A parent feels obliged to pass on family traditions and values that may or may not stand up to the test: does indoctrination yield flourishing?
To answer my own question, indoctrinating a very young pre-school child plants seeds of thought and belief that has the potential to harm an individual child. It also has the potential to provide a foundation upon which to build character.
Is it possible to do both? Raise a child in a community of care and compassion and support even as it builds self-confidence and self-sufficiency?
My experiences inform me that dependence on a faux god is as harmful as raising them to be dependent on others for things they can learn and do for themselves.
My observation reveals anxiety and depression exists in religious adults to a very high degree.
For those who have been raised religiously and as adults realize god does not exist, they often have a difficult time re-orienting themselves.
The process, it seems to me, is to find attributes within themselves to master life's challenges and realize that death is part of being born and living. There is no such thing as heaven or hell. Fear, disposed, can lead to competence, self-respect, and great pride of being part of a much larger universe, that to be alive provides a great opportunity to be fully alive.
Thanks for sharing, Melinda, your upbringing served you well for the challenges you experience. Good job.