Discussions about ethical non-monogamy and relationships.

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Non-theist non-monogamists unite!

2010-5-06 - This section will be updated from time-to-time. Please check back. We'll italicize new information and updated info. for a bit.

Does a double negative make a positive?

Greetings and welcome to the Atheist Nexus polyamory group. This group is for those who are ethically non-monogamous, or who are considering ethical non-monogamy.

Since this group is new and evolving, your input, advice, constructive criticism, monetary donations to support Atheist Nexus (Button pushers, press the Big Green Button to the right of this screen!), etc... are highly appreciated.

Why yet another group for polyamorous people?

I'm glad you asked! The internet is positively hoachin' with poly groups. I (Kit Ann Kaboodle) have been a member of quite a few online groups for polyamorous people over the years, including an email list for non-monogamous people to meet-and-greet in the flesh. I have at times found myself being talked around, or ignored for being an atheist.

After hearing a couple of other people say that they felt marginalized in polyamorous/ethically non-monogamous groups where religious and/or "spiritual, but not religious" people were in the majority, I thought that Atheist Nexus would be a good place for us.

Feel free to invite your friends/acquaintances/other likely potential members.

Moderators: Kit Ann Kaboodle and Pockets.


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Discussion Forum

Unitarian Universalists add "family and relationship structures" to nondiscrimination grounds

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by Joan Denoo Sep 9, 2014. 4 Replies

I was glad to learn that at this summer's General Assembly, the Unitarian Universalist Association expanded its…Continue

Tags: family structure, nonmonogamy, relationship structure, discrimination, nondiscrimination

Monogamy makes males dumb?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Grinning Cat Mar 2, 2014. 1 Reply

Male cognitive performance declines in the absence of sexual selectionEnforced monogamy for over 100…Continue

Tags: monogamy, mental retardation

Fixing my broken sexuality

Started by Ashleigh Carter. Last reply by Darrel Ray Jan 29, 2014. 6 Replies

So I've been an atheist for about six years now and it's only in the few weeks or so that I've come to realize how badly Christianity screwed me up in the relationship department. My husband was very…Continue

What to do with whats in my head???

Started by Dawanna Johnson. Last reply by David Harris Feb 3, 2013. 3 Replies

ok, so i am bisexual and ive been in a monogamous relationship for about 2 years now. only because my boyfriend doesnt agree with open love. but its really starting to affect me. see there is a girl…Continue

Tags: missing, more, love, bisexual, unpleased

Mono-minded researchers strike again

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Steph S. Jul 18, 2012. 4 Replies

A discussion in Atheist Singles lauds monogamy over…Continue

Valentine's Day

Started by ɟǝןıx dǝʇɹɐɹ. Last reply by Catie S. Apr 12, 2012. 2 Replies

Valentine Day is closer. My situation is that my wives stay in separate homes and I have to buy everything double. I was buying the other day two pairs of heart shaped plates and two pairs of heart…Continue

Unicorn hunters, double standards, and sex ratio.

Started by Prog Rock Girl. Last reply by Prog Rock Girl Mar 14, 2012. 13 Replies

A little bit nervous that I'll get flamed for this, but it's been on my mind for awhile.I've been approached too many times by male/female couples looking for an "extra" girl and it's causing me to…Continue

Have you had, or do you have an ideal relationship configuration?

Started by Kit Ann Kaboodle. Last reply by Will Faithless Sophia Feb 19, 2012. 25 Replies

When the cohabi-tater and I got together, we talked about ideal scenarios. Both of us agreed that living in a large house with enough land for gardens and an orchard with other poly people (possibly…Continue

Tags: relationship configurations, or not

Spiritual Poly vs Secular Poly

Started by Pockets. Last reply by Prog Rock Girl Dec 23, 2011. 6 Replies

In the "what does poly mean to you" thread there was a budding side discussion that I thought merited it's own thread. The discussion was on a Polyweekly show where she had a christian who made the…Continue

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Comment by Grinning Cat on September 5, 2013 at 3:38am

Thanks for pointing us to "More than Two", Ruth!

I've only browsed a few articles there, and particularly recommend the one on "game changers" in relationships and in life in general, and the one on how psychology, game theory, and the Prisoner's Dilemma apply to "how to quit worrying and love your partner's other partners".

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on December 25, 2012 at 11:29pm

You might like the More Than Two site. Lots of practical stuff.

Comment by The Big Blue Frog on June 19, 2012 at 1:50pm

It is kind of a slow group. There seem to be more pagan polyamorists out there than there are atheist into poly. I know that's what has kept my wife and I from joining the local poly scene. It's heavily pagan-oriented, and I'm an atheist married to a Christian.

Comment by Joe Meyer on June 8, 2012 at 5:30pm

I just recently joined this group, I have not seen much activity. I was hoping more Atheists's would be into polyamory. I am 59 and have had a few polyamorous relationships.


Comment by Harridan20 on October 6, 2011 at 7:55pm

Hi Everyone,

I just joined the group and I'm happy to know there are other atheist polyamorous people out there. I am 35 years old. I have been an atheist for awhile. I recently decided to remain childfree a few years back. I've been polycurious for a bit. I have researched, read, and met other people who are in polyamorous relationships. I've decided to see if the lifestyle is for me. I hope to meet more of you soon :)

Comment by ɟǝןıx dǝʇɹɐɹ on May 27, 2011 at 5:50am
Why the heck I didn't find this group earlier? I hope I'll have some good advice here.
Comment by Fiery on November 22, 2010 at 9:19pm
*giggles* ah come on Bryan. 69+1 sounds perfect to me!!!!!
Comment by Bryanderthal on November 22, 2010 at 3:12pm
Hi all! Sorry for joining and busting the 69 members total. ;)
Comment by Little Name Atheist on September 1, 2010 at 4:16pm
Welcome to all the new people, and hello to our older members.
Comment by Little Name Atheist on July 25, 2010 at 1:13pm
Oh, and... by the way... 62!

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