I told someone I was an Introvert recently and guess what the response was?
Well, it was like this ... you can always change, you can become an Extrovert.
They obviously have no understanding of Introverts.
Anyone have this happen to them? What did you do?
Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.
When I was young, I went with an extrovert to visit the sick in a hospital. I didn't know what to say to them, so I just let him do the talking. He finally said "Say something", as if it was as easy as breathing.
I think I tried to explain that nothing came to mind, but he just had no comprehension that it was very difficult for an introvert.
At age 71, I can now usually find something to say to people in most situations, but it's still not always easy, especially when we have nothing in common. I hate making small talk.
Idaho Spud I am like that too. I have had people say to me "Why aren't you talking?" Or "why are you so quiet?" I don't like small talk either.
After thinking about it, I wasn't very young when this incident took place. I think I was in my 30's.
Yeah I still get comments like that today in fact. And I'm not a teenager or anything. So yeah - it still happens.
Be yourself - that's what I tell people.
I don't remember anyone telling me I could change to an extrovert, but I do remember a lot of people indicated that's what they thought by their words and actions.
I got that indication very strongly from the Mormon church. They tried to make everyone into a teacher, a leader, an outgoing proselytizer, and a preacher. It was very uncomfortable for me. In the 50 years I was active, I did quite a bit of what they said I should do (all I could do), but it never became comfortable or enjoyable.
I finally realized that the scripture where Jebus said "take my yoke upon you, .... for my my yoke is easy and my burden is light" was untrue. It was always hard and heavy. That's one of the realizations that helped me break-out of the brainwashing.
Wow, you had some real dictators after you. Sounds like you had it much worse than me.
Oh that pastor is so wrong - good thing you got out of there Kyle.
I have had people tell me that too Kyle - they assume there is something wrong with you - but you are just fine the way you are. I am glad I am free of Xtian beliefs too.
I am glad to have you in the group.
I never go to large social events as I find them absolutely draining. People I have known for years still can't accept that. They take it personally. My parents' reaction when I was younger was always "well, you will just have to get over that!" . Not
Really. I HAVE gotten over feeling guilty about it.
I agree, social events have me wiped out. I am glad I stay away from those.
Same with me Kathy, although my parents understood because they were introverts also.
One exception I can remember is my High School graduation. I didn't want to go because I hate pomp and ceremony. Mother, however, pushed me into going. I think it was because she was so proud of her children's accomplishments.
Glad you've gotten over the guilt!