My wife is a Christian, albeit a liberal one, and we get along fine. The problem is her family. They are all Southern Baptist fundamentalists (YEC's, biblical inerrantists, etc.) and my wife's mom has told my wife that it makes her cry (often) to know that I'm not going to be in heaven with the rest of the family. I love my mother-in-law, but there's nothing I can do to make her feel better. I don't get in her face, but I have a feeling that other family members are telling her about my secularist activism. Things are made worse by the fact that my wife has stopped going to church, and her family is starting to doubt her salvation, even though the SBC believes in permanence of salvation. I'm not sure what is going on there. Plus, my wife is talking about converting to Catholicism. Talk about a mess.
Not any real question here. Just wanted to get it off my chest.
Sorry to hear about your struggles and I do understand the need for venting. I'm often angry because of religion all together and don't know if I would have the strength to hang in there with a devout theist. Be encouraged and vent when you need to. We are here to listen and build one another up.