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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

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Afrodisiacs – African Aphrodisiacs

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo on Monday. 4 Replies

Am I so old and not know the definition of aphrodisiac, and its historical definition being based on Aphrodite, that her name came from the African drugs that Egyptians, Greeks, and Romans used for sexual enhancement? Dhu!  Aphrodite, ancient Greek…Continue

Tags: Africa, Lady, Victorian

Degrees of Doubt: The Claims and Credentials of Ravi Zacharias (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris May 17. 1 Reply

Anyone here ever run onto an apologist by the name of Ravi Zacharias?  I've seen his name dropped multiple times on YouTube as supposedly being THE ONE APOLOGIST that no atheist wants to cross swords with, because of his facility with christian…Continue

Tags: Ravi Zacharias, Steve Baughman, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

The Most Hated Woman in America (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Gary S Apr 19. 7 Replies

Before Aron Ra and Matt Dillahunty, before Dawkins or Dennett or Harris or even Hitchens, there was Madalyn Murray O'Hair.  In the midst of an America where Christianity was being flaunted as a defense against the godless communists of the Soviet…Continue

Tags: Frank Zindler, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, Madalyn Murray O'Hair

Proud Dad is REALLY Proud Now!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Todd Williams Apr 12. 16 Replies

As some of you may or may not know, my daughter is a television news producer, currently working in Nashville, Tennessee.  Her assignment is the morning news, which means she blasts herself up at umpti-ump in the morning to organize and prepare a…Continue

Tags: Emmy, news, television, daughter, dad

attacking ideas (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Apr 4. 1 Reply

Attacking ideas is a considerable portion of what we as atheists do.  Why attack ideas?  Ideas earn attack when they don't serve people, not just us but those who adopt said ideas, mistakenly thinking that they have value when they don't.  Our…Continue

Tags: ideas, Islam, TheraminTrees

bending truth, or "We Can All Be Manipulated" (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Apr 4. 40 Replies

The following is one of TheraminTrees' most thorough-going pieces, wherein he looks at the process and techniques whereby a "religious" organization (which will sound VERY familiar to most of us, once introductions are made!) takes a person who…Continue

Tags: indoctrination, truth, manipulation, TheraminTrees

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Comment by Plinius on June 9, 2013 at 12:50am

 that the U.S. is the most religious nation on earth!!! 

We waved good-bye to a lot of them; Pilgrim Fathers, Mennonites, Hernhutters, and so on, but there are Always enough left - they multiply like pests. And that makes me think what effect they have on natural selection....  

Comment by sk8eycat on June 9, 2013 at 12:02am

Joan, I love that sly NSA graphic, even though the situation itself scares the *bleep!* outta me.  I have nothing to hide, but I remember how the KGB used to operate, and one of my usual sarcastic remarks could be misunderstood if overheard...and taken seriously...and I'm too old to put up with their brand of interror-gation.

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I also can relate to your post about "people-pleasing."  We talked about that a lot when I was going to 12-step meetings for Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA).  It's a behavioral symptom of some sort of childhood dysfunctional family stuff.

In my own case, I was never physically or emotionally abused, but I believed that if I could just do the right thing, like get better grades in school, my dad would stop drinking.  He was a "quiet" alcoholic...no yelling, or physical tantrums, but he just wasn't "there."  He did finally dry out when I was 20, and I went to work for him...learning bookkeeping...for 7 years.  Till he fell off the wagon, and I ran away again.  (Re-joined Holiday.)

When I was older I found myself dating guys who drank too much, and I finally realized that I was looking for someone like my father.

Then there were a few who tried to control me...my beliefs and taste in entertainment.

I ran like hell from all of them.  I didn't know why at the time, but I guess it was just self-preservation.  I couldn't imagine myself spending my life with any of them (and having their children. Gack!).

D'ruther have a non-physical relationship with a gay man...or men, except I'm a lousy roommate.  The only reason my sister and I are able to live together is that we leave each other alone.

Anyway, I didn't understand why I did what I did till I started talking to other people who'd been through the same sort of things.  ACA really did help for a couple of years, till I got tired of all the "god talk."  and fore, it wasn't like AA where you have to keep going to meetings for the rest of your life.  I just needed to step back and take a good look at myself, and figure out why I kept putting myself in people-pleasing "doormat" situations. And stop it.

I wan't pleasing anybody, anyway.  Especially not myself.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on June 8, 2013 at 11:33pm

ROFL, too right, Joan, "the only part of government that listens."

It was inevitable that government would spy on all of us, with today's connectivity. My solution is that the more power an individual has the more his or her life should be an open book. It should go both ways. It's the imbalance of information power that disturbs me, not the spying per se. If corporate honchos and politicians had absolutely no privacy they couldn't abuse this power.

Comment by sk8eycat on June 8, 2013 at 1:57pm

Joseph, Here's Ron Reagan, Jr.'s speech when he accepted his "Emperor Has No Clothes" award at the 2009 FFRF convention in Seattle:

http://ffrf.org/outreach/awards/emperor-has-no-clothes-award/item/1...

I think Ronald Reagan Sr. (AND Richard Nixon) would be considered much too liberal for today's GOP.  And Eisenhower would have been tarred, feathered, and run out of town on a rail for his prophetic warning about the "military-industrial complex."

Comment by Ian Mason on June 8, 2013 at 12:51pm

Joan, that's a post with a very sharp point. Good one.

Comment by Joan Denoo on June 8, 2013 at 10:42am

Comment by Plinius on June 8, 2013 at 10:35am

Welcome back, Ian!

Comment by Plinius on June 8, 2013 at 10:34am

Sounds like your child, Melinda!

Comment by Steph S. on June 8, 2013 at 10:24am

Ian - what a wonderful vacation picture. The weather looks beautiful.

So glad you had a great time and got back safely.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on June 8, 2013 at 9:44am

Welcome back, Ian.  Looking forward to hearing and seeing more from your trip. 

 

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