I really feel for all of you. I'm scared for some of you too. Please be careful.
I'm quite lucky really. My wife and I were both Christian when we married 4 years ago. I have always been the more deeply religious one in all my relationships. But now over the past 6 months I've left religion entirely. It's caused some problems and she's cried a number of times, out of fear for how I might change. It's hard for me to not talk about it because I haven't come out to anyone else except a friend or two, who I don't get to talk to very often. She's felt judged at times because I do rail against some of the more ridiculous religious beliefs that some people have. It's really hard to not talk to my wife about one of the most important changes in my life.
Luckily my wife is not super religious. She believe in God, Jesus and being a good person. That's about as far as it goes. She doesn't really want to talk about religion at all. Sometimes it bothers me that people insist on being in religions that they know almost nothing about. But, I'm very grateful that she's not a fanatic by any stretch of the imagination. I suppose Casual Christian is far better than Fundamentalist.
Best wish all. I hope things work out for you all and that you're all safe and happy eventually. I know divorce sometimes follows this kind of shift in world view. Hopefully it won't happen for any of you, but from personal experience, I know that you can be very happy after divorce. Good luck.
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