Hang With Friends

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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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The Playboy Interview: Richard Dawkins

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris on Sunday. 14 Replies

I suppose it was the news that Playboy magazine was returning nudes to its pages after a year's hiatus that sufficiently perked my curiosity to check them out again.  I hadn't looked at Playboy since perhaps 2008, when I began to recognize that I…Continue

Tags: Richard Dawkins, Playboy

Such Lyrics!

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Grinning Cat Feb 13. 9 Replies

Hello Friends,I was ruminating a bit today on my sixty-some years existence. My mind went back to teenage years when I first figured out religion is not only obnoxiously loud, but also nothing I wanted anything to do with. Truly. I knew by age 15…Continue

degrading love — part two (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Feb 11. 1 Reply

TheraminTrees set up religion with his left in Part One of his treatise on how religion demeans and degrades the value of love.  Here in Part Two, he brings in a devastating, "Mike Tyson" right, which negates and invalidates any claim that either…Continue

Tags: Christianity, Islam, TheraminTrees, god, love


Started by Thomas Murray. Last reply by k.h. ky Feb 9. 6 Replies

   It has been 6 month now since I signed up for Atheist Nexus membership. The past year has been sort of a bi-polar wave of emotions for me. I hope I wasn't offensive to the folks on here and I think I have been but I don't know to who. My desire…Continue

Proud Dad is REALLY Proud Now!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris Jan 31. 15 Replies

As some of you may or may not know, my daughter is a television news producer, currently working in Nashville, Tennessee.  Her assignment is the morning news, which means she blasts herself up at umpti-ump in the morning to organize and prepare a…Continue

Tags: Emmy, news, television, daughter, dad

Men who challenge men to stop violence

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Jan 9. 19 Replies

Many men join in the effort to reduce violence against women and children and other men. He speaks of the need to place responsibility on men instead of focusing on women to stop violence. He offers a breath of fresh air, as do so many of the men on…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on April 6, 2013 at 11:52am

Oh, I read further and realize the questions concerned magic. 

Looking at the effect of natural selection, I feel full of wonder, sometimes with goose bumps.  

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 6, 2013 at 11:45am

If we are discussing selection, natural would be the correct adjective, not random. Correct me if I am wrong, please. 

Comment by Grinning Cat on April 5, 2013 at 11:38pm

Patricia, you asked about playing Scrabble together using computers with different operating systems.

BlueStacks has an "app player" that lets you run Android apps on a Windows computer. An inveterate online Scrabbler I know tried it successfully with Wordsmith, the Scrabble variant he plays frequently on his Android tablet. (There are others, including the "official" Electronic Arts Scrabble app, and Words With Friends. I don't have an Android device myself, and haven't gotten into those. I play online at which supports Windows, Mac, and Linux; you have to download their app.)

BlueStacks is free for now, while it's in beta.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on April 5, 2013 at 11:17pm

Would this creep you out?

Comment by Loren Miller on April 5, 2013 at 10:26pm

"Random" implies that, given a value, one cannot reliably predict the following value.  Considering that even Brownian Motion and Heisenberg's Uncertainty Principle describe what is thought to be "random" motion or behavior, the concept of "random" as some attempt to apply it to this reality is inappropriate.

There are still rules for everything ... and the answer is never ... never, Never, NEVER ... "magic."

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on April 5, 2013 at 10:17pm

Thanks, Joan and booklover.

Here's a picture I had to share.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 5, 2013 at 4:47pm

I like your comments, especially "I integrate our role as knowers into my concept of “blind indifferent forces of nature”. This means I see meaning in the interplay of natural forces, not as something imposed by an external god but an emergent outcome of complex systems."

"I don’t need religion to find meaning and order in chaos, only observation and the understanding flowing from science and philosophy."

"There are patterns, from evolution of genes and of memes. Everything isn’t just random, even at the atomic level."

The kitty illustrates your description so well. 

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on April 5, 2013 at 1:28pm

Joan, I can see how rats would beat humans in responding to random stimuli. Quite bright people can be gambling addicts. We’re wired to “see” patterns and intent where they don’t exist. Such as alleged signs from alleged gods.

Of course we have to forge our own sense of meaning. But don’t forget that we are part of the universe and the known universe exists only insofar as we know it (at least for us). I integrate our role as knowers into my concept of “blind indifferent forces of nature”. This means I see meaning in the interplay of natural forces, not as something imposed by an external god but an emergent outcome of complex systems.

There are patterns, from evolution of genes and of memes. Everything isn’t just random, even at the atomic level. Yes atoms far outside of living things behave randomly, but atoms inside of living things and moved by them have their position and momentum constrained because they’re caught up in our complexity. The molecules in my fingertips and the keys of my computer keyboard are moving in a very systematic way correlated with the English language and the molecules in my brain. Those deviations far exceed the influence of their thermal vibrations. Even the size of those random vibrations is correlated with my electric bill.
So I don’t need religion to find meaning and order in chaos, only observation and the understanding flowing from science and philosophy.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 5, 2013 at 12:00pm
The idea of living or dying by chance alone is hard to accept. If you look at the misfortune and fortune in human life, in the universe generally, there is no pattern that relates to people, any patterns are entirely related to physics. The universe has exactly the properties we'd expect if there were no plan, no design, no aim, just blind indifferent forces of nature.

The Homo sapiens brain insists on seeing order, meaning and pattern even where there is none. It's a very human characteristic to fool ourselves that we are in control. In today's world, it seems that we make more mistakes seeing patterns that aren't there rather than missing patterns that are there.

In fact, there's a great experiment; researchers put a rat in front of a red light and a green light. The red light and the green light flash without any pattern, at random. However, the green light flashes 75% of the time, and the red light flashes 25% of the time. The rat, if it guesses correctly which is going to flash, it gets a little sugar water. So when rats do this experiment, they see after a while that the green light is flashing more than the red light, and they just start guessing green, green, green, green, green every time. They get it right 75% of the time and are happy with that.

However, people think we know better. So when humans do the experiment, they won't do what the rat does. They've seen that it's 75% green and they'll guess a pattern. They'll go, green, green, red, green, green, green, red. They'll start spewing out these red and greens in some weird pattern that's tailored to be 75% green and 25% red, thinking that they can beat the system. When they do that, they end up about 60% of the time getting it right, instead of 75%. Rats out perform humans. That's because humans see patterns where there aren't any. That's just the way our minds work. That is called The Gambler's Fallacy.

Perhaps this is part of the explanation why religion evolved in the first place, it satisfies our desire to find meaning and order in the chaos.

In fact, there is no meaning, design, aim, purpose or plan, just blind indifferent forces of nature.

"In the face of what appears to be a blindly indifferent universe, Dawkins argues that we each have to forge our own sense of meaning."

~ Richard Dawkins, Sex, Death and the Meaning of Life
Comment by Steph S. on April 5, 2013 at 7:07am
Love the cat photo Ruth!
Also Joan that chipmunk is so cute.
Well it's cold here this morning, and I feel like it's Fall weather instead of Spring. Low temperatures around mid 30's!! Sometimes even goes to freezing at night.
I hope everyone is doing well. It's Friday!

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