My husband and I are both atheists, although that is not always how it has been. When we first started out, I was extremely religious - to the point of almost fanatcism. I am ashamed to admit that in the beginning, if presented with the choice between my husband and "god" or religion, there would have been no hesitation - I would have kicked my husband to the curb. I look back on this and feel an incredible amount of shame for this. I am so grateful that my husband was so patient with me - he was truly a much better person than I was. I often wonder how most people make this kind of a situation work and how often the religious spouse ends up leaving their religion and joining the other side. How has this worked out for some of you? I feel so lucky that we are on the same page now!