are a strong family because we all have skills that can be easily learned with disciplined, effective, and efficient thinking and acting. Some people think we have magic. Magic has absolutely nothing to do with the qualities of our family lives. 
I
t is hard work to learn how to be a mentally healthy, mature adult. It is an easy lifestyle with which to live. 
We are a happy group, devoted to each other and dedicated to the principles that each member is empowered to be who he/she is, without wearing masks, without denying each other's weaknesses and strengths, without expecting to be obedient and submissive to anyone else's rules and regulations, 
The Skill Set includes developing abilities such as recognizing a problem when it appears, setting some vision of what each one wants and needs for a solution, listening and speaking honestly with each other without the intent to submit to some role. 
To participate in creating a strong family, Each member of the family has to be able to express him/herself even as he/she can observes the needs and desires of others. It is not an obedient robot we try to raise to fit in society. It is to be a participating member of a family, community and Earth willing to learn. 

Notions of obedience, submission, domination, all are killer values that distort and bind the mind of its participants. 

Our key words are awareness, sustained positive effort, community, and critical thinking.

Another way to say it is being, doing, belonging, thinking.

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 29, 2013 at 10:12am

Chris, a wonderful travelogue, so full of images, and experiences. I agree with booklover, "You are very good at making one feel like they were there with you!"

Isn't a volcano fascinating. And add to it the history of its explosive past just makes it more enticing. Kind of like standing on the edge of Hell and not able to move my gaze away. In Hawaii, Goddess Pele used to demand virgin maidens to appease her, and thus not explode. There is mythology for you, always wanting virgin maidens, kind of like religions. 

Comment by Plinius on May 29, 2013 at 1:59am

Holiday stories for Joan, and for everyone who likes them.              Naples is so beautiful. Most buildings are painted in earth colours, red, yellow and green, and the strong sun bleaches everything into an endless variety of shades. Many people make their outside space on balconies or terraces into another livingroom, so every apartment block is a display of chairs, tables and sunshades, decorated with pots of agave and bougainville. All that greenery is astonishing to me, even though the Netherlands are fertile. In and around Naples you can see orange and lemon trees and cactus figs in the smallest spaces, and it all grows like weeds. The mix of wealth and poverty also jumped at me: when I stepped outside our good hotel there was a boy with deformed feet on the pavement and a row of probably illegal immigrants wanting to sell whatever they had - umbrellas, lighters, sunglasses fastened on a piece of cardboard. One time I saw a signal going through the row - carabinieri I guess - they picked up their cardboards and were gone in seconds.

A trip up the Vesuvius is also a wonderful thing to do, quite an adventure for a flatlander like me! At about sea level you take a bus and in a quarter of an hour you're driven higher and higher through some villages and through many hairpin bends - you feel your ears popping now and then. Now you enter the national park of the Vesuvius, and a smaller bus brings you still higher, through the woods on the slopes - more hairpin bends, popping ears and dazzling views! In another quarter of an hour you're at 1100 metres, close to the top. Now the crater is only a 20 minute walk up a path of black volcanic stuff. It's not too steep, but bring a sweater! There's often a cloud on top of the mountain, and you climb into the cloud... On the crater rim you find a small shack where two young men in thick coats sell drinks, souvenirs and postcards (discoloured and curled up by the mist). They ask where you come from, and then they know the footballteam: Rotterdam - Feijenoord! Luckily my husband knew their team - Juventus.

In Pompei I spent most of my time trying to see what isn't there anymore; the people, their belongings, and the way of living there - strange, but a beautiful experience. Many of their belongings in the archeological museum, where I made this picture - Hadrian (if is was him) seems much more awake than his unknown visitor....

 

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