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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Goodwill to Few Men (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Donald R Barbera on Thursday. 3 Replies

Think Goodwill Industries does well by the poor?  Fact is, they do WAY BETTER for themselves, to the point where America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, thinks they're ripping off the christian playbook a bit too well!  Have a look for yourself:…Continue

Tags: ripoff, Goodwill Industries, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Plinius Jul 10. 12 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

losing faith (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jul 5. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees has recently begun producing a new series of YouTube videos, which added to a wonderful library of earlier observations regarding his experience of religion. Good as all those pieces are, I personally think they pale against this…Continue

Tags: story, history, faith, TheraminTrees

Betty Explains Religious Freedom (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jul 3. 10 Replies

Well, considering all the RFRA bills popping up all over the United States, plus all the fun and games ISIS is bringing to the good folks in Syria and Iraq, Betty Bowers, the epitome of well-dressed christianity, has decided to clarify the true…Continue

Tags: persecution, ISIS, Religious Freedom, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

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Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 10, 2012 at 12:15pm

Ian, welcome back.  I'm glad you were finally able to get to England to see your mother and to take care of some family obligations.  I know it must be a terrible strain to have such a distance between you and another family member when they need you. 

You're right.  You will find much to smile at back here with us.  Cheers!  --Carl

Comment by Ian Mason on December 10, 2012 at 12:02pm

Back in Denmark after a trip to England, visiting my mother in hospital. It turns out that she had 2 infections when admitted, urinary tract and chest. The UT infection was causing some dementia-like symptoms/depression but now that's gone and there's still something not quite right. Scans have shown "changes indicative of early dementia". In conversations, she seems more alert than she has in a long while but then starts saying something that makes no sense or perhaps belongs in another conversation. I think it really could be dementia, based on my years of working with the elderly. Then again, before this I thought her problem was depression, as did her doctor, although to be fair those two things can overlap. So not a jolly visit, all in all. Will have to go back again soon as my brother and I will have to start making some arrangements for the future.

Will now try to catch up on the last few days here. I'm sure there's a few things that will put a smile on my face.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 10, 2012 at 11:14am

Chris, your English is so good, it never crosses my mind to think that it's not your first language.  I took one year of German in high school, but that was over 30 years ago and I've pretty much forgotten it all.  I don't know any Dutch, but I did visit the Netherlands in 1998 when the Gay Games where taking place.  I was in Amsterdam and just loved it.  A beautiful city filled with the most friendly and kind people.  I stayed with an elderly couple at their Bed and Breakfast on the outskirts of Amsterdam in the town of Zaandam.  It's one of those travel experiences that I will never forget.  Especially visiting the Anne Frank house.  The first thing I did when I returned home was read her diary.  It brought tears to my eyes after visiting the attic where she lived and wrote it. 

Anyway, I'm glad I was able to help you out, Girlfriend.  :)

Comment by Plinius on December 10, 2012 at 10:56am

Thank you, Melinda and Spud, what a nice compliment! =^.^=

The truth is, of course, that I edit my texts carefully before I push the Add Comment button.

The muslims are not much trouble at all - some of them are. The most conservative people - xtians, muslims - who try to live on an island and want to meet their own sort of people and no one else: they make trouble. (Perhaps you've heard of the infamous Dutch politician Geert Wilders, he's also a nasty troublemaker.) Their children are unable to cope with normal people and normal situations and often become criminals or drop outs.

In the community centre I work at I teach all sorts of people, and I've never met religious fanatics among them. Among muslims there are as many differences as among xtians, but only the fanatic nutcases show up in the news. Don't get influenced by the news too much: most people just want to be good neighbours, meet good neighbours and lead a quiet life.

Comment by Idaho Spud on December 10, 2012 at 10:01am

Chris, If I had the money, I would visit the Netherlands with the purpose of determining If I wanted to become a citizen.  The reason is because I've heard it's one of the most secular countries.  

I see that muslims are 5% of the population, and I'm curious how much trouble they cause.  I get the idea that they are trying to force the world to become muslim by any means.

Comment by Idaho Spud on December 10, 2012 at 9:46am

Chris, like booklover, I also forget English is not your first language.

Booklover, I love the baby cat reaching like what I presume is it's mother.

Steph, I love the oooooooooo cat.

Comment by Plinius on December 10, 2012 at 8:29am

Hi Booklover, don't be sorry! Apart from wanting to meet kind people without imaginary friends, like yourself, I come here to improve my English - I imagine that it's a bit stiff and perhaps just out of touch. But I don't worry about it: I can use it well enough. Is anyone learning Dutch?

Comment by Plinius on December 10, 2012 at 5:18am

Thanks, Flying Atheist! It helps!

Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 10, 2012 at 2:59am

Good morning, Chris.  I'm up late here suffering with a little bit of insomnia.  Regarding your question:  yes, it is true that the terms boyfriend and girlfriend are used in referencing a lover, as when two people are dating or are romantically involved. 

However, for females, the term 'girlfriend(s)' is also commonly used to describe acquaintances that are friends only and not lovers.  Example: "She spent a fun day out at the museum with her girlfriend(s)."  In this instance, the term 'girlfriend' is commonly used in both the singular and the plural forms in describing two female friends or even a group of female friends.   

For males, the term boyfriend is not commonly used in this manner, as your textbook states.  You generally do not hear a male say that he is meeting his boyfriends after work for dinner and a movie.  He is just meeting his friends, or his buddies, or his pals, etc.  (I guess it's kind of a macho/sexist "guy" thing.)  Of course, in the gay male community, the term 'girlfriend' is carelessly thrown about while speaking with, about, or describing other gay males.

I hope this helps explain our quirky language.

Comment by Plinius on December 10, 2012 at 2:12am

Question: I teach English to elderly people - nice to do, yes - but it's not as if I know so very much about English. One of the books I use says that ´boyfriend´ and ´girlfriend´ are strictly used for lovers, not for friends. So when I hear Booklover say girlfriend to Steph, I don't want to pry but I do want to know about your use of the language. Tell me more!

 

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