Living with a religious spouse


Living with a religious spouse

Love sees past many things and that includes religion. You and your significant other my love each other to the death but arguments come up about whats after death. Tell your stories here.

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Wife waiting for God to help us

Started by Mark Schwab. Last reply by Joan Denoo Dec 10, 2016. 11 Replies

 I am married to a very religious wife who puts all of her trust in her belief in god. To wit,we are in a not-very secure financial position, and although she has a job, she doesn't like it and it…Continue

So frustrated!!!!

Started by Shay. Last reply by Steph S. Oct 30, 2011. 5 Replies

Hey everyone!  I'm new to this site and group.  I feel SO alone!  I was born/raised roman catholic in NY.  My husband too.  I don't know what age I stopped believing but I think it was around the…Continue

Which came first?

Started by Prog Rock Girl. Last reply by Facts Before Faith Oct 20, 2011. 30 Replies

Did you become atheist first, or meet your partner first?For me I was in a relationship w/ my Catholic husband, I was in my pagan experiment at the time (being that he was fine with paganism and even…Continue


Started by The Big Blue Frog. Last reply by Steph S. Oct 9, 2011. 4 Replies

My wife is a Christian, albeit a liberal one, and we get along fine. The problem is her family. They are all Southern Baptist fundamentalists (YEC's, biblical inerrantists, etc.) and my wife's mom…Continue

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Comment by Justin Bonaparte on April 26, 2011 at 11:30pm
Counselors of all types have experience working with people from all walks of life, and they've seen many different types of relationships and helped them through it. I wouldn't dismiss a church counselor or even a pastor out of hand. They may have some personal opinions that are at odds with a non-believer, but most of them are truly kind and generous people.
Comment by sham on April 26, 2011 at 9:19pm

If the problem is religion, then how will a church based counselor help? They base their counseling on religion, the book, and the so called god's point of view.  I hope your religious spouses would look past the dogma and see what's in front of them.

Comment by Justin Bonaparte on April 26, 2011 at 3:29pm
Yeah, even a church based counselor might help, although they might go all 'unequally yoked' on you.
Comment by FeloniousD on April 26, 2011 at 3:12pm
Is your wife willing to see a non church marriage couselor?
Comment by FeloniousD on April 26, 2011 at 3:10pm
Damn man. I feel for you. My wife recently brought up the religion thing as part of a list of problems in our relationship. I really think that that list was really a rationalization for her mind being somewhat already made up that we should split. I believe the real source of the problem is that we let ourselves grow apart. I am trying to remedy that now, and I think she is on board, but I never know. Anyway, I took responsibility for my share of the blame and vowed to change some things. But when I told her I can't make myself believe, she says, "of course you can, that's why I believe, I chose to."

Things have since subsided on that front so I'm feeling hopeful but the not knowing how religious she is feeling from one day to the next is kind of rough.
Comment by L.Hunter on April 26, 2011 at 11:22am
I got into a huge fight with the wife on Easter. Topic of discussion "Do I really believe their is no god?" Apparently my wife thought it was just a phase, or that I would snap out of this soon. Religious people really don't understand that some people are really convinced that god is imaginary.
Now she is considering whether she really wants to live with someone who doesn't believe.
Her comments were that if I believe she is wasting her time at church then what do we have?
Terrible shame... I tried really hard to let her know that this thing was real for me. I really don't believe in god. Don't know where we're going from here.
Comment by L.Hunter on March 18, 2011 at 10:07am

How I miss being a theist!!!! I miss how I followed after pasta' and did everything he told me to do. Maybe I should go back and experience the guilt and shame tactics for money.

Comment by L.Hunter on February 10, 2011 at 9:48am

Some interesting reads....

This is your brain...this is your brain on god



Comment by L.Hunter on December 7, 2010 at 9:20pm
Michelle you have my sympathy as well. Not much I can say. Its a tough choice to make. Here's another case where religion messes everything up. I too hope for the best no matter what you decide.
Comment by Justin Bonaparte on December 7, 2010 at 4:01pm
Michelle, I'm so sorry to hear that. I know how challenging it can be. Wishing for a good outcome for you, whatever you decide to do.

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