Recovering from Religion


Recovering from Religion

Unless you were raised by atheist parents, you probably had some recovering to do when you left religion. The purpose of RR is to provide a landing place for people when they jump from religion. With local support groups throughout the US, Canada, UK, and Australia, and real-time resources accessible to everyone, RR is where to turn when faith has lost its luster.

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In what way are you still recovering from being brought up religious?

Started by Steph S.. Last reply by Richard C Brown Aug 30, 2014. 57 Replies

I was brought up in a fundamentalist family.Anyone still dealing with any issues from religion?Do you fear the result of coming out Atheist to your family?Any thoughts are welcome.Continue

Catholic Family / Atheist Wedding - HELP

Started by Megan. Last reply by tom sarbeck May 31, 2014. 4 Replies

Any one else out there still recovering from Catholic guilt??I come from an extremely Catholic family/upbringing. In 6 days I will be the first person in my entire extended family not to marry a Catholic in a Catholic Church.My biggest source of…Continue

Anyone still deal with anything like this?

Started by Starland Seay. Last reply by Matt Skaggs Aug 26, 2013. 27 Replies

One thing I have noticed is a tendency to "doubt" my new path in life. I still want to reach for the Bible sometimes. I still hesitate somewhat when someone mentions Pascal's "Wager"...LOL! Even though I know that science teaches this and that no…Continue

"Thief in the Night"

Started by cbenhamcox. Last reply by Luara Aug 18, 2013. 2 Replies

Last night I was reading Seth Andrew's book, Deconverted, and I almost fell out of my chair when he discussed being forced to watch the end times film from the 1970's call "A Thief in the Night."  He described some of the scenes, and I had a…Continue

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Comment by Dyslexic's DOG on November 26, 2013 at 5:51am

BTW: Excellent talk on Religion distorting Sexuality Darrel, my wife and I enjoyed it immensely.  We don't have the same depth of problems in Australia with Christianity as many states in the US, though even with almost minimal Christianity influence in our daily lives, social etiquette and the laws are still grossly effected by such irrationality.

Comment by Dyslexic's DOG on November 26, 2013 at 5:29am

I had a very beautiful friend who approached me one time to help her with a very personal problem. She was from an extremely strict Catholic family who were friends with my own family.

She was struggling to tell me what her problem was, especially since we had our family members nearby, so she appeared desperate for some kind of help.

A couple of days later she committed suicide, apparently she was pregnant and never told her parents, she couldn't face them.

If she had asked me to pretend the child was my own and I intended to marry her, or even quickly get married so she would not be in shame and it could have saved her life, I would have.

This is only one of the ways religion has hurt me. 

Had her parents been more accepting of their children's sexuality and let her know that, as we brought up our own children, she would be alive today.

It has been 32 years since her suicide and I still remember the pain in her face as she tried to tell me, but her family grabbed her and she didn't get to tell me.

Another was how the Catholic church would not let an elderly woman return to England, because she left her large property to the Church in her will, of course they knew, they witnessed it. They knew that if she returned to England (where her only remaining relatives lived) she would sell her property and the church would not acquire it. So the church had her committed as mentally incapable of managing her own financial affairs and nominated themselves as being her trustees.  I used to give help her do her groceries and there was nothing psychologically wrong with her.  She even saved enough money for the trip to England and she caught a bus to the city to catch a flight to England and the church had her stopped. 

Yes, we are recovering from religion, for most of our lives, because it ruins nearly every life it touches in some way.

Directly or indirectly.

Comment by Idaho Spud on November 25, 2013 at 7:46pm

That seems to me to be very good advice Joan.

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 25, 2013 at 7:28pm

Spud, why on Earth would you even consider re-marriage at your age. I am 77, soon to turn a year older, and there is no way I would tangle up my life with a government sanctioned marriage. Live with your sweet heart, if you want to, have several sweet hearts if that is your style. Just keep the government out of it is my best advice. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 25, 2013 at 7:26pm

Darrel, you give the best description of religion and family violence I have heard. This information needs to be read and seen and heard in a far wider audience. Please post on Twitter, Facebook, and any other social network. Religion is the root of all family violence! I have no doubt about it! 

The population needs to hear about masturbation, but they need to understand family violence even more. Masturbation is a private event, usually; family violence involves the whole family, education, health delivery, laws and law enforcement and the religious community.

A huge big hug to you! 

Comment by Idaho Spud on November 25, 2013 at 4:17pm

I've been thinking about reading your book.  Perhaps I will.  However, I've wondered how much good it would do at my age (72).  I'm sure I'll never marry again and am very reluctant to let another woman get that close to me.

Comment by Darrel Ray on November 25, 2013 at 3:55pm

Idaho Spud, glad to hear that the talk was useful. There is much much more to think about in Sex and God. I advocate doing a thorough cleaning of the religious bullshit so that you can begin building positive sexual skills. The last five chapters of the book are designed to help start the process of cleaning.

Comment by Idaho Spud on November 25, 2013 at 3:39pm

Darrel, I very much liked your talk at Little Rock.  

Since leaving mormonism my viewpoints about sex have changed dramatically.  I now reason the way you do about sex.  

I was glad to hear you say that we suffer considerable harm because of our religious indoctrination about sex.  My sex life has been quite miserable, so I've been thinking a lot of it was due to religion, but have had no source to back me up.  


Comment by Rich Goss on November 25, 2013 at 8:39am

"Did Jesus Masturbate, talk at Reason in the Rock, Arkansas in Oct.”

To the academic and theoretical question above, I’d have to express the opinion: definitely not.  Remember to be a suitable sacrifice to God the Father to even consider it, the victim had to be absolutely perfect, sinless and guilt free. 

Jesus wasn’t even human enough to be born naturally through the birth canal.  I’m sure if the savior choked the chicken even once, God the Father would have been really distraught and dismayed, and the whole redemption process would have been blown.  In other words, humans would have had no chance of being saved, and we’d all be destined to eternal fire.   

Good thing they didn’t have porno in those days.



Comment by Darrel Ray on November 24, 2013 at 11:03pm

Here are a couple of talks I have given on Sex and Secularism.

Did Jesus Masturbate, talk at Reason in the Rock, Arkansas in Oct.

My talk at the 2012 American Atheist convention, Washington, DC.


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