I don't think you should have to be any more careful than on an average day - you are appropriate and share your thoughts - as far as I understand it, that's what this place is for [if it turns to be a place of self-discovery, nothing bad about that either ;)]. I see what you are saying though, especially as far as the close people whose opinions differ are concerned. I too am estranged from my mother – she is highly illogical (religion being a strong influence, getting stronger as she gets older) and demanding of everyone around to think as she does; anything out of the boundaries that she establishes is out of the question. The only way to deal with it, I found, was to find myself outside of the boundaries of her reach altogether, and it’s worked well so far. I’m considering that with time it may change, but not for a while. While she’s in whatever state of mind that she is in, I’m at a point where I have little patience for irrational, mystical, magical, mythical or whatever other than the logical.
And I wholeheartedly agree with you that caution must be applied when coming out, weighing all pros and cons and potential consequences – short- and long-term. But, at the same time having no outlet for the frustration building up over time due to all the fairy-tale influences all around is much to deal with. For that very reason, places like this one, meet-ups and such, where you can speak out freely are so pleasant. Possibly that is why I am somewhat sensitive to anyone who is antagonistic for no good reason - enough of that from the theists! I am all for a discourse and varied opinions, when done apropriately (by that I mean that no one should be made to feel uncomfortable to freely share, especially when what they are sharing is perfectly relevant :).