1. Define your problem based on available evidence. (No name calling, blaming, accusing; What is, is.)
2. Define your goal, in clear, concrete, specific, descriptive terms.
3. Explore for options that may be available, including winning the lottery, changing oneself by learning new skills.
4. Think, compare and contrast each option, decide on which option has the highest probability of getting where you want to be from where you are.
5. Evaluate outcomes. Is it getting you what you want? If yes, do more of it; if no, choose another option that has a possibility of moving from where you are to where you want to be. "'How is it working for you?"
Are you sick of reading this process? Do you ignore the process? Have you tried to think in this way to form an action plan?
The questions are not for you to answer me, it is offering you a strategy to be more effective and efficient, less helpless and hopeless. Whether you choose to try this is up to you. You are free to ignore or delude yourself about your problems and conflicts. If a delusion is your choice, you have found a process to work for what you think is the situation. If it fails to find a satisfactory solution, and you continue to do it, you will get the same result. STUCK!