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Come on in, pull up a chair!

Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

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Discussion Forum

...but intelligent people believe in God (DarkMatter2525)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat 2 hours ago. 3 Replies

A ridiculous claim should be recognized as such as a matter of course, shouldn't it?  Shouldn't It?!?  What happens if that claim is so imbued and integrated into society over hundreds if not thousands of years that it has been taken as TRUTH…Continue

Tags: religion, indoctrination, ridiculous claim

Optical Illusions

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jan 31. 66 Replies

This one seems a bit creepy, like the middle one shouldn't be able to change rotation like that. from Cheezburger.comContinue

White House Petition: Change National Motto Back to "E Pluribus, Unum"

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by k.h. ky Jan 22. 8 Replies

There is a petition being sponsored by whitehouse.gov to remove "in god we trust" as the national motto and replace it with the original: "E Pluribus, Unum" or "Out of Many, One."  As of this writing, there are around 11,000 signatures on it, with…Continue

Tags: E Pluribus, Unum, in god we trust, petition

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISIS

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller Dec 24, 2015. 3 Replies

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISISGrowth in population, policies and practices that create a gap between the typical person and the wealthy,…Continue

coming out (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Atheist in FundyLand Dec 23, 2015. 6 Replies

Whether as atheist, agnostic, gay / Lesbian or whatever, the process of coming out has been a repeated topic of discussion here on Atheist Nexus and for good reason: it is at once a necessary yet potentially supremely painful process, depending on…Continue

Tags: Lesbian, agnostic, gay, atheist, TheraminTrees

If God Exists (DarkMatter2525)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Dec 23, 2015. 4 Replies

"Practice makes perfect."  That's the concept, isn't it?  Work diligently at something, especially something you enjoy and are adept at, and your skills sharpen, your judgment improves, and the product of your efforts demonstrate that improvement. …Continue

Tags: religion, YouTube, god, DarkMatter2525

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Comment by Grinning Cat on June 30, 2015 at 11:17pm

Hang in there! (Hugs, scritches, and a sincere head butt and slow blink.)

Comment by sk8eycat on June 30, 2015 at 10:21pm

I've been thinking that being the only member in here without a badge is less humiliating than quitting altogether. Slightly.
In the meantime, I MUST get medical help that doesn't cost an arm and a leg in co-pays, or have for-profit insurance companies deciding which meds they will subsidize no matter what my doctor says I need.

The first step is going to the local (Catholic) ER, and staring at the gruesome scarecrows on the walls while waiting to talk to a social worker.

I have always been proud of the fact that I was able to support myself while doing exactly what I wanted to do, even if I had to work two jobs, but those days are over.  Forever.  And I have a difficult time accepting "charity," especially from friends.

In the meantime, all I can do is what Jackson Galaxy calls "the slow blink."  A cat's way of saying "I appreciate you."

Comment by Richard Haynes on June 30, 2015 at 8:57pm

sk8eycat: Then please do not feel pressured to do anything. What you experience here will not change at all, it will only get better. Or, if it really matters, I'm sure we can find someone willing to make a donation in your name. Either way, you are supported.

Comment by sk8eycat on June 30, 2015 at 8:35pm

Two years ago I had to drop my membership with FFRF because it was either that or give up my MedicAlert membership...same price.  I NEED this damn bracelet to tell EMTs NOT to try to restart my heart and/or lungs, and not to give me morphine under any circumstances. 

So.... they had a 50% off sale last month, and I jumped at it, and was thinking of renewing my FFRF membership (which includes an actual printed monthly newspaper) when this subject came up.

THAT is how tight my "budget" is. 

And sometimes I like to have frozen strawberries to snack on in hot weather.  I guess I could switch to frozen grapes....anything for an occasional brain freeze.

Comment by Pat on June 30, 2015 at 5:38pm

Richard, I realize you're dealing with a touchy issue here. How to keep the site up and running, and at the same time, not piss anyone off. And, in the "for what it's worth" category. I think you're doing a great job walking the tight rope.

Felaine, I sincerely hope you stay. You may not realize this, but I've learned a helluva lot from you. And, as an attorney, you have NO idea how much I hate to humble myself like that (OK, hope you got a laugh - rimshot - bad joke). The learning part, however, is absolutely true. 

Change in any society is a bitch. Or bastard (Don't want to be misogynistic or misandristic). And, this is a modern on line society, of which we are all members. We're all going to have our opinions and outlooks. Whatever the outcome, and whatever the change, I do hope it is for the better. 

And remember everyone. Jesus loves you. And I've got some ocean front property in Topeka, KS, you might be interested in.

Comment by Richard Haynes on June 30, 2015 at 4:19pm

Also, I should take a moment and explain "access." Right now it remains somewhat cryptic, and that is because I don't want to commit to something before it is even possible.

That being said, the idea was to offer other things to subscribers that actually cost money to produce. So, the free membership as it is now, will not change at all. In fact, the entire site will improve for all members. All will have access to podcasts, YouTube videos, and overall site improvements. But we are still a long way from that.

I will remain open to constructive ideas. Reach out to me personally, and I will gladly listen. 

Comment by Loren Miller on June 30, 2015 at 4:09pm

I have to agree with Joan on this one, Felaine.  I can't stop you from going, any more than I can stop myself from missing you if you do.  If you DO decide to leave, please leave me an email addy so we can stay in touch, okay?

Comment by Joan Denoo on June 30, 2015 at 3:56pm

Felaine, I understand your predicament and support whatever decision you make. However! Tell us when and if you go to another site. I do not want to lose touch with you. You are an important part of my life. I especially like your whacko spelling! and whackier attitude that is right on target!

Comment by Richard Haynes on June 30, 2015 at 3:44pm

Grinning Cat: I do like those badge choices. If someone wants to help design them, reach out to me. I can give the specs.

sk8eycat: I understand. If you must go, I wish you well. I will respect that decision and will harbor no ill feelings toward anyone who makes the same choice.

Everyone: The fact remains that we have had the huge "DONATE NOW" button on the site for several years. As a result, less than five people contributed on a monthly basis. Now there are over 30.

Even if we lose half our members, it will be sad, but at least we will still be here for the other half.

I am proud that we are keeping basic membership free. Also, the small about of $3.00 a month, is pretty great. It's two sodas from a vending machine every 30 days. But again, no pressure to anyone. The vast majority of people have said they are proud to show that they support the site.

I have no intention on getting into a flame war with anyone. I only am responding here, because so many members of this group are dedicated members.

Thanks to you all!

Comment by Grinning Cat on June 30, 2015 at 3:05pm

Ruth's argument convinced me that the ongoing reminder that there are quite a few supporting members is a good thing. ("...how collective moral behavior emerges in a group.") I don't mind continuing to display a star, now.

(I'd prefer not to have tiered access to information be part of the deal.)

Another choice could be a message on each page, "Special thanks to our n supporting members -- m joined this month!"

I agree with sk8eycat's idea: a colored star (or flame or crown) with a white outline, and no disk, would look good while taking up a lot less space. Or else a disk could be semitransparent:

 

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