Living with a religious spouse


Living with a religious spouse

Love sees past many things and that includes religion. You and your significant other my love each other to the death but arguments come up about whats after death. Tell your stories here.

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Wife waiting for God to help us

Started by Mark Schwab. Last reply by Joan Denoo Dec 10, 2016. 11 Replies

 I am married to a very religious wife who puts all of her trust in her belief in god. To wit,we are in a not-very secure financial position, and although she has a job, she doesn't like it and it…Continue

So frustrated!!!!

Started by Shay. Last reply by Steph S. Oct 30, 2011. 5 Replies

Hey everyone!  I'm new to this site and group.  I feel SO alone!  I was born/raised roman catholic in NY.  My husband too.  I don't know what age I stopped believing but I think it was around the…Continue

Which came first?

Started by Prog Rock Girl. Last reply by Facts Before Faith Oct 20, 2011. 30 Replies

Did you become atheist first, or meet your partner first?For me I was in a relationship w/ my Catholic husband, I was in my pagan experiment at the time (being that he was fine with paganism and even…Continue


Started by The Big Blue Frog. Last reply by Steph S. Oct 9, 2011. 4 Replies

My wife is a Christian, albeit a liberal one, and we get along fine. The problem is her family. They are all Southern Baptist fundamentalists (YEC's, biblical inerrantists, etc.) and my wife's mom…Continue

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Comment by GodMockingBitch on December 7, 2010 at 3:51pm
I need to vent and I guess I have to do it here. I really don't think my marriage is going to make it another year, and I don't care. My marriage was already shattered with problems. With me becoming atheist and denouncing all religion has made things worse. I am tired of fighting about it. I know he is a christian and I don't clash with him about it. When anything comes up about my non belief its a big fight. I am not even considering going back to that crap and I'm not trying to change him. I just want the fighting to stop.
Comment by Justin Bonaparte on December 6, 2010 at 8:08am
I've been married for 11 years. My wife has been a Christian since 9 years old, I've always been an atheist (moderately religious upbringing). We agreed before we got married that we'd raise our children in the Christian tradition, and I don't have too much of a problem with my 3 and 6 year olds going to church and a Christian daycare, although there are times when I feel the need to express myself. I'm friendly with most everyone at her church (we've been there 10 years and most know I'm not a believer, although I don't attend often).

We've had some difficulties and larger struggles the past couple of years as our kids have gotten older and I disagree with some of the things they're being taught, and I've come to realize how much religion plays a role in a person's thought processes and mental attitudes. I've also realized that I want to be less passive and more involved in socio-political events and actions that have an effect on my family. So yeah, it's been kind of tough, madblackatheist I have a feeling I know where you are in your relationship. We've done some therapy (Christian-based, LOL) and are working on it, but I don't think we're as assured that the relationship is going to make it as we once were; I'm sure that youthful naivete played a role in our early romance.
Comment by Round Peg on December 4, 2010 at 10:05am
Hi Richard. While there's precious little middle ground between atheism and Christianity, I think there can be a lot of common ground between atheists and Christians as individuals. I remind myself that relationship problems exist in every marriage, even marriages in which both partners have a consensus about religious matters.

As for my wife and I, we have a young daughter who needs raising. We even have several common interests (including talking about religion). And we like each other too!
Comment by L.Hunter on November 25, 2010 at 12:25pm
For those of us who chose to come out of the closet and have commited social suicide, I would like to say Happy Thanksgiving (Turkey Day). No we don't need to a sky daddy in order to be grateful for our time here on this side of the earth. Enjoy your day, even if you don't celebrate this holiday.
Comment by Round Peg on November 19, 2010 at 5:23pm
My wife and I were fundamentalist Christians once, with dreams of serving in a church somewhere or becoming missionaries. My turnaround to atheism hurt her deeply.
Comment by L.Hunter on November 19, 2010 at 4:24pm
Religion can really do a number on a person......
Comment by L.Hunter on November 18, 2010 at 11:10am
@ madblackatheist, I think we are all in the same boat. We'er all having problems in coming to grips with how to deal with our spouses and their religious fervor. My wife wants to be a traveling evangelist like we see on TV. She glorifies that life. I've to calm her down and bring her back go reality more than once. The bills, kids and household responsibilities don't allow for one to travel around and slap olive oil on ppls heads. Now we don't talk about religion, except on rare occasions and we both admit that if we would have know before what we know now we wouldn't have gotten married. I have given her plenty of times to call it quits. She still wants to hang in there, and so far we doing ok.
Always use reason and think things thru carefully and hopefully things will work out. Silly question, buy is your husband even willing to listen to atheist arguments? My wife isn't so I understand if your spouse isn't either.
Comment by CaptainCook on November 6, 2010 at 1:44am
It's a strange turnaround that once I was the religious spouse. Then I woke up. I often think about all the time wasted on religious stuff when I could have been doing something much more useful with my time.
Comment by The Big Blue Frog on October 15, 2010 at 9:40am
I can see the problems with infections in a geriatric situation, but if we take that as a reason to circumcise all newborns, then it would follow that all kinds of body parts could be removed at birth to prevent later infections. Also, the problem in nursing homes probably comes from lack of sufficient care of the penis and foreskin by the people who are being paid to bathe the residents. If that's where the problem is, then that's where it needs to be addressed. If a nurse or orderly is too squeamish to clean a foreskin, then they don't need to be in health care.
Comment by Chuck S on October 15, 2010 at 3:53am
D.O.S. If my son decides to get the operation when he is old enough to make that decision, I will drive him to the doctor myself. But to inflict it on him would haunt me for life. Infections and deaths caused by circumcisions do happen. Admittedly, they are rare but I wouldn't take the chance. But primarily, I just think that the decision should be his.

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