Recovering from Religion


Recovering from Religion

Unless you were raised by atheist parents, you probably had some recovering to do when you left religion. The purpose of RR is to provide a landing place for people when they jump from religion. With local support groups throughout the US, Canada, UK, and Australia, and real-time resources accessible to everyone, RR is where to turn when faith has lost its luster.

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Religious Trauma Syndrome (RTS)

Started by Steph S. Jun 8, 2015. 0 Replies

This is a good website for help in recovering from religion of Religious Trauma Syndrome:• Cognitive: Confusion, poor critical thinking ability, negative beliefs about…Continue

In what way are you still recovering from being brought up religious?

Started by Steph S.. Last reply by Richard C Brown Aug 30, 2014. 57 Replies

I was brought up in a fundamentalist family.Anyone still dealing with any issues from religion?Do you fear the result of coming out Atheist to your family?Any thoughts are welcome.Continue

Catholic Family / Atheist Wedding - HELP

Started by Megan. Last reply by tom sarbeck May 31, 2014. 4 Replies

Any one else out there still recovering from Catholic guilt??I come from an extremely Catholic family/upbringing. In 6 days I will be the first person in my entire extended family not to marry a Catholic in a Catholic Church.My biggest source of…Continue

Anyone still deal with anything like this?

Started by Starland Seay. Last reply by Matt Skaggs Aug 26, 2013. 27 Replies

One thing I have noticed is a tendency to "doubt" my new path in life. I still want to reach for the Bible sometimes. I still hesitate somewhat when someone mentions Pascal's "Wager"...LOL! Even though I know that science teaches this and that no…Continue

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Comment by Lillie on August 11, 2013 at 9:05am

Thanks, Brandon.  My fragile friend did not bring up the topic, my other non-fragile friend did.  My fragile friend does have a very strong family support system so she will probably survive.  I do feel some sense of relief that I didn't just "go along" with the conversation of a god directed universe.  When the topic came up, I just immediately started shaking my head "no" without even thinking.

A comical  thing did happen that brought a chuckle.  My fragile friend told me that she knew some people who knew an atheist.  I told her that now she knew an atheist.

Comment by Brandon Givens on August 10, 2013 at 12:23pm

Hi Lillie,

You shouldn't feel guilty if they brought it up, even if you got a little joy from the conversation. There's no reason you should live your life afraid that you'll destroy someone's fragile psyche by challenging their worldview.

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 10, 2013 at 12:15pm
Lillie, I agree with you 100%.
Comment by Lillie on August 10, 2013 at 12:12pm

Thank you all for your responses.  If I did not have a purpose you would have certainly inspired me.

Comment by Lillie on August 10, 2013 at 12:11pm

Sorry I did not make this clear.  I certainly have a sense of purpose in my life.  I was referring to the fact that the universe itself has no purpose but individual homo sapiens get to choose their own purpose.  The essence of my comment was this terrible feeling of guilt I feel for telling my fragile friend that I am an atheist.

Comment by James M. Martin on August 10, 2013 at 12:30am

The best place and time is winter in rural Arizona or New Mexico. The skies are just unbelievable.  I once drove a couple of times a year from L.A. to Corpus Christi and always stopped if only to pee along the roads in those states and in winter, especially, the skies are just alive.  Crowley experienced his "Star Sponge" vision on a lake in New Jersey and described it as "Nothingness...with twinkles."  I think it is the same sky Meursault gazed up at and surrendered to when he described it from his prison cell as "the benign indifference of the universe." 

Comment by Rich Goss on August 10, 2013 at 12:11am

Excellent posts Joan and James.  I would contribute by saying to Lilly, go out in deep, dark night to where you can get a clear view of the cosmos.  I don’t know where you live but I live on the Gulf Coast and Siesta Beach at night is something wondrous to behold.  Most people in the world can’t even see the cosmos at all. They've been robbed, anesthetized, obtunded by modern technology.  The stars have been taken from us.    

When you get a chance, stare and concentrate on the heavens and ask yourself:  What purpose can it all have?   

It just is.  Fuck purpose.  Enjoy it.


Comment by Joan Denoo on August 9, 2013 at 8:15pm
I don't think we are given a purpose by some supernatural being. Whatever purpose we find in life comes from within. Just think of the sensory organs you have, sight, sound, smell, taste, touch, emotions. These each offer opportunities to define your purpose. Others can't do it for you; purpose comes from within and it is your job to bring it to life. Our job is to observe you as you give expression to those thoughts, feeling, emotions in ways that work for you. Your mind, body and emotions exist as your personal sets of tools and only you can develop them.
Comment by James M. Martin on August 9, 2013 at 6:55pm

Lillie, it is not necessary to think the world has no purpose to be atheist.  I find plenty of purpose.  Your work is your purpose.  Helping others is purpose.  Experiencing joy in nature just as it is, at the wonders of science, all are purpose.  I dislike it when believers claim that because we are atheists we are necessarily nihilists.  Nihilism posits purposelessness.  If you stop to think about it, you probably will realize that you have purpose.  Being alive is its own purpose.

Comment by Lillie on August 9, 2013 at 10:41am

I keep thinking I am making good progress in recovering from religion and then I have a little setback.  I recently had lunch with two childhood friends with whom I maintain a very close relationship.  I had not shared my atheism with them in the past and I am sure they considered me to be a very strong believer.  I had no intention of sharing my atheism with them on this recent occasion but it came up unexpectedly. Somehow the topic of conversation turned to the world having purpose at which I replied there is no purpose in the world.  This conversation revealed I am an atheist and they were shocked.  Of course, they immediately tried to convince me otherwise but I was able to easily trump them on this.

Now, here is the setback.  I feel guilty.  One of my friends has tried almost every religion known to man so I am not concerned for her emotional well being.  However, I consider the second one to be very emotionally fragile and to need the comfort of religion for her emotional well being.  I really would never have brought up the topic of religion around her and now feel badly that the topic came up.


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