The basis of all that seems to me the fact that women were chattels in patriarchal societies, and traces of that idea are everywhere - some women don't even resist! Heard one on TV this week: "Who is going to give me away when my father isn't there at my wedding?" I'd love to kick someone like that.
I remember my mother comparing me to bread with the butter licked off, when she had seen me with a boyfriend. I was lucky: I understood quite early that such things were only said to control me and that it was just a web of lies. I really pity the women who believe that crap!
Chris, it doesn't have to be that way, and we can prove it. I felt pain when you wrote of bread with butter licked off. So subtle, but so sick!
Being able to stand, shoulder to shoulder with another person, or stand alone knowing we have value in our own right is happening. The younger generation in my family have it figured out and I am so grateful. Sadly, far too many young and old do not recognize their own power and value.
Chris, a bouquet of flowers for you in celebration of being a woman free of mindbinding.
Sleep well Joan! I enjoy your friendship very much! For breakfast this about the Kaffir Lily: it's a houseplant here. I found out it originates from Namibia or thereabout, where it grows on the banks of rivers that are dry for half a year, so there's your recipe to keep it happy and growing: no frost, plenty of light, water and compost and no water at all between half October and April. When the stalks of flowers are some 30 cm. high it's time to start watering again. A very easy plant.